https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:21:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148174 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 21:11:42 +0000 QueensBee 2148174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Charm54: Yes, I worry that it will bug me to have a nanny around the house all day! I hope I really like her, or it could get annoying. We can't cut back on the amount of days midway through the year without losing a decent amount of money. But, we will consider sending him 3 days/week and hiring a nanny for the other 2 days. It just feels...complicated! But, that could be the best option.</p> <p>@regberadaisy: In a perfect world, I would have a nanny AND send him to this daycare from 9-3pm but I definitely can't afford that! Our daycare will only do full days, not half-days or hourly. But, we may send him 3 days/week and do a nanny for the other two.</p> <p>@NeekieRose: Congratulations on your new addition! I'm so happy you are finding it manageable to be home with two! I had a coworker tell me the same thing, that it was really nice for her to be home with both by herself. We'll have to pay for the daycare while I'm home on leave or we'll lose our spot there, or nanny (probably), so I feel like I'll use the childcare since we're forced to pay for it. But it's always reassuring to hear that life with two is possible! </p> <p>@travellingbee: :happy: Haha, I have been dragging my feet for months but I think it's time! I hope we can both be part of the "Winter/Spring 2016 Mamas" group next year! :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148123 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 19:49:20 +0000 NeekieRose 2148123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only 3 weeks into my maternity leave with DD#2, but we pulled our 17 month old daughter out of daycare for maternity leave. I couldn't justify paying for daycare while home. So far it is working out wonderfully. I love having time with both my girls. We are lucky in that the new baby is a great sleeper and I am not exhausted, but I just wanted to chime in and say that it is possible to have both kids home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148086 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 18:55:00 +0000 regberadaisy 2148086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Have you considered keeping LO in daycare but taking him down to pt and then having a part time nanny?</p> <p>I think that will be least disruptive and what I would choose! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148063 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 18:25:09 +0000 Charm54 2148063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Option 1, I hate having people in my house when I'm trying to get stuff done.</p> <p>Could he go part time? I'll have a year mat leave, DD will go to daycare 3x a week and stay home with me and the new baby the other 2 days </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148062 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 18:24:03 +0000 Adira 2148062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QueensBee: Ahh, I gotcha. I would say to move him either a few months before the new baby or a few months after! What you don't want to do is make a change right around when the baby is born - that's just too many changes at one time and will be stressful for him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148046 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 17:56:23 +0000 travellingbee 2148046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm clearly not a mom of 2 yet but I just wanted to pop in and say :grin: yaaaaayyyy for starting to TTC #2!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2148044 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 17:52:15 +0000 QueensBee 2148044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: @Adira: I would totally agree with that! Except... we are going to have change him at some point. Our daycare is $2400/month and there's just no possible way we can send two kids there. So, it's a matter of whether we move to the nanny/nursery school model this September (before #2), or the following September (after hypothetical #2 arrives). Gah, I don't know! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147883 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 14:28:31 +0000 Adira 2147883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: This is such a good point.</p> <p>If your LO is in daycare full-time and likes it, definitely keep him in daycare, in my opinion! It's hard enough for a toddler to adjust to suddenly having a sibling and no longer being the center of their parents' world, but to ALSO disrupt their normal routine?? Don't do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147862 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 14:19:59 +0000 blackbird 2147862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Option 1. I would not want to take a 2 year old out of daycare and change his/her routine to a nanny. That sounds so stressful </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147834 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:57:37 +0000 Mamasig 2147834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QueensBee: one of the reasons I liked having him at home is that I work full time so this was extra time with him too. I never felt cheated either way. I felt like I got to enjoy both my boys while I was on leave. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147799 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:40:42 +0000 Greentea 2147799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Option 2 for several reasons: you don't have to worry about getting out the door and you can send the nanny to do things with LO1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147770 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:30:47 +0000 Adira 2147770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QueensBee: If you went with the daycare option, I'd have your husband do drop-offs with LO1 for at least the first couple weeks while you're feeding the baby every 2 hours and totally sleep deprived. Then maybe you can split it and you take it over completely once you're not so exhausted! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147769 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:30:39 +0000 Mamaof2 2147769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QueensBee: If he is in FT care right now I would do option 1. This new little sibling could rock his world and I think consistency is key! I loved spending maternity leave with just my NB - it was so nice to bond with her alone.</p> <p>I didn't do it for years but from weeks 3-14 I had to take my NB with me to drop off DS at DCP - it was doable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147761 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:29:05 +0000 QueensBee 2147761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@edelweiss: I totally worry about this! LO is so clingy and such a mama's boy when he's home with me. </p> <p>@Anagram: And I thought about this too! Like, it would be nice to take LO to his soccer classes while nanny is home with infant. That's something that I never get to do with him since I WOH, and I'd really enjoy having that option! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147755 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:26:46 +0000 QueensBee 2147755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks so much for the feedback, everyone! </p> <p>@Adira: DH can take him but he needs to be on 7:25am train and it takes about 35 minutes to do the dropoff. So, he has to be out the door with LO by 6:45am and it's... difficult! He has a two hour commute, and a long work day, so I'd love to eliminate the daycare drop off for him while I'm home on leave, if possible. But yes, he technically could do it, or we could split it a few days each?</p> <p>@Mamaof2: He is in FT daycare now. It's a sweet little Montessori school that he adores and he does so well there. I wonder if he'll be bored at home if we cut back?</p> <p>@skipra: Good point! I'd love to have more time with him, as it is! I guess I just don't know if I'll feel the same way when I'm sleep deprived...</p> <p>@Baby Boy Mom: Good to hear your experience that it got easier to get out the door around 4 months! Thanks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147746 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:22:42 +0000 Anagram 2147746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do the nanny, but probably part time to save money and then switch to full time once I was back at work. With a nanny, you have the flexibility to hang with your older LO while the nanny watches the baby for a couple of hours or vice versa. Or you can have the nanny watch both during nap time and you can go relax/sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147745 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:22:09 +0000 edelweiss 2147745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'm not a mom of two yet, but several of my friends did option #2 and said it was really hard because the eldest still wanted attention. my friends had to hole up in the house somewhere unless eldest and the nanny were out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147741 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:18:51 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2147741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like the second option better. The first couple months I would not have wanted to rush out of the house when I was totally sleep deprived. As hard as it was with both of them all day, the little one napped a lot and LO1 learned that he would get lots of attention whenever possible. That said, he did start preschool at the 4 month mark and that was awesome! By then I was more able to get out of the house with them both in the morning and it was great having time at home with just the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147735 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:15:28 +0000 Mamaof2 2147735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@QueensBee: is your DS in FT care right now? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147734 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:15:17 +0000 Mamasig 2147734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I basically had your second option - except my mom was the nanny. She took care of DS1 until he went to preschool/daycare and now she takes care of DS2. </p> <p>When I was on maternity leave, dS1 hadn't started preschool yet so he was still at home. I loved being with both of them! My mom kept him entertained if I needed to tend to the baby. But then there were times I left the baby with my mom and did solo activities with DS1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147727 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:11:28 +0000 skipra 2147727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would go with the nanny option. I SAH and love the time with both kids. I would hate missing out on all the time with LO1 if he were in daycare full time. Plus having someone else around the house would be a great help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147724 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 13:07:32 +0000 Adira 2147724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can your husband not help with drop-off or pick-up with LO#1?</p> <p>For us, Xander continued going to daycare full-time while I was on maternity leave, but my husband would bring him and often picked him up too, though the times I had to pick him up, it wasn't too big of a deal. I'm soooooo glad he was still in daycare and I got to spend my days bonding with my new baby! Even with a nanny home with him, I imagine he would want my attention a ton and it would be hard to fully focus on the newborn. I'd keep him in daycare! The mornings and evenings will be a little more hectic, but that time in between where you can focus 100% on your little baby will be priceless! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-moms-of-2#post-2147716 Fri, 17 Apr 2015 12:58:15 +0000 QueensBee 2147716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a 2yo son and we are thinking about TTC for #2 in the next few months. In the meantime, I have to sort out LO's daycare for next September because the contracts and $900 deposit are due at the end of April for our current center. </p> <p>I am considering two options (continue at current daycare center full time or switch to a nanny and nursery school combo). I've made pro and con lists for both options and they basically even out. The one unknown is that I have no idea what situation would be preferable if I end up on a maternity leave next year. So, I'm asking you for opinions! </p> <p>What option would you have preferred during the first 6 months home with your second child?</p> <p>Option 1: LO#1 at full time daycare while home with newborn. This means I'd have to get newborn and toddler out the door each morning to drop him off and pick him up, but then I'd be home alone with infant for the day. </p> <p>Option 2: Nanny and LO#1 are home with me and infant for most of the day. Nanny takes LO#1 to nursery school for 2 hours a day/three days a week but other than that, we are all in the house together. </p> <p>Of course there are many other factors I have to weigh but I'm just curious to hear the experiences of those that have done this already. Any advice is greatly appreciated!</p> <p>Thanks!! </p>