https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 23:45:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957711 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 20:56:08 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 957711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerk: So sorry for your loss. Hope all goes well with your D&amp;C &amp; you recover well. It not easy &amp; just plan sucks. HB is a great community &amp; many of us have been through it. ((HUGS)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957693 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 20:50:25 +0000 mrsbookworm 957693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry @gingerk </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957403 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 18:50:49 +0000 avivoca 957403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerk: I am so very sorry for your loss. ***hugs*** </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957388 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 18:36:40 +0000 singingbee 957388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerk: hugs :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957384 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 18:32:55 +0000 LovelyPlum 957384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for you. Both of mine were natural and early, but it seems like you made a good choice. Please know that we are here for you! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957346 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 18:19:13 +0000 Running Elley 957346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerk: Big big hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-957336 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 18:12:55 +0000 gingerk 957336@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to thank everyone for their kindness. It's very much appreciated. I did have another ultrasound and there is no growth or heartbeat. I have a D&amp;C scheduled for Friday that I'm hoping my DH can be here for. Thank you all again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-937428 Wed, 17 Jul 2013 01:40:37 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 937428@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you are going through this :( When my original OBGYN diagnosed a missed mc last year, he sent me right away to an ultrasound specialist who was able to show me that there was no blood activity in our little one. Getting a 2'nd opinion really helped me. I think it's totally reasonable to ask for a 2'nd ultrasound. </p> <p>As for whether or not to get a D&amp;C if needed: For my first MC my doctor recommended it b/c my body hadn't begun the process on it's own. I just followed his recommendation. I was scared, but it wasn't bad at all, I was put under for it. </p> <p>Please keep us posted. ::hugs:: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-937205 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 21:43:27 +0000 autumnlove 937205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry about this. :-( thinking of you </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-937201 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 21:40:27 +0000 SweetiePie 937201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you are going through this. When my doctor declared no heartbeat at 8.5 weeks she automatically referred me to a "free standing" ultrasound clinic (not sure what its actually called, but like a place that does nothing but MRIs, x rays, ultrasounds, etc). She called and got me in that day immediately after my appt with her so that they could confirm it.<br /> I think the fact that my doctor proactively sought a second opinion at another facility is proof that its possible one doctor/machine could be wrong while another is right. </p> <p>Now I'm not trying to get hopes up, because I don't know statistics of this being possible. But to me I'd feel better getting a second opinion before proceeding.<br /> But I guess they do probably do an ultrasound before a D&amp;C to locate everything (I asked to be knocked out before I even got to the OR so I'm not sure what they did after that). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-937169 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 21:14:07 +0000 Jellyfish 937169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:sad: I'm so sorry you are going through this. Personally, I would ask for another ultrasound and blood work. Early on the heartbeat is sometimes tricky to find...I also had spotting often so although not "normal" it's not unusual in pregnancy. Sending lots of good thoughts your way! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936574 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 17:47:06 +0000 futuremama 936574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you have to go through this. In addition to another u/s, you could have your dr. check on your betas. If your HCg isn't doubling every other day, you'll know that your baby is gone. I truly hope that there was a huge mixup with the u/s. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936552 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 17:36:46 +0000 singingbee 936552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We miscarried at 20 weeks after 5 ultrasounds of seeing the baby move and the heartbeat. We found out there was no heartbeat at our 20 week appointment/ultrasound. I didn't ask for another right before because I already saw and knew it was different than the previous ultrasounds. I had to deliver that night because I was so far along. I'm so sorry for all that your are going through. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936531 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 17:27:00 +0000 lilteacherbee 936531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went through the same thing last summer (a year ago next week actually). I went in for my first ultrasound and baby measured 9 weeks, right on track, but no heartbeat. I was DEVASTATED. I decided to do a D&amp;C the next day because I knew I couldn't emotionally handle the waiting. </p> <p>I did, however, ask my doctor to do another ultrasound before we left (the first one was done by an ultrasound tech). She confirmed that there was no heartbeat and no movement. I completely understand your need for a second opinion.</p> <p>We did testing on the baby to see if they could find out what the cause was. Our baby had a chromosome abnormality, Turner Sydrome, where only one of her X chromosomes were formed. 99% of these babies are miscarried. For me, it helped to know this information. Since we knew she was a girl, we named her and that helped the healing process.</p> <p>If you have any questions or want to talk, I'm here. I've been there and I know how badly it sucks. Big, big hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936521 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 17:22:23 +0000 Mrs. Twine 936521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be fine to ask for another ultrasound if you feel like it would be helpful to you. I hope you are right and it was a mistake. You are in my thoughts-- I can only imagine how hard it is to hear such heartbreaking news. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936503 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 17:11:42 +0000 LindsayInNY 936503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>((Hugs)) No advice personally but I know there are other bee's who have been in similar situations and give wonderful advice. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936478 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:54:49 +0000 Mrs.Someone 936478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you're going through this! I agree with everyone else, get a second opinion. Its a good sign that you've seen a heartbeat in the past and that you're not bleeding now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936456 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:45:14 +0000 LaineysMom 936456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerk: gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through this! If I were you I would seek a second opinion just for piece of mind.. **hugs** </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936373 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:06:28 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 936373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice, but just wanted to let you know I'm sorry you are having to go through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936363 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:01:12 +0000 Running Elley 936363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerk: I'm so sorry :( Personally, if I had any extra doubt or concern in my mind I would ask my doctor for another U/S. Just for peace of mind. *Hugs!* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936362 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 16:00:46 +0000 Dandelion 936362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I personally would ask for another ultrasound.</p> <p>I'm sending a big internet hug to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936356 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 15:58:33 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 936356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry that this has happened. I have no advice and I know it must be hard to wrap your head around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/questionsneed-advice#post-936346 Tue, 16 Jul 2013 15:54:24 +0000 gingerk 936346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi everyone. I haven't posted here in awhile, but I have been lurking since I got a BFP a few weeks ago. I went in for my first appointment today and got an ultrasound. The baby measured right on track for 9 weeks, but the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat. I'm having a really hard time dealing with this, especially because DH is away for work. </p> <p>What's making it harder is that on the 4th I went to urgent care and had an ultrasound, because I was worried about some brown spotting. It wasn't much at all. I was told spotting is normal and the baby had a very good heartbeat. I haven't had spotting since. Now there's no heartbeat at all? I just can't wrap my head around it. </p> <p>The doctor told me I need to decide if I want to have a D&amp;C or let it happen naturally. But I can't seem to accept that my baby is really gone. Part of me is still holding out hope that maybe everything is fine. Maybe my tipped uterus is messing things up or something else I don't know about.</p> <p>Am I being crazy? Should I ask for another ultrasound? Or should I not put myself through more pain and make a decision about the D&amp;C? I'm so heartbroken and I know I'm not thinking right. </p>