https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 05:26:04 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2138162 Thu, 09 Apr 2015 11:38:59 +0000 alphagam84 2138162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: haha. If I have a son one day I am determined not to be a MIL from hell based on my experiences with mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2138143 Thu, 09 Apr 2015 11:27:13 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2138143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: My SIL and I have a book started of what we will NOT do as mother in laws! Haha... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2137588 Thu, 09 Apr 2015 07:52:40 +0000 SweetiePie 2137588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Oh my gosh, the work comment! So rude! Over the weekend we were at my In Laws and when my husband's cousins showed up they asked him Whats new. We've seen them one other time since Our son was born. My husband said "Same old same old", which is just a standard response. My MIL pipes in and says "what do you mean same old! You have a baby!" And she turns to he cousin and says "he wasn't sleeping for months!" Referring to my husband! I had been standing at the stove and I whipped around and said "uh excuse me? YOur son has been sleeping just fine, thanks. I did all of the night wakings for the first 4 months" And she said "oh" and shrugged. I mean, on what planet does she think that her SON did the night wakings while I just got some beauty rest? My husband doesn't hear the monitor if it's right by his head! And this isn't even a husband bashing, getting up was my responsibility and I was fine to do it. But to say he did it??? And, as I said, we had seen the cousin a few months ago - so responding to "what's new" with "well we had a baby" would have received a "no sh*t" response. :grin: </p> <p>Are us boy moms going to morph into these bizarre MIL's someday??? It is my life's mission to be the most non-intrusive, laid back, coolest MIL ever. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2137283 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 20:32:37 +0000 mrscobee 2137283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@getjazzy: haha! Yep, mine would say something like that :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2137243 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 19:44:30 +0000 getjazzy 2137243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: Are we related? Sounds a lot like my MIL! *eyeroll*. We skyped with her (she's on vacation) this past weekend to tell her that we found out the baby is a girl and she was like "oh, are you sick? You look sick. " I'm like "nope, just having a lazy Sunday with no makeup" thanks for making me feel like shit though. Facepalm. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2137182 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:51:26 +0000 mrscobee 2137182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Too many to reply to but I am soooo enjoying you all's responses and personal stories!!!! :grin: I am glad to know I'm not the only one!!!</p> <p>@2littlepumpkins: Yes, no joke! There was no medical convo going on whatsoever (think I said I had to run to the bathroom), and we don't talk about those things. Though she has mentioned her own vagina before, but I never give any feedback to indicate that's a welcome conversation between us! In fact I act really uncomfortable but I guess she doesn't notice?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2137134 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 18:03:17 +0000 Trufflehunter 2137134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does anyone else get the 'well, when i nursed/changed/read to my son [my DH] yadda yadda yadda' comments with everything we're talking about with respect to LO? It grates on me like oh.em.gee! I'm just so over hearing about you feeding my husband for pete's sake! :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2136605 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 12:54:37 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2136605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Are you experiencing any vaginal pressure?" WHAT?! I mean unless there was already a medial conversation going on and someone had that kind of relationship with their MIL.. HOW do you even answer that?! Lol!!<br /> Hope some space makes you feel better! Holidays can be intense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2136523 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 12:30:47 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2136523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity: This is my mom! DH and I were just commenting about how she can't say one nice thing about a picture I send! So frustrating!</p> <p>My MIL is usually a very sweet person, but over Easter, she said some pretty rude things that drove me crazy. One of those things was trying to prepare LO for us leaving, and she said, "Daddy has to go to work tomorrow..." so I piped up and said, "so does mommy!" She had the nerve to say, "Well, you work from home on Mondays." I must not actually work when I'm working from home. She also mentioned that the reason that LO hit me must be because we send him to day care. I mean...he has to learn it from somewhere right? Not that he's a frustrated toddler. </p> <p>My FIL is way worse though. I can't take him longer than an hour. He's constantly arguing with anyone who gets sucked into his BS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2136489 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 12:15:30 +0000 Torchwood 2136489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is basically useless, a chain smoking alcoholic pill popper, so really, we just avoid her. So no complaints (until LO gets here and she expects to see her a lot). But FIL is overall a great guy, and DH is close to him, so we see him quite a bit. He's genuinely good hearted, but he's SO judgey! He's a workaholic (manages a restaurant, owns and manages another one most of the year, and works the farm on his days off. He literally never stops working the vast majority of the time), and he thinks that anyone who isn't like him is basically lazy. DH has had to work 60-90 hour weeks lately, and his dad thinks it's fine, even good. He and his wife both try to get me to work, ask rude questions about why I don't and don't go back to school, argue with our (very good) reasons for why I dont, etc. At this point we don't even bother explaining anymore. Because it's what makes us happy as a couple, period. (And it's not like I do nothing; I volunteer, do 100% of the housework, have started baking for actual money, and will be a SAHM soon.) </p> <p>I'm very interested/apprehensive to see how it will go when LO is here. He already disapproves of the fact that I'm seeing midwives (how is that his business?), and he will certainly disapprove of most of our parenting. The no spanking especially will drive him nuts. And he (and SMIL) are the types to say, "you should/you need to," when giving (usually unsolicited) advice, instead of, "I think/have you considered," or something else polite. It annoys the crap out of me. Oh, and SMIL has no kids and doesn't like them, so she does crap like telling our niece to "stop being a baby" for crying (over something legitimately upsetting to her) when she was only 2! That will not fly with my kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2136395 Wed, 08 Apr 2015 11:42:13 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2136395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: lol. I love this thread! I want more people to post on it. Misery loves company! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2135053 Tue, 07 Apr 2015 10:56:44 +0000 alphagam84 2135053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel for you. My MIL drives me crazy too. Luckily, she and FIL are in Egypt right now visiting relatives so we weren't obligated to have an Easter dinner with them. It was so nice to do our own thing! I can also only handle mine in small doses. I'm pregnant right now and we kind of dread telling her. I know she will be excited (she's been harassing us about kids since we got married 3 years ago) but I feel like she'll have these outdated thoughts about pregnancy and how we should raise the kid. I know she won't like how active I am and how I plan to continue my usual workouts as long as I feel well. When we adopted our dog she kept saying how much dogs love DH and how he would be the dogs favorite. Mind you they never had a dog so how would she know?? Anywho, I am totally our dogs favorite person hands down. And our dog really doesn't even like his parents which I kind of enjoy. I fear she will say the same thing about the baby. Babies just love DH, he'll be the favorite. If she tries that crap, I will shut her down immediately. You should want the baby to love each parent. And they are weirdly religious too, they have all these fasting days and their holidays are different holidays than the traditional calendar so they try to make us celebrate both holidays with them. The last time we ate with them at a restaurant, MIL told us when we walked in that any dish with a meat like beef or pork could be subbed out with chicken instead. Ummm OK? Wasn't sure why she was telling us that as we wanted the normal meat that came with the dish. (it was a really nice farm to table type restaurant) Time for her and FIL to order and neither orders chicken and the waitress asked to clarify if they wanted to sub out for chicken and they didn't. Obviously they made some inquiry to the waitress beforehand about switching out for chicken. But why ask and make a big deal about it if neither of you were going to do it?? There are so many stories and instances I could go on for days. You don't want to get me started on our wedding and how she behaved! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134525 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 20:39:34 +0000 catomd00 2134525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Super religious yet lies about a fetus praying?! Lol Ohhh the hipocrasy!! My MIL is awesome thankfully, but my mom is the one who can only be taken in small doses. At least she isn't your "real" mom!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134477 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 20:09:19 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2134477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can totally relate to you. My MIL is very kind, always means well and would do anything for us which is why I feel bad for saying this but she drives me CRAZY after more than a day. Which is difficult because she lives out of state so all her visits are way longer than I can handle. And she visits A LOT. She is very opinionated on religion, politics, and is always trying to teach you something no matter what the subject of the conversation is. This pregnancy has been hard because I can't have my usual glass of wine after she leaves to de-stress so it takes me days to shake the feelings after her trip is over. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134464 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 19:57:47 +0000 ShootingStar 2134464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity: Is she Jewish? She sounds like my grandma, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134438 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 19:34:30 +0000 WinterBee 2134438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Lol @ allergic to water. That's rich. @junebugsmama: Absolutely... some people are just different, hehe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134414 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 19:05:01 +0000 Ocean girl 2134414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ohhh I could play this game all day. MIL and FIL were here for the long weekend... Here are some highlights:<br /> -comparing everything in my and DH's jobs to her profession (which is no where close to our professions) constantly changing the subject to relate to her<br /> -Treating DH and I like children in our own home<br /> -Saying she would be home to help me prepare dinner for company she and FIL had invited over during DH and my date night... Supper was set for 6 to accommodate DD's bedtime. She wasn't home until 4:30... I made 90% of the meal on my own (a meal I wasn't eating... In hind sight I should have just made something different and quick for DD)</p> <p>I could go on and on... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134402 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 18:51:49 +0000 SweetiePie 2134402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: I must have an occasional allergy to Sauvignon Blanc then! I'm not drinking too much of it after all! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134401 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 18:50:13 +0000 SweetiePie 2134401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can commiserate with you! My MIL is nice enough and has good intentions (for the most part, she can also be manipulative) but she annoys the crap out of me. Practically everything she says sets my nerves on end. And she's super passive aggressive and loooves guilt trips. I am holding back going into specifics because I could write for hours.<br /> Ok, fine, one specific thing :-) She is constantly saying that my son is "a genius". She swears he "sings along in the same tune" to his toys (he doesn't) and understands her when she says "stop". (She told him to stop bouncing in his bouncer last week so she could take a picture and he happened to stop. So she's convinced he knows what "stop" means even though no one has taught him and he probably has barely heard that word. He's 7 months!) Those two things are ridiculous claims, but she also says that normal things he does are advanced. Like basic babbling or turning when you say his name. "Did you see him turn when I said his name and whistled! He's a genius!" She (and my FIL and Grandmother In Law) calls him a genius constantly (for some reason they are arrogant when it comes to intelligence. They think their family is just soooo smart and clearly my son who is offspring of their family is a baby genius) and a few weeks ago I said rather snarkily "I can't wait until he gets older and you all realize that he's just average". They all gave me blank stares. Only my BIL let out a big laugh because he got my joke. I mean, yeah, I want him to be smart. But I also think I'll have a little bit of satisfaction if he's just "average" and they are disappointed. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134385 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 18:30:04 +0000 yoursilverlining 2134385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: my SMIL is always inventing "allergies" too haha. A few summers ago they rented a lake house and she drank too much, and told me the next day she had a headache because she's "allergic" to red wine....which she still drinks. She's also said that she's allergic to water, which is why FIL has to do the dishes. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134377 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 18:16:42 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2134377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@WinterBee: omg totally my mil !!! It drives me crazy. She loves to argue and play devils advocate but she also just has these crazy flip flopping opinions. It's bizarre. She also will remember something I've said in this weird almost opposite way. It makes me realize she just processes the world totally differently than I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134376 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 18:15:59 +0000 buttermilk 2134376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: all of those things would drive me nuts!!!! praying position????! OMG. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134366 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 17:54:13 +0000 WinterBee 2134366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: Most of the time my MIL is great, but if we spend extended amounts of time together it gets annoying. Something that frequently happens is she'll say something, present it as though she strongly believes in it, to the point of arguing with me about it... forget she said that then later contradict herself at another time.<br /> Grr.... why do you argue with me if it's not even something you care about? hahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134350 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 17:21:06 +0000 wrkbrk 2134350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: LOLOLOL! The praying position on the ultrasound! You had me laughing out loud at that one. I would just stare blankly at anyone who asked me if that were true! What?! Hahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134328 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 16:46:06 +0000 illumina 2134328@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity: my Mum is a bit like that. I'll post several photos of LO on FB and she'll comment on only one saying something like "she's got a bit of a grump on hasn't she?" Grr </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134325 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 16:41:27 +0000 mrscobee 2134325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: Haha!! It is kind of funny, but this weekend it just got on my nerves! Your comment about the cheese is too funny too!!! I don't get why people get so weird about food and want to claim they can't / won't eat things they eat all the time - weird!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134319 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 16:39:14 +0000 illumina 2134319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: ugh. Though I did laugh at the paleo comment because my MIL always goes on about how she is allergic to cheese. once we had to change our plans to go to an Italian for dinner because apparently they put cheese on everything....yet when she cooks she eats cheese all the time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134316 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 16:35:45 +0000 youboots 2134316@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hotchildinthecity: gah this is the worst. Forcing your kid to do something she wants that could stress them out is not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134314 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 16:34:10 +0000 youboots 2134314@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my MIL but she will make really generalized comments about gender, not old wives tales or anything but just her opinion. She had two boys. T is her first biological granddaughter. She likes to say all little girls are drama and boys are so easy, well, I think that will depend on her personality and how she is parented. Whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/random-mother-in-law-rant#post-2134308 Mon, 06 Apr 2015 16:19:45 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2134308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL is usually pretty good but she always makes weird comments on the pictures I send her of LO. DH doesnt send her anything so personally I think she should be grateful but she'll say things like "you couldn't get him to smile?" "Does he have a bump on his head?" "Doesn't he ever wear the shirt we got him?"</p> <p>She sent him these bunny glasses (?) for easter and he did NOT WANT to wear them, especially for a photo. So I sent her different photos all day and at the end she was like why didn't you get a picture in the glasses and I was like oh you know kids....he just didn't want to wear them. And I got a sad face and "that's too bad." Omg leave me alone about this crap! </p>