https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 12:47:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions/page/2#post-2426062 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:44:55 +0000 LindsayLou 2426062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with previous posters. His comments are rude and uncalled for. I can relate to having a husband who makes meal planning difficult. Mine rarely makes suggestions, doesn't always like what I like, and doesn't do the cooking himself so isn't always understanding of the effort it takes. That said, he's appreciative and gracious. </p> <p>I verbally or through text ask him what sounds good every time I meal plan or go to the store. He's terrible about coming up with suggestions, but if I give him a list of all the things that sound good to me, he'll usually choose 4 or 5. His most common request is "something new", which I try to accommodate and take note of what goes over especially well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions/page/2#post-2426036 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 13:29:22 +0000 JerricaBenton 2426036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It does sort of seem like a no-win situation. My DH rarely gives suggestions unless it's a special request, but he is also pretty easy to please. Could you try doing your weekly plan on Thursday, and giving it to him to look over before you shop? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions/page/2#post-2425952 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 12:41:48 +0000 gingerbebe 2425952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the not eating what you cook thing is rude but if he just can't seem to eat it because of weird food issues then whatever. You can't force someone to eat. However he CAN learn to STFU with the comments. I would tell him you won't complain anymore about how rude and annoying his food habits are if he will shut up about what's on the table. He can not like what's on the table and still say (and truly mean) "thank you for taking the time and effort to make our family a nice healthy meal." If he won't eat it, then figure it out but he doesn't have to be a jerk about it. You're not a mind reader. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions/page/2#post-2425925 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 12:24:34 +0000 Freckles 2425925@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: Costco is my least favourite destination, so i don't know about that! I just remembered something i say to LO1 which would apply to your husband "You get what you get, and you don't get upset." Good luck! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions/page/2#post-2425856 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 12:00:35 +0000 simplyfelicity 2425856@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is sort of a damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-don't situation. He isn't willing to meal plan (or offer suggestions) but is willing to complain...how can you win? This kind of behavior might be expected of a teenage boy, not a grown man. So, you might have to treat it that way. Instead of having him look at these resources you were so gracious to put together for him to peruse on his own time, I would say "hey, here's your laptop, we are going to meal plan for this week RIGHT NOW." And hold him "hostage" until you guys come up with a plan. There is no reason why all the pressure should be on you-- he eats after all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425853 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:59:38 +0000 brownepiano 2425853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH never helps with ideas but he also rarely complains about what we eat. I try to cook without ingredients I know he didn't like. In the end he's happy because he knows we save a lot of money by how I manage our food. Maybe you need to have a talk about that end of things? Or just let him make his own dinner if he doesn't like what you made. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425852 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:58:50 +0000 Autumnmama79 2425852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: I plan my meals with the following things in mind:</p> <p>1. What will DD like?<br /> 2. What will DH like?<br /> 3. What is easiest/will take the least time?</p> <p>I'm in charge of grocery shopping and cooking - I don't need to ask DH! He loves everything I cook which is great.</p> <p>If you already know what things he likes, could you just go ahead and make the decision yourself? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425841 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:55:11 +0000 mrbee 2425841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are a saint! I would just refuse to cook under those circumstances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425836 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:54:16 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2425836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This us my DH. He is extremely picky but has ZERO suggestions. I basically make what I want barring things I know he actually hates (like fish) but I consistently serve veggies and sides that he says he doesn't like because he claims to only like broccoli but won't eat that half the time either. I got met with a lot of resistance for a long time and it added to tension in our marriage but he's learn to eat it or make something he wants. He rarely complains these days but it was fight for a while and it's still discouraging when I cook a meal for him and he doesn't eat it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425815 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:48:12 +0000 deerylou 2425815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: Yeah, pretty much this. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425814 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:47:46 +0000 matador84 2425814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I make whatever I want. He's not picky but won't eat anything without meat in it. I make what's convenient for me since I'm the one cooking...he just has to deal with it. It'd be different if he cooked! I ask at the beginning of the week if there is anything he wants me to make, and if he doesn't suggest I just do whatever is easiest for kids and I. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425811 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:46:55 +0000 erinbaderin 2425811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good grief. I get frustrated at my husband for his complete lack of dinner suggestions, but he never says anything about what I cook and eats everything happily, I just get frustrated having to come up with all the ideas myself. If he was not helping and then being snotty about it I think I'd give up entirely and cook meals for me + children and not even make enough for him. Which is obviously not a helpful suggestions, but I think you've gotten lots of those, chief among them to start practicing the line "I asked you, you had no opinion, I am not a short order cook." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425793 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:41:59 +0000 yoursilverlining 2425793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: "I don't have time for a man child who does the same. "</p> <p>yes! I'm only the parent to 1 child! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425769 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:29:01 +0000 deerylou 2425769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A couple rules we should all follow: grown adults should try new foods (within dietary limits), be gracious more often than not, and make helpful suggestions if they want an opinion.</p> <p>I already have a toddler who makes dinner table comments like, "yuck, deeeeee-gusting," and, "I don't eat dat, mommy." I don't have time for a man child who does the same. </p> <p>Tell your DH he's welcome to pick up take-out and stop cooking for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425768 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:28:11 +0000 Mrs D 2425768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: Seriously...if he did it for a week he'd come crying to me and begging me for forgiveness!</p> <p>@Freckles: he one time called my grocery shopping "free time"...as if it was fun...he has never made that mistake again!!!</p> <p>@yoursilverlining: exactly...I agree... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425762 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:22:31 +0000 yoursilverlining 2425762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you are over the age of 18, having someone cook dinner for you is a privilege, not a right. Unless that person is continually making dinner you are actually allergic to, be grateful. Women are no more required to make dinner every night than men are. Make what works for you and if he isn’t on board, he can either learn how to cook and actually do it, or I’m sure he knows where the cereal is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425752 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:14:29 +0000 Freckles 2425752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is never good at coming up with suggestions, nor does he have time to think about anything related to meal planning so i can commiserate on that end. However, he is not picky and he is thankful for the food i am able to put out on the dinner table every day. The man knows better than to complain about the meal choice, especially with two kids and busy work schedules.</p> <p>I think if DH made little comments here and there, i would be really resentful. Even if it came down to me saying "eat a sandwich." You're bending over backwards for his input and he still responds that way? Honestly, just "this is what i'm making this week and i'm going grocery shopping right now. this is your last chance to make any changes" should be enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425739 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:04:29 +0000 yellowbird 2425739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Dh never comes up with ideas so I just make whatever I want. He never complains though!! If he did, there would be no way I would cook for him! That is just impossible </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425737 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:03:55 +0000 youboots 2425737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are far too gracious. I vote you delegate meal planning and grocery shopping to him for a week or a month.</p> <p>M isn't picky, I am. So I meal plan and cook things I like. My Mom still gives me a hard time about being a picky eater, welp not anymore since I'm the chef in my house. M is GF which makes meal planning a challenge sometimes, but we both like corn pasta and our local bakery makes gf sandwich bread. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425733 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 11:02:27 +0000 PurplePumps 2425733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, you are more patient than I. Unless he's cooking or buying groceries for a recipe or at the very least giving input, he can just eat what i cook and that's that. Picky?? Do something about it or shut up and eat is what I'd tell him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425715 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:53:39 +0000 petunia354 2425715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Amen! Same here! If I'm getting meals on the table 5 or 6 nights out of 7, DH knows better than to say anything other than "this is delicious!" :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425702 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:47:27 +0000 Mrs D 2425702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Applesandbananas: @Applesandbananas: @travellingbee: Its always so nice to know you are not alone...</p> <p>I'm going to start putting my foot down a bit more...time for him to stop being childish!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425700 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:46:44 +0000 macintosh 2425700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is nuts to me. DH is disabled so he doesn't really have the option to make his own food. I buy and cook the same basic stuff each week that I know he likes. The only imperative is that it had to be vegetarian. He never complains and he always says thank you, this is good. Sounds like your guy needs a reality check. He should be grateful or make his own dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425690 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:42:20 +0000 travellingbee 2425690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is really bad about giving input as to what he wants but always happily eats whatever I make. And if he doesn't like it, he eats it anyway. Never once heard a complaint. He knows better than that. Ditto what everyone else said. I'd deal with him like my toddler. (I say, "OK, you don't have to eat it." and Smile. --- Implied ---&gt; But I'm not making you something else. You figure it out.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425672 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:33:47 +0000 Cherrybee 2425672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: Your DH sounds a lot like mine, with his bizarre food rules and total lack of planning input! It doesn't usually get as far as me cooking the meal - he usually says he "doesn't fancy that" every other night then goes to the shop and buys something else. Then the meal I've planned goes to waste (or gets frozen, but then when I defrost it he doesn't fancy it so it goes to waste then!). I go through phases of not meal planning, but then we have a nightly argument in which neither of us know what we want for dinner and don't fancy the other person's suggestions! Its a nightmare!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425665 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:29:52 +0000 Applesandbananas 2425665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: hugs, girl. My DH was like this and it drove me crazy. I finally said if you don't tell me what you want, so I can buy it, you can eat a sandwich or whatever. There are a few frozen meals he likes, so I always buy a couple in case he doesn't want to eat what I've cooked and there are always sandwich fixings. I don't get annoyed if he doesn't eat what I made since I take leftovers for lunch! Just means one more lunch for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425658 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:27:49 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2425658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I go through this alot with my husband too. It's not just meals at home, but take out too (we do that just as much if not more).</p> <p>Last night what I heard him say was 1/2 chicken dark no sides. I brought home that for him and two sides (just easier &amp; can be left over for me) and meatloaf for me. Well, all of a sudden he wants meatloaf and I should *know* he only likes rotisserie chicken from X place. I went Y and this was the first time I went to Y for him. Oh boy! NBD, we'll switch and I'll use the leftover chicken in something else. What do you know he ate the sides.</p> <p>Alot of what I hear after I finish cooking something he first tells me he doesn't want is "I'll have *your* ABC" and then "Is there anymore?" Nowadays I cook primarily for what I want to eat and just make sure the type/ cuts of meat are things he wI'll eat too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425657 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:27:14 +0000 Mrs D 2425657@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: it makes my head want to explode... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425648 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:23:42 +0000 babycanuck 2425648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Constantly.<br /> DH complains I make the same stuff over and over.<br /> I ask - what do you want for dinner. His response: "Food."</p> <p>@#$%$#@#$%^ kick in the head please. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reason-467-i-may-kill-dh-complete-lack-of-dinner-suggestions#post-2425644 Mon, 18 Jan 2016 10:22:42 +0000 Mrs D 2425644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Happygal: a 5 year old is a great way to describe him some times ;)</p> <p>@BandDmommy: haha - so the sandwich thing was my solution for a while...I was buying lunch meat each week (we really only eat lunch at home 1 day a week - Sunday - so I normally dont buy it)...then I was getting so pissed each week as I threw out tons of lunch meat - so I cut him off from that! ;) Now he is down to "you can have a PBJ if you dont like it"... </p>