https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 07:31:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557998 Fri, 27 May 2016 08:41:39 +0000 Rescuemom10 2557998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: WOW thats wonderful! Thanks so much for the update. Wishing you the best! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557671 Thu, 26 May 2016 20:10:04 +0000 BrandNewMom 2557671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <br /><p><i>This comment has been deleted by the original poster.</i></p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557597 Thu, 26 May 2016 18:49:20 +0000 simplyfelicity 2557597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's so great! Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557575 Thu, 26 May 2016 18:12:22 +0000 birdofafeather 2557575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: what an awesome reply! Congrats and good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557415 Thu, 26 May 2016 15:56:24 +0000 autumnleaves 2557415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: Congratulations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557402 Thu, 26 May 2016 15:52:00 +0000 Pollywog 2557402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: My agency pays for their travel unless they're in town for another reason. So if you're coming up to see Grandma for the weekend, you might work Friday, Monday, Tuesday and not charge the flight. We do this because my agency is broke. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557387 Thu, 26 May 2016 15:40:51 +0000 CakeLady 2557387@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pollywog: Thank you for sharing your remote work setup! I am planning to put together a proposal to discuss with my boss and I was thinking it would be something along those lines - coming in for 3 days 1-2 times a month on a regular schedule. Out of curiosity - do remote employees pay for their own travel when they come in or does work cover it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557330 Thu, 26 May 2016 15:01:14 +0000 lamariniere 2557330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds amazing, and definitely a sign that you should jump on the opportunity!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557329 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:58:36 +0000 Pollywog 2557329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: That's a great resolution! I'm glad it worked out.</p> <p>I work 90% remotely and strongly suggest you ask your boss about it. What has worked in our office for people in similar situations is once a month you come for 3 days. You fly in first thing Tuesday morning and fly out late Thursday night. You work remotely the rest of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557302 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:33:59 +0000 NorthStar 2557302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: Oh my goodness!!! That is SO amazing! It will be a huge relief to know that it is permanent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557281 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:16:49 +0000 Pancakes 2557281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats! This is very exciting for your family. I hope the transition goes smoothly for you all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557275 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:12:38 +0000 ShootingStar 2557275@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: That's amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557273 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:10:01 +0000 gingerbebe 2557273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557268 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:06:21 +0000 CakeLady 2557268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: @avivoca: @Mamaof2: @Mama Bird: Thank you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557263 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:03:36 +0000 Mama Bird 2557263@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: wow, so happy to see your update! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557259 Thu, 26 May 2016 14:00:28 +0000 Mamaof2 2557259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: wow!!! Congrats! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557258 Thu, 26 May 2016 13:59:18 +0000 avivoca 2557258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: Oh my gosh, that's amazing!!! Congrats to your husband! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557257 Thu, 26 May 2016 13:57:56 +0000 snowjewelz 2557257@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: Seriously!! I mean, it's still a lot of stress and unknown for you, but at least you know you're not moving in vain and the extra $ will help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557250 Thu, 26 May 2016 13:55:51 +0000 CakeLady 2557250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I was pretty shocked especially given everything I know and have heard about non-profit organizations. I guess this is proof that it never hurts to ask... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557243 Thu, 26 May 2016 13:53:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2557243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CakeLady: wow, they really stepped up!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2557232 Thu, 26 May 2016 13:49:13 +0000 CakeLady 2557232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to share an update since so many of you had great advice and suggestions - and were so supportive. </p> <p>After lots of discussion we decided that we couldn't move for a 2 year commitment, so DH sent a very thoughtful email saying that the job was exactly what he was looking for but that he couldn't do it for such a short commitment from them. They said they'd "see what they could do." We just found out that they were able to make the position permanent - and they offered a little more money and a relocation allowance. :shocked:</p> <p>I think we will take the offer more likely than not. I am going to have some serious sorting out to do with my own career and making the transition, but I think this is something we need to do. </p> <p>I'll have to start some new threads about long distance moves, living in Atlanta, and asking your boss about working remotely... feeling pretty overwhelmed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2541058 Wed, 04 May 2016 13:14:33 +0000 Raindrop 2541058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*big hugs* This does sound like a tough choice!! I'm actually not sure what I would do. It sounds like your husband would be happy with this move but you wouldn't. There must be some sort of compromise where both are generally happy. Hopefully? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2541054 Wed, 04 May 2016 13:02:50 +0000 Happygal 2541054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>GO!!!</p> <p>Looking for a job that long is so tough. Anyone who has been miserable in a job and has felt stuck knows just how awful it feels. </p> <p>Two years actually sounds like a long time to me, and like you said, it might open up other opportunities for him. There's just no telling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2541029 Wed, 04 May 2016 12:50:55 +0000 catomd00 2541029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd encourage him to make whatever decision he wanted job wise. But, I would stay in my house and job and mice apart while he tried the new role out and you looked for new jobs in the area. I'd want him to continue looking for other jobs as well m. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2540821 Wed, 04 May 2016 11:04:32 +0000 gingerbebe 2540821@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not make that move personally, but I'm surprised it's even on the table for your husband knowing the facts. If his job is that niche that he cannot find steady employment outside grant funded positions and you can support your family in your current city, would it be better for him to use this time to switch careers or explore more schooling or a different track in the same field? It may be better in the long run to invest in his career for a while, while keeping the rest of your home life stable. Especially since your son is so young and your mom is around to help. I'd encourage him in that direction more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2540800 Wed, 04 May 2016 10:54:16 +0000 ShootingStar 2540800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So I'm going to say I think this is a bad idea, and I would not be on board with my husband doing this. I would possibly consider it if the position was permanent. But there's no way I'd root up our lives for a job that may end in 2 years. Especially not if I was the breadwinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2540756 Wed, 04 May 2016 10:37:30 +0000 CakeLady 2540756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to say thank you so much to everyone who weighed in. I really appreciate all of your varied perspectives and suggestions. It is such a difficult spot to be in and it is so nice to have such a supportive place to go for advice. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2540719 Wed, 04 May 2016 10:20:04 +0000 CakeLady 2540719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Finfan: It's either funded by a grant or a donor. He had grant funded position in the past and the money ran out and he lost his job :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2540716 Wed, 04 May 2016 10:18:24 +0000 CakeLady 2540716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@peachykeen: There is a possibility that another job could come up in our area, and he is very well respected and known here, but it is hard to know when. I am pretty open to moving at some point but I'd like it to be for a longer term opportunity and to a place we are a little more excited about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-difficult-family-decision-what-would-you-do/page/2#post-2540712 Wed, 04 May 2016 10:16:10 +0000 Finfan 2540712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a "no way" vote after reading your original post, and with the additional info in the comments I am a "SERIOUSLY NO WAY" vote now. Sad for your DH because I work in a niche job (not quite to this extent) but that's too much change for a temporary position which I am guessing might be grant-funded so probably even less stable? </p>