https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 01:20:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-281595 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 13:05:07 +0000 plantains 281595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsdaredevil: my DD is anti bottle too. So tiring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-281021 Tue, 04 Sep 2012 00:04:27 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 281021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH can't put DD to bed at all. We try, but she starts screaming the moment he walks into her bedroom with her. She wont even let him try to put her down. We are working on its because putting her down for every single nap during the day and for bed every single night is exhausting. She doesn't take a bottle either. Yikes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-281000 Mon, 03 Sep 2012 22:49:55 +0000 Freckles 281000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: that's our routine as well! @cvbee: i feel your pain! i wonder if having him put her down a few days in a row will help. that's my plan once LO gets used to being at home (we've been away for 5 weeks). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-280191 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 23:51:21 +0000 plantains 280191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmmm,I will have to get DH more involved in bedtime to avoid this. He does bathtime and then I do the nursing and rocking. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-280149 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 22:34:54 +0000 erwoo 280149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Consistency is key. These little ones dislike change. Even at 3 y.o. now he still doesn't like change, but he will tell me what I'm not doing right. Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-279908 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 17:23:41 +0000 cvbee 279908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As we speak, DH is doing bedtime routine. Lord help him, as I want to be able to go to yoga once a week in the evenings again. The last 2 times I came home to a traumatized DH and traumatized LO, both out of their minds, one crying, and none sleeping. It is not exactly relaxing to go to yoga and think that this is happening while I'm gone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-279836 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 16:11:12 +0000 cvbee 279836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caffeinated: I am in the same boat. :( My LO is 4.5 months too </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-279810 Sun, 02 Sep 2012 14:38:26 +0000 Freckles 279810@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the advice! The day after i posted this, DH had to put her down because she woke up an hour after i left to go out for the night (it is like they know!) it took about 20 minutes, but eventually she went down. </p> <p>@mrbee: She is really good throughout the routine (i am usually there) until he cradles her. Then she screams like crazy. We blame it on his one week absence, during which time she went through a sleep regression.</p> <p>@Andrea: @Honeybee: @looch: may have to keep doing it together until she gets used to him putting her down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274567 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 11:56:27 +0000 Sammyfab 274567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No preference! Both of us can put LO down for bed without problems. It definitely helped that we did the 'hand off' to dad after nursing starting very early (5-6 weeks old). We started giving a bottle at bedtime at 10 weeks and both of us can do the entire bedtime routine alone without any problems. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274526 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 11:24:57 +0000 Honeybee 274526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both kids have had a preference for me putting them down when they were little. With DD, it got a lot better when she got older (like 8/9 months) and I'm sure that will happen with DS, too.</p> <p>If you can, try both of you doing the routine for a while, and then start trying to switch off. That way, you can make sure both of you do it the exact same way and that she gets used to your husband being around/participating in the nighttime routine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274266 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 07:48:10 +0000 regberadaisy 274266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caffeinated: M is 4 months and I won't say she has a preference for me...it's more my boob. We really need to stop it soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274257 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 07:37:55 +0000 Andrea 274257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: Glad you are finally getting a break!! We laugh about how detailed my instructions were now but I did know exactly how long everything took, minute by minute. I think it is helpful for someone who has never done it before, though. When my mom came to babysit, she could put DD down with no issues either. Kids like their routines more than anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274254 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 07:33:29 +0000 Rubies 274254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was the only person who put LO down from birth until 10 months. Then I realized how crazy it was so a few months ago I started having hubs do it and like @Andrea, I had to leave REALLY detailed instructions for the hubs. Now, at 13 months, LO will go to bed easily no matter who is putting her to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274232 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 06:50:26 +0000 heffalump 274232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had that problem at that age too. I get severe migraines so I needed DH to be able to put her to sleep. Literally, they're so bad that I have to go to the ER sometimes so I don't know what we would do if I wasn't there. And really, everyone should be prepared for these types of emergencies.</p> <p>We did a family bed time for awhile, and LO got used to having DH in the room with us. First he was just there and helped get her ready for bed by doing the bath, getting her in pj's, etc. and then I would give her the bottle and put her down while he sat there with us. After about a week of that we tried him giving her the bottle while I stayed. Sometimes she was fine with it, sometimes she wasn't and I would just take her back. We didn't want her to fuss during bed time, we wanted it to be a nice, calm experience. We just kept at it until eventually she was fine with not only him taking her for the full bedtime, but I could leave the room and not be there at all. Now we do it every other night so she'll stay used to both of us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274231 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 06:48:57 +0000 looch 274231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband does the night put down and I do the naps. It hasn't caused any problems, I've done it on nights when my husband has worked late and he's done it on weekends when I am out.</p> <p>I'd have your husband keep trying. Try making the routine as simple as possible so there are as few variations as possible, that is what helped us a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274226 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 06:44:48 +0000 Andrea 274226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We experienced this when DD was a few months old. DH kept at it and after a week or so ... DD was fine being put down by him. I also gave him step-by-step instructions on how I put her to sleep. Literally. For example - I said do this at 6:04 pm and it should only take until 6:07 pm and then at you do this until 6:12 pm etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274191 Wed, 29 Aug 2012 01:04:32 +0000 mrbee 274191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does your LO exhibit a preference during other routines like bathtime or morning wake ups? Babies can develop an overall parent preference that only comes out during certain routines... that may be what is happening here.</p> <p>Also, your DH may be doing the bedtime ritual slightly differently than you. Sometimes it's not a parental preference but more of a routine preference.</p> <p>Good luck!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274152 Tue, 28 Aug 2012 22:15:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 274152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it is super important to establish bedtime with both of you so that it can either one of you.</p> <p>Mr. Bee wrote a great post about it, it's geared specifically toward toddlers but most of his strategies would work for babies too.<br /> <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2011/12/27/three-ways-to-counter-a-toddlers-mommy-preference/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2011/12/27/three-ways-to-counter-a-toddlers-mommy-preference/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/putting-lo-down-to-sleepdoes-it-matter-who-does-it#post-274131 Tue, 28 Aug 2012 21:47:39 +0000 Freckles 274131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Help!! Ever since a few weeks ago, we discovered that LO (4.5 months) will only fall asleep if i put her down.</p> <p>We have been slowly working on it, and she will fight DH a bit when he puts her down for a nap, but will eventually go down. But bedtime is a totally different story. Today DH did the entire nighttime routine but when it came time to rocking her to sleep (the last part of our routine) she started screaming. I left the house and came back 30 minutes later to find her still crying! Each time he tried to put her down, she would look around and then start wailing. For the sake of her sleep i took over and puther down in 5 minutes.</p> <p>I am afraid that if we dont fix this soon, i will never be able to leave the house during bedtime. Should DH commit to getting her to sleep, even if it takes an hour? If he hands her to me after unsuccessfully getting her to sleep, will it signal to her that eventually she will get mom? Anyone experience this before? </p>