https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 08:45:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2542025 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:45:07 +0000 808love 2542025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: that's a good one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2542019 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:41:19 +0000 mrsrain 2542019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jess1483: love this! Filing it away for future reference! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2542013 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:40:12 +0000 mrsrain 2542013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is young (nearly 2), so I feel your struggle. One thing I have had success with: when she chooses to throw food on the floor during meal time, I calmly explain that when she is done eating she will have to clean up her mess. Then i follow through after the meal. So the natural consequence (someone has to clean it up) becomes HER consequence.<br /> One technique we plan to use is giving her choices: would you like to pick up your toys now or after dinner? The theory being if they have some power over the situation they are less likely to act out. Probably won't work with every child or situation, but could be worth a try! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2542004 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:37:28 +0000 catomd00 2542004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I can't come up with something logical related to the behavior, I usually just ask if she is hungry or tired or needs a hug and once she calms down just explain what behavior is appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2542003 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:36:52 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2542003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She has pretty scheduled TV time from 7:30-8 before bed. So that's the first privledge to go </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2541999 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:33:28 +0000 808love 2541999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she doesn't put on her shoes right away, she can't come with me. I purposely do this 'training activity' when DH is home and it is optional to take her with me.<br /> If she doesn't help clean up something I have asked her, it goes into 'the box'.<br /> If she doesn't get her clothes on, then mommy won't have time to make nice braids.<br /> If she runs around the store, she is not invited out and can't spend time browsing at toys.<br /> IF she gives me a bunch of NOs then I remind her she will get a bunch of NOs when she asks for xyz (whatever I know she wants). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2541990 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:29:11 +0000 Jess1483 2541990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I can't come up with a natural consequence immediately, I say "I'm pretty disappointed in this behavior, and I'm going to have to give some thought to how to address it. You can think about it, too, and we can talk later." I did this when I was teaching, too. It gives them some time to sweat it out a bit, and me some time to make sure my consequence is appropriate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2541982 Thu, 05 May 2016 10:25:12 +0000 PinkElephant 2541982@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends when it is - if she's dragging her feet about coming to dinner/eating, I sometimes threaten to skip bath or not read her a story (or only read one story) and I follow through. It's an easy explanation of "well, now there isn't enough time to read/have a bath/sing one more song".</p> <p>In other circumstances I also struggle, and like you, I make broad, bold threats I won't really follow through with (like "then you can't have a cupcake at your sister's birthday party" - oops). :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/realistic-consequences#post-2540649 Thu, 05 May 2016 09:45:00 +0000 Bao 2540649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my 3 (almost 4) year old is being a monster, DH and I have a hard time coming up with realistic consequences on the spot. It's usually chaos and everyone is frustrated so we will say 'now you can't do X, Y or Z' Sometimes these things aren't convenient for us though, and then we end up going against our word. I don't like to do this! So I'm looking for ways to come up with a realistic consequence for something she has done and sticking to it, so keeping it realistic. </p> <p>What are some examples of consequences you give your LO if they misbehave? </p>