https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 19 Jul 2026 03:53:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1706298 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 23:15:20 +0000 googly-eyes 1706298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: @pui: What heartwarming, amazing stories. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1706295 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 23:07:34 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1706295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I LOVE your happy story! :heart: </p> <p>@meganmp: Exactly!!! :grin: That's what I want to be able to say if anyone ever tries that "not a big deal" line with me...but unfortunately, by the time I recovered from the shock, it would probably be too late. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705871 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 17:23:29 +0000 FaithFertility 1705871@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: Thanks, I try, it really does not bother me, but it does make me think, how if someone was worse off and people say things how hurtful they can be! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705868 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 17:21:35 +0000 Happygal 1705868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: you're comment hits the nail on the head--she wasn't trying to be hurtful, but she's just clueless. Unless you've gone through it or are close to someone who has, it's hard to know what infertility is like. </p> <p>@FaithFertility: I'm sure you handle it with grace. I've always been impressed with your positive attitude! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705863 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 17:19:21 +0000 winter_wonder 1705863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: Yay! Congrats to you! I'm sorry you have to hear those annoying and hurtful comments. People really don't have a clue :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705808 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 16:44:01 +0000 meganmp 1705808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705807 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 16:43:38 +0000 artsyfartsy 1705807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I love your story. I still remember my excitement when you announced!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705758 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 16:14:32 +0000 FaithFertility 1705758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ohhhhh see that is what I mean, IVF not a big deal, my emotions were a wreck just thinking it was a possiblity! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1705016 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 11:18:16 +0000 SweetiePie 1705016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@meganmp: I :heart: you. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704952 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 10:58:34 +0000 meganmp 1704952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: Someone told you IVF isn't a big deal anymore? Tell them, "Great! So you can give me the money for it then, eh? You can be the people who are not even in the damn building when your baby is conceived. You can be the one who has three other people in the room when your baby is finally moved to your uterus."</p> <p>Grrrr. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704745 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 10:01:01 +0000 Grace 1704745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*Growl* phone ate my comment. Suffice it to say CONGRATULATIONS!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704733 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:56:52 +0000 BSB 1704733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: Oh, I'm sorry. I would be so annoyed if I heard those comments. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704709 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:43:59 +0000 SweetiePie 1704709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: See, this is why I love my IVF gals ;-) We all get it when no one else does!<br /> I think that people think IVF is so run of the mill these days, that it's not a big deal. And PREACH about the translocation. I know our situations are slightly different but you get it more than anyone on these boards. The translocation I carry is a game changer and I just need to accept the fact that it's not common so hardly anyone will understand.<br /> A friend of mine who had a miscarriage and mild pcos told me after I told her about my translocation and miscarriages "just go to an RE and they'll give you clomid and you'll be fine!"<br /> Well it doesn't really work that way. Ha! She didn't mean to be offensive - she's just clueless!<br /> And trying to explain the PGD and IVF process in detail? Forget about it. I thought it would make people more understanding of what we did for a baby, but no. They still say "see they can do anything with science these days. It's not even a big deal!"<br /> I'll end there because I could go on forever ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704682 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:36:44 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1704682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I absolutely love the happy ending stories after years of struggle. It bugs me to no end to get all of the comments though.</p> <p>You waited a long time to get your miracle babe, and that's such a happy thing. The "you just needed to relax" comments are infuriating. </p> <p>We struggled for 8 months to get pregnant. I got all of the "see...you just hyped yourself up way too much...you needed to relax" comments. And then I miscarried. I got pregnant again 5 months later and miscarried again. Finally, a year and a half after we first started trying, I got pregnant with LO. He really is the light of our life and we're so happy to have him. When he was 10 months, I found out I was pregnant again and was really excited about the possibility of 2 under 2...and then I miscarried again. If anyone tells me that I "just need to relax" again, they may get punched in the face. It is so unhelpful, and I know that they just don't understand. </p> <p>I hope your pregnancy goes very smoothly and you have a happy and healthy 9 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704667 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:30:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1704667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Getting pregnant without intervention is amazing! It definitely doesn't downplay everything you went through though. That pain and frustration is real.</p> <p>@SweetiePie: that makes me angry. IVF is a big deal. It's invasive and intimidating. And with your translocation it's even more high stakes in my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704658 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:27:11 +0000 FaithFertility 1704658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrswin: yes, I truly am/was not effected, but thought if people say that to me, I KNOW others have heard it too..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704655 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:26:00 +0000 dagret 1704655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I got the antibiotics, and was like, seriously, at this point i had tried clomid, accupuncture, herbs, and a free scrip si what I really needed? Good grief... But then we did need IUI eventually. Still unexplained IF so we'll see what happens if/when i can get pregnant on my own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704654 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:25:46 +0000 FaithFertility 1704654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: It is a MIRACLE!!!!!!!<br /> @SweetiePie: I couldnt agree more!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704647 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:24:05 +0000 mrswin 1704647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I'm sorry that people have been dismissive or not as supportive but everyone has an opinion about these things. There are lots of us who have been in your situation and are thrilled for you! People who think that it is just because you "relaxed" don't get that until you figured out what the issue was no amount of relaxing was going to make it work. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704644 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:22:59 +0000 FaithFertility 1704644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dagret: ohhhh my gosh right, it is such a tiny thing we got our BFP the cycle I took the antibiotics! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704639 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:21:43 +0000 SweetiePie 1704639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I love your story too :-) It just makes me so happy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704637 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:21:01 +0000 dagret 1704637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: I was DX with mycoplasma after my 1st miscarriage too... knocked it out with free antibiotics. Isn't it crazy that something so trivial and tiny can cause SO MANY PROBLEMS!??? </p> <p>We tried for about 2.5-3 years (i can't remember any more at this point) before our successful IUI. And the comments people gave were annoying. </p> <p>Anyway, congrats! Wishing you a H&amp;H delivery! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704628 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:18:19 +0000 FaithFertility 1704628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Shutterbug: Exactly, it truly didn't/doesn't bother me, but I can't imagine people say stuff to someone more sensitive or had a harder IF road </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704625 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:18:04 +0000 SweetiePie 1704625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First of all, your stories is one of the happiest on HB to me. I just am so excited for you!</p> <p>Secondly, it took a while but I've come to accept the fact that those who have never had trouble ttc or recurrent miscarriage (and to me recurrent is a key word here, not that a single MC isn't hard but it's not the same as recurrent) can't understand the stuff we've been through. The emotions, the physical trauma, etc. no matter how many times I try to tell the "lucky ones" about our troubles it always ends with some comment that makes me feel like they are minimizing what we went through. I guess that's the trouble for me. Yes, I am happy that we are pregnant and baby is healthy, even though we got here after a long road that ended in IVF. But I can't and don't want to forget that hard road. I appreciate the blessing we have so much more and it is irritating when people say things like "IVF isn't a big deal anymore". I think they think they are being helpful by downplaying, but to me it's rather insulting.<br /> In the end I recognize that they don't mean any harm, I guess they just don't understand and won't so I just need to make peace with it and move on. My husband and I know what we went through and as long as we remember the struggle, we appreciate the reward that much more :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704623 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:17:38 +0000 MrsBrewer 1704623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: I love hearing these stories! it really does just give me the warm fuzzies!!! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704610 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:11:35 +0000 Shutterbug 1704610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: that must be so frustrating! I don't feel like all you did was "relax"... you found that bacteria and got rid of it with medicine, and that did the trick. Just because you also happened to be on a cruise doesn't mean that the cruise got you KU :wink: Regardless, I'm so happy for you that you're finally getting your sticky baby!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704607 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:10:42 +0000 pui 1704607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was TTC for a year.</p> <p>I had very long, irregular cycles and it appeared that I was not ovulating.</p> <p>After two doctors, a whole battery of tests, multiple medications and months and months of standstill waiting I was diagnosed with PCOS.</p> <p>After even more waiting for stupid reasons, I was recommended some treatment. To start, monitored cycles with Clomid, timed intercourse and progesterone supplements... we'd move on to IUI in a few cycles if that didn't take.</p> <p>Treatment was delayed because of the Christmas holidays (the clinics are closed around that time, so I had to skip that cycle). We had to wait until January, so things still felt like they were not moving.</p> <p>The week before Christmas I was visiting my family 5 hours away. My sister was pregnant so I already had to handle that and SIL called us to inform us she was 10 weeks pregnant also. DH and I were having a pretty bleak holiday season.</p> <p>We decided on the drive home that we should tell our families what we have been going through, as we hadn't talked about it with them before this.</p> <p>So, the day before Christmas eve I decided to take a pregnancy test just to be sure before telling everyone about our trouble. I already knew it was going to be negative though. As I was unpackaging the HPT I was repeating to myself "It's going to be negative. It's going to be negative" to try and prepare myself for the inevitable disappointment.</p> <p>When the second line appeared (in literally seconds) I was in disbelief. I just starred at the test. My first thought was "I'm an idiot, this is an OPK isn't it?" but I realized... no, it was an HPT. OMG.</p> <p>I walked in to the bedroom where DH was still asleep and said "Uhm... I think I'm pregnant". He shot up like a rocket and examined the test with me. We both still just couldn't believe it. We were thinking maybe some medication caused this? Maybe the test is broken? Pregnancy just seemed impossible to us.</p> <p>We called our RE who brought us in for blood work and they confirmed I was definitely pregnant. Just like that it went from being the worst Christmas ever to the best.</p> <p>I'm now 30 weeks pregnant.</p> <p>It really is a miracle... I always think of it as I was spared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704604 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:08:37 +0000 FaithFertility 1704604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsBrewer: Thank you :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704602 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 09:07:09 +0000 MrsBrewer 1704602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay!!!! What an amazing story!! :-) Congrats!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reaction-to-your-surprise-pregnancy-during-if#post-1704563 Tue, 17 Jun 2014 08:56:32 +0000 FaithFertility 1704563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Quick synopsis: TTC for over a yr no success</p> <p>Started seeing a RE, got diagnosis weak ovulation, rarely got my period/ovulated </p> <p>Tried 4 IUI in about 10 month time span: #1 cancled to many egg. #2 successful, but lost chemical, #3 successful but lost chemical #4 unsuccessful</p> <p>Started testing to find out more info: found a bacteria that can cause m/c got on antibiotics, and baby aspirin</p> <p>During that time of blood test and waiting on results DH and I took a cruise, I was no meds other then baby aspirin, came home 2 weeks later I tested and well....... we got our miracle baby! :)</p> <p>When I told people our story many said things like: I knew you just had to relax, or see you were trying to hard, or see and you wasted all that money :/</p> <p>I'm sorry did they forget we TTC for almost 3 yrs, that's not normal</p> <p>I'm my heart I think this road looking back made us closer as a couple and I think it helped us work out a few kinks in my health. .....I always had hope that it would "just happen" why else would I test!?!</p> <p>Just So funny how people that have no clue, still have no clue.....</p> <p>Just wanted to share because I'm sure I am not the only one! </p>