https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 08:29:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2346019 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 19:02:31 +0000 JennyD 2346019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our neighbours are constantly disappointed that we won't be having a second. But that's just mildly annoying. </p> <p>There's this woman at work with whom I really disagree on some fundamental parenting things. And she's very outspoken about her parenting beliefs. She's said several things that have really hurt my feelings and made me feel like a terrible mother </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2346010 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:54:04 +0000 Torchwood 2346010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't believe some of these comments! Well, I can, but I wish I couldn't. Why do people think these things are okay to say?! I'll probably get pretty rude to anyone who gives us crap. It took 4 pregnancies to get our one, and welter completely happy as is. We don't want another, and definitely won't be putting ourselves through all that again just to give her a sibling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2346005 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 18:49:40 +0000 skipra 2346005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No where near as crazy as a lot of these but I commented that it was annoying that we can't fit a third passenger in the back seat of our car because of the way the seatbelts cross. And this was just regarding number of people that we could take in our car, absolutely NOTHING to do with having another baby. My step mother said in a nasty voice "Then maybe you should stop having kids!" We have a whopping total of 2 kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345927 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 17:31:19 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2345927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: I still love Jesus haha but I don't have the belief of "God will take care of everything" in the way that he will put money on my doorstep for groceries and a roof over my head. And even more than just the money, I wanted to work! And that is so mind-boggling to people. I finally found a career path that I'm passionate about.<br /> And just yesterday, my son said he wants to be a nurse like me and help people get better :heart: :heart: seriously it just made my heart burst! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345777 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 16:03:37 +0000 littlejoy 2345777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: I just posted - I've had the same response. It makes me so mad!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345776 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 16:02:39 +0000 littlejoy 2345776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a friend tell me, "I don't know how you could put LO in daycare. My LO and I are so connected, and I wouldn't want him to feel abandoned!" -- Uhh, thanks? </p> <p>Additionally, almost everyone questions our choice to raise LO as a vegan. It's pretty annoying, and even though I have facts and data to back up my choices, people are pretty close minded about it. (now that she's older, I give no fucks, and don't even try explaining it to people I know are just being dumb.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345716 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:38:09 +0000 Kimberlybee 2345716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: You can reply with something snarky like "Oh she's just so perfect and all we ever hoped for so we're happy being one and done!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345707 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 15:33:30 +0000 BabyTsMom 2345707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We get this comment all.the.time. From strangers, acquaintances, family..... everyone. Some people just don't get that not everyone wants or feels the need to have more than one child. It grates on me all the time but what can I do... People will judge no matter what! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345586 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 14:39:17 +0000 pwnstar 2345586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Sometimes my fingers are faster than my brain (well, my frontal lobe anyway!). :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345564 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 14:23:37 +0000 mediagirl 2345564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pwnstar: :) I preferred your original comment but understand why you edited it. lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345562 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 14:22:51 +0000 simplyfelicity 2345562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: Oh my gosh, you are awesome.<br /> @MsMini: I could not agree more. Hope you have a smooth transition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345527 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 13:57:53 +0000 Mama Bird 2345527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. People are so rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345483 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 13:33:53 +0000 Truth Bombs 2345483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMini: wow. I couldn't maintain a friendship with someone who said that to me, nor would I be able to bite my tongue from making snarky responses. And thank goodness for a lot of moms with sick babies that people like you DO go back to work!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345438 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:57:36 +0000 MsMini 2345438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A ton of my local Mom friends are SAHM and if I have to hear one more time how sad they are for my kids because I "have to go back to work and let someone else raise them" I will slap a B. I LOVE my job, I have invested time, effort and love into my career and although, yes, it is hard at first to go back (I am back to work tomorrow after 1 year mat leave), I KNOW I am a more patient, fulfilled, and loving Mom when I have work as an outlet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345411 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:31:32 +0000 Cherrybee 2345411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Id be really touched if my boss said that! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345406 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:25:01 +0000 FaithFertility 2345406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Right there with you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345405 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:24:22 +0000 snowjewelz 2345405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the record, I WANT another a girl (of course I'd be happy with a boy too), but in the future if I do have another girl, I will seriously be furious that people are so concern that I only have 1 gender, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345404 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:23:13 +0000 Truth Bombs 2345404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: He has EIGHT kids. You would think he would have learned better by now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345402 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:21:55 +0000 wrkbrk 2345402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: Older white male as well? SHOCKING! :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345400 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:21:00 +0000 Truth Bombs 2345400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wrkbrk: UGH, our office Christmas Party is planned on my due date and my managing director keeps loudly announcing that he'll invite an OBGYN so it will be totally fine if I deliver at the party. DUDE, even if I haven't had the baby yet, I'm not coming to the party! Nor do I want to discuss my uterus in the work environment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345399 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:20:37 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2345399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why don't people just keep their dumb mouths shut.</p> <p>I've gotten a lot of crap about our spacing... Too close according to the masses.<br /> "Don't you know how this happens" "guess your hubby will be thing it up once this one comes" "better you than me"</p> <p>I'm surprised we haven't gotten much about having only girls. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345398 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:20:16 +0000 snowjewelz 2345398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: :sad: Ugh I am sorry about that first comment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one/page/2#post-2345394 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:17:33 +0000 wrkbrk 2345394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@GoGoSnoGirl: HAHAHAHA!</p> <p>@pwnstar: Well holy crap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345390 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:12:30 +0000 wrkbrk 2345390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Or, my favorite obnoxious comment: "We got it right the first time." [insert sweet smile here]. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345386 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 12:09:47 +0000 wrkbrk 2345386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: People are idiots. I am still suffering through pregnancy commentary but I am sure the parenting commentary will follow shortly. One of my bosses at work on Monday loudly declared in the elevator that he hoped to make it down to the lobby before I delivered. I am 38 weeks and dont even look that big ........ :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345339 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:31:33 +0000 Raindrop 2345339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: haha! We are the same but with boys. Maybe it is a family thing? My family and DHs family is like all guys so girls are rare. He is one of 3 brothers and I am the only girl of 7 guy cousins my age and my brother. So everyone just wants more girls. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345327 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:24:35 +0000 Raindrop 2345327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: I am on the flip side. People are telling me I am wasting my education by not working more (I went part time recently). Also they fear for my current job because part timers are the first to go so I should go back full time ASAP and use my education and make money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345324 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 11:23:10 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2345324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before I went on mat leave, a woman in my office (whom I don't believe is interested in having children) said "hopefully you don't get 'mommy tracked'". Uhhh, what?!? We have MANY successful, hard working moms at our company, including our VP. Additionally, I've waited a long time to be a mother, so I actually want to stay at home with LO for a while &amp; couldn't care less about work right now! Lol!<br /> I've also gotten a LOT of the "will you/when will you have another?" questions. LO is 5mos... give me a break! I should start telling these strangers, mostly, "I'm not ovulating yet, I'll let you know when I do." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345280 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 10:49:32 +0000 SweetiePie 2345280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My MIL said something similar when I mentioned we may be one and done. She was mortified and started crying saying "but he needs a sibling". No, you want another grandchild. So stop pretending to be worried about him!<br /> Yes, I do wonder if I should give my son a sibling. But for me, that's not a reason to have another kid if I'm not sure I want to! Between IVF, Cholestasis, difficult labor, and PPD - sorry, but there are other factors to consider, lady!<br /> (Lady = MIL, haha). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/really-how-could-you-possibly-be-happy-with-just-one#post-2345238 Thu, 05 Nov 2015 10:31:18 +0000 sorrycharlie 2345238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we got many comments during my last pregnancy about how we could try again for a boy. um, we didn't fail, so..</p> <p>one aunt (who has two girls!!) actually spoke to me like we were at a funeral. all, "oh..yeah. well, there's always the next baby!" like I'm going to just keep tossing girls aside til we have an elusive boy? what exactly can a boy do that a girl cannot, aside from have a penis? (and even that isn't end all be all these days..ha). </p>