https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 17:58:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889179 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 19:49:31 +0000 Calibee 2889179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think people are just trying to make conversation. Maybe annoying to you, but I bet people are just trying to be friendly and discuss your pregnancy. </p> <p>When I was pregnant with my first (a girl) someone told me she was so sorry and I could try for a boy next time. I thought it was weird, but turns out she personally wanted a son so badly and only had girls. </p> <p>With my second, I was pregnant with a boy. Someone said oh yay now you can be done bc you have one of each. Little did she know I was DEVASTATED to be pregnant with a boy because I wanted another girl so very badly. </p> <p>But I never took it personally. Honestly, I think they were just trying to connect and make conversation. There was no bad intent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889176 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 19:10:50 +0000 thepaperbutterfly 2889176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first was a girl and my second was a boy. I initially wanted two girls because I'm only having two kids, and I have a very close relationship with my little sister. Everyone makes the comment that I have the perfect family. Or they assume that I"m done because I got one of each. I reply that I would have been done regardless of gender as I only wanted two kids. It's just a bit odd? I don't know, it's kind of annoying, but less annoying than people asking me when I'm due. I'm not, I'm six months post partum &gt;:( On the flip side, I had a friend in highschool and she had 4 sisters. The mom desperately wanted a son, and even tricked her husband into having their 5th baby to try to get a son. So maybe this was more common 30 years ago??? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889062 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 02:20:45 +0000 misolee 2889062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just chiming in to say I have a girl, boy, and girl and I have been getting so many comments lately about how I should “round it out” and try for #4.</p> <p>Sure...let me increase my family size bc I want a nice round number🤦🏻‍♀️</p> <p>All this to say, people will say anything to make conversation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889061 Wed, 26 Jun 2019 02:01:21 +0000 Nutella 2889061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: I have two wonderful boys and I get this all the time! People will ask coyly about a third...and then jump on the “hopefully it could maybe be a GIRL!” And then the awkwardness sets in :meh: as it happens, we aren’t ready to close the door on a third baby, and I would genuinely be happy with either another boy, or a girl! But people will go crazy in the next pregnancy with their golden comments, so I am already planning on keeping it quiet or maybe even not finding out just so I can shut down those conversations. Regardless of how well-meaning people are when they share their opinions on how loud/full of boys my house will be in the future, I don’t care for those comments and think they should keep them to themselves! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889039 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 19:06:56 +0000 charm55 2889039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 2 girls... my mom had 4 girls... my grandmother had 3 girls... my great grandmother had 3 girls... girls are all we know in my family 😂 I haven’t really gotten any negative comments about it, but I think my husband has. People are weird ... what can you do ? 🤷🏼‍♀️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889027 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 18:20:58 +0000 LemonJack 2889027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey fellow November mama! Our first two are girls, and we really wanted girls each time. I was thrilled when our second was born because I liked the idea of sisters. I’m sure people who don’t know us assume we are having a third to try for a boy, but that’s not the case at all. I’m one of three and my family just doesn’t feel complete with two. My husband was telling a coworker how much he’d love a third girl and his coworker was shocked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2889020 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 17:25:38 +0000 Lindsay05 2889020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 3 girls. I have heard it all. My own mother has said rude things such as “you finally got your boy” to my father in law about my brother in laws boy. It stings and I have to hold back tears every time. I love my girls but every time someone mentions it it brings so much heartache of the reality of never having a boy. I will never ever say those comments to anyone. </p> <p>This also opens up to the pressure of having to be a good role model for 3 girls. But that is a topic in and of itself. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888964 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 10:36:26 +0000 hellobeeboston 2888964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UGGHHHHHH.... i'm sorry, that is really annoying. I have 2 boys and get comments about "trying for that girl" - i'm like, ummm, no thanks. I don't NEED a girl to feel like my family is complete. </p> <p>Instead of getting mad I typically think people just spout out boilerplate-nothing-chit -chat and chalk it up to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888904 Tue, 25 Jun 2019 06:38:03 +0000 LadyDi 2888904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's frustrating. I am about to have our third boy and I've gotten a lot of comments...most of them don't bother me, just the people who act disappointed or who imply that I should be disappointed. I also get a lot of comments about how loud/dirty/smelly my house will be as they get older. Maybe that's true but I still don't really appreciate it. </p> <p>One of DS's friends and his mom came to his bday party on Saturday and she has three boys and a baby girl and I overheard both my Dad and my FIL say to her "well you finally got your girl!" Ugh. I cringed on the inside. I know they don't mean anything by it and she handled it well but still. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888887 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 23:24:54 +0000 bees_knees 2888887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So funny (but not really) that really ANY gender makeup of your family can solicit these kinds of comments! I don’t have the energy to respond to each of you, but I was happy to read that I’m not alone in getting irritated about this :wink: It really only bothers me when we are within earshot of my kids! I have always *thought* some of these, even pre-kids...like “I wonder if she’s sad she doesn’t have a girl?” but I hope I never said anything. Although I’m sure I did! Ah well. </p> <p>I agree with @Foodnerd81: ... there is always a positive comment you can say!</p> <p>@wrkbrk: I can’t wait to get my $10 :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888881 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 21:30:58 +0000 PinkElephant 2888881@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jaguar: haha thanks 🙂 we did go through a period where my oldest liked telling people who asked where their brother was “in mommy’s belly!” - I wasn’t pregnant!! So I’m glad she’s changed her tactics! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888855 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 20:01:05 +0000 Foodnerd81 2888855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have two girls so of course heard while I was pregnant how I should try for a boy next “for my husband”. Whatever. </p> <p>BUT I will say, positive comments in either direction don’t bother me. Like, oh you’re having a second girl? That’s so great, it’s so great to have sisters! Or, oh one of each, how wonderful. As we all know there are plusses and minuses to both. I never take offense to someone who says it’s great my girls have a sister. I do take offense to someone implying that there is something missing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888843 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 18:26:04 +0000 nwm 2888843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>this drives me so crazy, especially in front of the kids!!! i was really defensive of DS when we were having DD after DS and people were like, you must be THRILLED you're having a girl!! i will say, having a boy, girl, and now pregnant with a boy, i feel like we cracked the code of when people can't think of ANYTHING to say about gender. we say it's a boy this time and they're basically like, oh, shrug. i guess it could have gone either way. lol. so they just focus on making us feel terror about how hard three of any gender will be :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888832 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 16:58:29 +0000 jaguar 2888832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PinkElephant: I love your girls. :D My oldest is the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888826 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 15:21:35 +0000 Mommy Finger 2888826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it makes you feel any better, my boss has 8 kids. The older 7 are boys and the baby is a girl. I can't imagine all of the comments he and his wife have gotten.</p> <p>I have 2 boys and do get asked on occasion if we're going to try for a girl but I just have to shrug it off. People generally mean well but yeah, annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888823 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 14:31:23 +0000 helloperidot 2888823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm dreading telling people I'm pregnant with #3 because I'm certain there will be commentary...whether about gender or number of children or whatever. Last time, when we revealed we were having a second girl, my own mother said "that's okay, you can try for a boy next time around". WTAF?</p> <p>Like, why is it so hard for people to just say "congrats!" and then keep their mouths shut? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888820 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 14:25:31 +0000 wrkbrk 2888820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: People are so flipping stupid I can honestly only shake my head. My only solace to you is that I think everyone gets comments no matter the makeup of one's family. I hear ENDLESS comments from others about only having a single child. All that being said, if you actually answer the next person who asks you if you were "trying" (wtf) for a girl with the unicorn response, I will venmo you $10. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888817 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 14:09:28 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 2888817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! It's so frustrating. We recently found out our 2nd is of the opposite sex so we keep getting comments about. "oh yay! you're done" or "factory is closed" or asking whether my husband is getting a vasectomy. I'm like WTF?</p> <p>I really want a 3rd and that was regardless of the sex of #2 so it grinds my gears when people say those comments, especially since my husband is not 100% on board with #2 (he wants to wait to see how we adapt to 2 kids first) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888808 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 13:00:20 +0000 Fawn 2888808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had my first, but my sister was just talking about this the other day. She has 2 girls and is done, but people ask all the time if they are going to try for a boy. Her and her husband are happy with 2 girls, so it's frustrating to them that people ask this. Her husband was actually hoping their 2nd was a girl, but people seem to think he must want a son.</p> <p>My parents had 2 girls too and I'm the 2nd so I'm curious if people said the same thing to them when I came along. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888806 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 12:50:52 +0000 alphagam84 2888806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was pregnant with our second last summer and didn't know the gender. We already have a girl and someone at the pool actually asked if we'd go for a third if we didn't get a boy and had another girl. Ummm no. We just wanted a second baby regardless of the gender. I actually wanted another girl but we got a boy instead :) We knew two was our number and that was it. IDK why people are so obsessed with having a boy and a girl. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888804 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 12:32:38 +0000 MrsSCB 2888804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely understand. My two are a boy and a girl, but it still annoyed me how people would comment when they found out, "Ohh, how great, one of each/perfect family" etc. Um, our family would have been "perfect" for us even if we'd had a second boy...I only have one sibling, a sister, and I never felt like we needed a brother to be complete or whatever. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888795 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 11:48:33 +0000 PinkElephant 2888795@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mama to three girls here - we constantly get comments from strangers about if we're going for the boy. My typical reply is that at this point, I pretty much figure that if we go for #4, I'll have twin girls! Like you, we were definitely offered sympathy when #3 was a girl - we even got teased by the hospital lactation consultant because there's a word in Spanish (chanclatero - literally "slipper maker") for men who only produce daughters, and were told to give up unless we wanted a dozen kids!</p> <p>If it makes you feel any better, my girls have heard it all and are none the worse for it - they happily will chime in along the lines of ("Eww, why would we want a BROTHER" or "Three kids is enough, our family is DONE!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888788 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 11:12:15 +0000 808love 2888788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I see your perspective. I said to my friend who was pregnant with the opposite sex on the third one. Oh so you are done now?<br /> I’m sure that must have been annoying!!!! Thanks for making me aware! And yes that must be so terrible when it is in front of the other kids. Things to know.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888784 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 11:05:20 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 2888784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: my mom works for a retirement community... every time I take my two girls there, there’s a senior lady who practically yells “tell your husband to aim to the right next time and give you a boy!!” First of all, mind your own business. Secondly, I don’t NEED a boy and am happy with girls. Third, come up with a new joke, lady! ..... I just laugh and ignore her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888777 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 10:13:24 +0000 psw27 2888777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally get what you're saying. We have 2 boys, we want a third and I get the comments. I can't imagine once I'm actually pregnant... it'll either be "darn" or "finally"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888775 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 10:04:53 +0000 LabradorLover 2888775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bees_knees: Just chiming in to say thank you for posting this and bringing it to my attention. I am definitely one of those people who say "Darn!" or something at the thought of someone having another girl or boy when they already have girls or boys. I didn't even realize that this could be offensive and totally don't mean any harm when saying it but I see your point and am glad you pointed it out!! I will be aware of this from now on! </p> <p>Congrats to your growing family!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888755 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 08:47:24 +0000 graceandjoy 2888755@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pregnant with our 3rd with 2 girls and I am dreading those comments if it's a boy! And I'm still in 1st trimester, so I've totally gotten the comments about whether we want to try for a boy.</p> <p>I always put up the sweetest smile and say I've always wanted 2 girls so I got exactly what I wanted :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888743 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 08:00:30 +0000 ALV91711 2888743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People have asked if we are going to have a third and I know some of them wonder if we want a girl. Two is good for us but if we had a third another boy would be easier. I love having two boys! </p> <p>I actually know someone who really wanted a girl and she had 6 boys!</p> <p>@jaguar: I have two sisters and it is awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888741 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 07:52:50 +0000 Ajsmommy 2888741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I completely hear you.. even us that have one of each get odd comments that are completely eye roll worthy.. However, I will also admit that I've 100% been the bumbling idiot who's also said some eye roll worthy comments in the past and I completely didn't mean anything by them!! I promise! LOL... Sometimes it's all that comes to mind when you see a momma with 3 boys and she's expecting... IDK why! But I mean no harm. So just chiming in to apologize for some of the fools who have offended you bc I may have been one and I am sorry, I didn't mean to! I was just trying to make small talk and I suck.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rantparents-of-same-sex-children-can-you-relate#post-2888729 Mon, 24 Jun 2019 07:25:57 +0000 jhd 2888729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mom of 2 boys and we are definitely done. My 12yo niece told me this weekend we should have another maybe it would be a girl. :shocked: </p>