https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 08:37:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-854624 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 11:43:02 +0000 NovBaby1112 854624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>not too sure about the separation anxiety thing because we aren't there yet, but we sleep trained 3 weeks ago and now DD is sick, so we've had more night wakings and needing to be rocked/etc. i was worried that i was just setting us back again, but at the same time, i cant just let my sick baby cry! not sure if this is helpful or not, but i found this article while doing some research on getting back on track after illness and they have a section regarding separation anxiety:</p> <p><a href="http://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/teach-baby-to-sleep-through-the-night/" rel="nofollow">http://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/issues/teach-baby-to-sleep-through-the-night/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-853240 Thu, 13 Jun 2013 01:53:53 +0000 sandy 853240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We went through that phase too around 12 months and like others said it lasted maybe a week or two. I think babies who were sleep trained go through the phase faster bc parents tend to let them work it out and they go back to sleeping easily pretty quickly. My LO is going through another phase at 19 months...but like others said, she cries when we leave, then fusses and sometimes cries again but always puts herself to sleep and sleeps all night...I watch her on the monitor and comfort her she is very upset </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852989 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:16:49 +0000 lovehoneybee 852989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've definitely gone through this phase fairly recently. It lasted a week or two. During that time one or both of us would sit in his room with him. Wouldn't touch him, wouldn't interact with him, just sit and look at him so we knew we were there. He would eventually settle down and fall back asleep. Wasn't perfect and didn't work every time but it got us through the worst of it. </p> <p>I also wouldn't worry too much about him forming bad habits. It's a rough time and we just tried to be there for him however. The worst passed, and we didn't have to retrain him, his sleep went right back to normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852978 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 22:07:57 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 852978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: 1. I think it's a phase. Fx, it's a phase! 2. I like to make E feel like I'm in there, when I'm not. For example, I rub his back and sing to him. If I stop rubbing, I have to keep singing so, I stop rubbing but keep singing as I inch further and further away. Then as soon as I close the door and stop singing: he screams. So, I just leave the door open and walk down the hallway, still singing. The further I get, the louder I get so he can still hear me. It works for us! I drift off and he stays asleep. Worth a try?<br /> Also, mrs.Bee said she used a sock full of rice on Olive's back, to make her feel like it was her mother's hand on her back! Combine the singing with the rice trick and maybe he won't notice? You've to do something to get through the phase. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852531 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:52:01 +0000 erwoo 852531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a phase. At least in my experience. Both of my boys did that around that age. My youngest at 14-months still cries for a few seconds when I put him down for either naps or for the night. I just listen and watch over the monitor and he usually stops on his own. I never go back in unless he's been crying for 15-20 mins and only for nap time. He never cried for that long at night. The amount of time he cries does decrease. Hope this is the case for you too! It does get better... Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852520 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:48:27 +0000 Running Elley 852520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: That gives me hope! Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852517 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:47:44 +0000 Lindsay05 852517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Running Elley: Maybe a week? Two tops. It was painful and thought she would never go back to sleep quietly again then one day she just did it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852511 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:45:13 +0000 Running Elley 852511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: That's what I'm figuring too. Do you happen to remember how long it lasted?</p> <p>@LaineysMom: Ugh :( I feel you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852503 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:40:37 +0000 Lindsay05 852503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember DD went through a phase where she wouldhave to CIO again. Not sure what the deal was and it was tough. We just stuck to our guns and reminded her that it was bed/nap time. We figure doing the opposite may do more harm than good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852480 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:27:19 +0000 LaineysMom 852480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Subscribing.. My LO used to be so easy. We never had to sleep train, because she just went to sleep. The last two weeks she freaks out when I leave the room and when she wakes up and I'm not there she starts bawling.. I feel your pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/question-for-those-who-sleep-trained-before-separation-anxiety#post-852463 Wed, 12 Jun 2013 18:19:05 +0000 Running Elley 852463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we sleep trained Elliot at 5.5 months he's been going to sleep by himself as soon as we put him down for bed after his bedtime routine. We nap trained at 7.5 months and he's been going down really easy since then as well.</p> <p>Well, he's 8 months old now and I think that separation anxiety has struck. For the past week he screams bloody murder as soon as we put him down for both bedtime and naps. He's basically CIO every time that we put him down to sleep and it's not getting better. As soon as one of us goes in there he calms down. Last night DH stood by his bed with his hand on his back and E went to sleep with him in there.</p> <p>What should I do?? It's torture making him CIO every single time (it's taken less than half an hour for naps but it feels like forever) but I don't want him to start a bad habit up again. Help! </p>