https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 21:52:57 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-164602 Mon, 21 May 2012 16:07:18 +0000 Honeybee 164602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, and it makes me feel so bad. :( I took DD everywhere with me when she was little, and I spent every minute of her awake time talking to her, cuddling her, etc... With DS, I often have to leave him in his bouncy chair or on his play mat during his awake time. I just feel bad that I don't have the opportunity to give him the same attention I gave DD at this age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163994 Sun, 20 May 2012 15:56:25 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 163994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I can only imagine...I have no idea how I will manage with more than one down the line. It's actually why I've been holding off on trying for a second one for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163883 Sun, 20 May 2012 13:35:33 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 163883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@skibobrown: @Andrea: Thanks for making me feel less guilty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163882 Sun, 20 May 2012 13:35:01 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 163882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Baby Boy Mom: That's what we did with Lala too, but with two it becomes pretty challenging. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163854 Sun, 20 May 2012 12:16:57 +0000 skibobrown 163854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I do the same thing, and yes, I definitely feel guilty about it. But sometimes I need to just stick her in her crib while I'm getting ready in the morning and preparing her bottles for the day. I do feel really bad that I'm missing out on precious interaction time with my baby. I wish I had someone to do all of the household tasks, so I could just play with my baby all the time, but alas that is not the reality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163849 Sun, 20 May 2012 11:57:55 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 163849@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much always interacted with LO when he was smaller because otherwise I just felt too guilty. I ended up just taking him around with me while I did things and would narrate what I was doing. Now that he's older- 11 months- I leave him to play on his own a lot more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163848 Sun, 20 May 2012 11:54:47 +0000 Andrea 163848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was never able to do that with the LO. She always cried. If your LO is happy to play in her crib while you get something done then I think that is great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163842 Sun, 20 May 2012 11:06:24 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 163842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As promised!<br /> @artbee: but I meant are there times when she's awake and alert and you have her in the crib and are in a different room. I think being around each other is still a form of interaction, even if not verbal :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163805 Sun, 20 May 2012 09:15:59 +0000 heffalump 163805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have quiet time. I'm not much of a talker in general, but I do try to talk to LO as often as possible. But sometimes I just want quiet, and she seems fine with it too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163632 Sat, 19 May 2012 22:04:51 +0000 Laneybugsmommy 163632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were part of the camp that would leave our daughter here and there if we needed to get things done. We still do it now even at 13 months for a few minutes if she's in a safe environment. I believe that interacting with her is great and very beneficial to her learning and developmental skills; however, I'm also a strong believer in independent play and the ability to be content without mommy or daddy always right there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163620 Sat, 19 May 2012 21:52:44 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 163620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I think benign neglect in older kids is so great, but right now, I feel guilty when I set her down because every quiet alert moment is so precious. We already do responsive cooing where I'll say "goo" and she'll respond "goo" then I'll say "boo" and she'll respond "boo". I'm sure it's so good for her, but I can't always do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163614 Sat, 19 May 2012 21:45:53 +0000 mrbee 163614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: I read that every time your LO makes a sound, if you touch them or respond then they vocalize much more and develop a much larger vocabulary! So I try to do that... but mostly I just make googoo faces at her. She cracks up so much... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/quiet-alert-time#post-163613 Sat, 19 May 2012 21:43:13 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 163613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If your infant is pretty mellow and has lots of good quiet alert time, do you always interact during those times? </p> <p>We are so busy with 2 that sometimes we put the Littlest One in the crib while she's quiet and alert while we finish doing tasks or whatever we need to do.</p> <p>We spend tons of time interacting with her as well... I probably spent an hour this morning just babbling back and forth with her.</p> <p>But I still sometimes feel guilty that I'm not enriching all her quiet alert times.</p> <p>So what do you do? And do you feel guilty about it? </p>