https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 11:02:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888172 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 15:35:17 +0000 wrkbrk 2888172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: um no one? Lol. I’d have to stay home.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888159 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 14:09:46 +0000 krispi 2888159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm lucky to work from home full time, so that gives me a lot of flexibility. If it was a day that I HAD to be in the office (pretty rare - only certain conferences and things), my parents and MIL are all local, so they'd be the first people I'd call. </p> <p>My work also offers a back-up care benefit for emergencies, either dropping off at a center or providing someone in home. I've never had to use it because of the flexibility above, but I suppose I could if it was an absolute emergency. </p> <p>My husband doesn't really travel for work, and I have minimal days where I'm required to be in the office, so thankfully for us, we don't run across emergency situations very often. That's a big reason for me to stay in this job, even when I get frustrated with it. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888141 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 12:05:33 +0000 delight 2888141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lucky for us both moms are in town. They help out when kids are sick. DH is a teacher and has cAre days so if they can’t help he stays home. I am the last option because I am self employed so a missed day is loss income for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888129 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 11:23:22 +0000 MrsSCB 2888129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they’re sick, it’ll be one of us. My parents live close by, but I’m not asking them to watch sick kids, unless it’s something not contagious. I get 12 sick days and 12 vacation days a year. If daycare is closed, my work participates I’m the bright horizons backup care program, which is a lifesaver! We get 15 days of backup care per year, for $15 per day.</p> <p>ETA: if our preschool is closed for random days, not actual holidays, our former home daycare provider may be able to take them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888118 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 09:49:33 +0000 Mama Bird 2888118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>And this is why neither of us travels out of town unless it's a family vacation :bummed: When this happens, 99% of the time I stay home and work from home. If I have to physically be in the office, DH has to take time off, but the bar for him doing that is pretty high. "I have a deadline and a conference call and if I don't respond to my client on time during the day we won't be able to schedule a big job for tomorrow" doesn't cut it. He'll only stay home if I have a face-to-face meeting that can't be rescheduled. My parents live close by, but asking them is not an option for a bunch of reasons, including that I don't think they've built up as much immunity to our kids' germs and they'd also get sick.</p> <p>I'm very grateful to be on leave at the moment... not looking forward to going back to all that!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888117 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 09:45:17 +0000 yerpie110 2888117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First, ask my nanny to extend her hours, which she is able to do 95% of the time, even on short notice. Second, my mom who lives 5 minutes away and is retired. Third, my in laws who live 30 minutes away and are both retired. I generally will take half a sick day and split it with my nanny. DH job is also very flexible so sometime he and I will split days as well. If my kids are healthy, I can also bring them to work with me. We are lucky. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888116 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 09:08:40 +0000 skiierchck99 2888116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Uhh...nobody - I'd take a sick day. If it was a can't miss workday (and for me, there are few that are non-negotiable) I'd probably ask to see if my neighbor's nanny could take her, but there really is no plan b....even if my family was closer, they all work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888101 Wed, 19 Jun 2019 00:37:51 +0000 Sapphiresun 2888101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm lucky to have a pretty deep roster.<br /> If the kids are sick, I'd take a family care day (which DH and I each have 5/year).<br /> Then my parents live 8 minutes away. My mom does shift work and my dad is self employed so often that works.<br /> If not, I've got a cousin on maternity leave, one that works 3 days per week and one that's self employed 15 minutes away.<br /> If that still fails, my parents sisters are 30 minutes away, and all four are retired.<br /> With more notice, DH's parents are 2 hours away and could come stay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888095 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 23:06:30 +0000 Beebeeholiday 2888095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The kids are sick? </p> <p>Then I would stay home.</p> <p>My parents are close, but won’t watch my kids when they are sick. My sister is close, but has an infant and won’t expose him to sick germs, either.</p> <p>If kids were healthy I’d ask either my parents or sister. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p/page/2#post-2888087 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 20:26:49 +0000 Jess1483 2888087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1. My mom<br /> 2. A good friend who lives nearby and has similar age kiddos (if not because my kids are sick, although in the past she’s offered to take a sick kiddo and seclude with movies, so if I were desperate...)<br /> 3. My dad, but his job is super inflexible. </p> <p>Ultimately; my husband is our biggest back-up. He works from home and can monitor DS1 (6) and still work. He’d have to take the day off for DS2 or DD, but it can be done. </p> <p>I can usually rearrange anything I have planned or get a substitute if I’m teaching </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888084 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 20:00:01 +0000 LemonJack 2888084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When it’s an illness, it’s just DH or me. My parents live about a half hour away, but don’t cover when kids are sick. This past winter was SO hard. I had to take 9 days off between October and May, and my DH was off just as much. Our kids were super sick and they usually aren’t. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888082 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 19:42:43 +0000 FaithFertility 2888082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one....<br /> Me and DH switch off taking days off when need be</p> <p>It can really suck with a 4 yr old and 2 yr old </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888069 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 16:57:39 +0000 ElbieKay 2888069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would WFH and start my day around 10am which is the earliest my parents are usually available to babysit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888067 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 15:51:57 +0000 SweetiePie 2888067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe my MIL but she lives 1.5 hours away so usually needs a day or two notice. If it was an absolute emergency I could call her that AM and she’d find a way to get here, but it wouldn’t be by 7am that’s for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888066 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 15:43:11 +0000 agold 2888066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A very part time nanny we have; if not her, then my sister, my mom (although, depends on the baby's sickness), my mother in law, then a college babysitter, or I would plead with my childhood friends who are stay at home moms but who have never watched my kids. All that being said, I would stay home myself before reaching out beyond paid child care. Ugh. Child care. The bane of my current existence. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888061 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 14:07:48 +0000 Ms. RV 2888061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>More than likely me. Sometimes OH's parents will watch DD but DS is too young for them.</p> <p>Luckily, I have a very understanding boss. I take a vacation day but keep up on e-mails the best I can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888059 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 13:44:37 +0000 Jennibenni 2888059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one, I would have to stay home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888057 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 13:17:37 +0000 Mommy Finger 2888057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents....usually </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888055 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 13:08:52 +0000 JJ2626 2888055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh this just happened but DH and I were both in town so we both “worked from home.” If I was solo, I’d text the one sitter we have other than our nanny (who in this scenario isn’t available) but otherwise would stay home. If it was a really important day/meeting, I’d ask a friend who works part time if she could help. Or urban sitter? Ugh bottom line I probably need to figure this out in case it happens! We have no family around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888054 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 13:04:19 +0000 psw27 2888054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It used to be that we would beg one of our babysitters because they are nurses and would randomly be off sometimes. Now we live in the suburbs so I probably would just have to suck it up and miss work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888053 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 13:01:46 +0000 maddyz 2888053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds crazy but I would reach out to Facebook and hope someone (a friend) is free or someone has a recommendation for a caregiver. I usually send a bunch of texts to people who have watched kids I know. I have left my kids with other people's nanny's, nieces, friends of friends. I work close to home so it feels ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888047 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 12:34:40 +0000 Mrsbells 2888047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I would work remotely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888045 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 12:17:52 +0000 KT326 2888045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: ugh we have no one. Luckily I have an extremely flexible job that never has any meetings so I can work from home when I need to. It helps that my direct boss has kids that are just a couple years older than mine so she understands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888041 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 12:00:25 +0000 Ajsmommy 2888041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's days like these that make me half wish my mom lived nearby. She is retired and she'd be our back up... but alas she is many states away.</p> <p>Luckily FIL just retired last year and he has actually been filling in for us in a pinch.. which ironically seems to always happen!!! </p> <p>I am out of days so I can't take any (see prior post regarding funeral etc)... unless I take unpaid BUT my review is next week so I really really don't want to do that now, such bad timing... it'd be like drawing attention to it and I know my boss would completely put it on my review that I mismanaged my time off... anywhoo... I just need to make it through this month and then this happened. </p> <p>Thank goodness FIL could cover for me!!!</p> <p>Our normal plan of action in this situation (aka last minute/slight emergency) is to ask MIL, SIL or FIL, they all live about 45 mins away. So far it has worked out that one of them has always been able and willing to step in to help. And if it's an extended "emergency", ie: in home provider had to have surgery and was closed for 2 weeks unexpectedly, we would have my mom fly up and cover and stay with us.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888040 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 11:43:28 +0000 charm55 2888040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom (such a huge blessing) ...in a real pinch, my aunt or best friend who is a SAHM would help me out too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888038 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 11:42:38 +0000 JennyLayneAZ 2888038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and/or dad if they're not sick. Otherwise, me. I've brought DD to work with me before in a pinch as well. My work is very family friendly, and I've been here for 8 years, so they're really flexible. Last year we had a very "sick" year for us, so it was rough. She came to work with me quite a bit! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888037 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 11:38:23 +0000 gotkimchi 2888037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I would ask one of my friends to watch them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888032 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 10:57:12 +0000 Anagram 2888032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: This happens to me at least a couple times a year. We have 0 family nearby. We have 2 occasional/part time sitters and VERY RARELY one of them can cancel their other plans and stay with our kiddos during the day. But usually it has to be me or DH, and if he's OOT, then it has to be me, no matter what I have going on at work.</p> <p>Also, I know people here are going to freak out, but when my back is really up against the wall (it's happened at least 1x before that I can remember), I've totally done the give-the-kid-tylenol thing and take them to daycare anyway, and then leave work early when their fever comes back and I have to go get them.</p> <p>I had to do that once when DH was gone on a 9 day work trip to London, and I was home with both girls. One kiddo got Strep and I left early and took 1 day off for her; then the other popped a fever in the morning right as I was leaving for work, so I KNEW it was strep also, but I was hosting a "Battle of the Books" event at my school and absolutely had to be there. I had 4 other schools coming on busses to our school for the regional Battle of the Books, I was hosting the event, there were no other backups that could run the event and emcee, so I gave my oldest tylenol, sent her to school.....and then got the call 5 hours later that she had a fever. By then, Battle of the Books was done, and I could go tell my boss my daughter's school had called and I had to leave. He wasn't thrilled, with it being the 3rd day in a row, but what else could I do?</p> <p>It's a constant struggle in my life. I basically continue working because I'm just banking on making my salary higher and adding years to my pension, so I can retire at a decent age. I mean, I could afford to SAH completely, but I figure these years are short in the grand scheme of things, and it won't ever be easy to be a full time working parent. So I just muddle through. Also, I really like what I do, in spite of the constant juggle between parenting and work.</p> <p>My husband has it just as bad. Since my job is super inflexible, he actually takes more days than I do staying home with the kids. But his job isn't very flexible either...he can work from home 1-2 times a month, but every time we have a big illness, we both feel stretched thin between work expectations and home life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888027 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 10:14:59 +0000 DesertDreams88 2888027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's also a business here called "Kids Park" that offers drop-in childcare, so I could do that and hope they're not significantly sick. But it's $15 per hour which would be $120 a day, which is more than what I take home in a day, so I'd rather take unpaid time or bring them in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quick-you-have-to-work-dh-is-out-of-town-you-need-someone-to-watch-your-kid-all-day-7a-5p#post-2888026 Tue, 18 Jun 2019 10:10:56 +0000 DesertDreams88 2888026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In-laws (who are our childcare provider)<br /> SAHM friends are my.normal back up but not with sickness</p> <p>Otherwise I'd bring them to work. Yep, I would. It would be far from ideal but if I felt like it was my only choice....? My mom used to do this with me, rarely. She worked as an accountant in the upper floor of an apartment complex, and usually she'd set me up in their meeting/conference room worh lots of bools, coloring books, TV, tissues, meds, ginger ale, crackers, etc. </p>