https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 02:18:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-509361 Thu, 17 Jan 2013 07:34:31 +0000 blackbird 509361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dug out my book for a quick summary: </p> <p>Stress hormones are lower<br /> Growth hormones are higher<br /> Sleep is more peaceful<br /> Physiology is more stable<br /> SIDS risk is lower<br /> Safer than crib sleeping when smoking and liquor abuse is removed from the situation and co-bedding is done right<br /> Promotion of long term emotional health-follow up research shows children are happier, less anxious, less afraid of sleep, and have fewer behavioral problems<br /> Night feedings are easier </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-509273 Thu, 17 Jan 2013 00:08:22 +0000 daniellemybelle 509273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know if there is an official reason, but research shows the incidence of SIDS is lower in babies that sleep in the same room as their parents (not the same bed). We'll have our LO in our room at night for the first 6 months at least for that reason, in a crib or bassinet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508869 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 19:03:01 +0000 stargal 508869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We bedshare most nights. We do it BC its easier to tend to him and I love sleeping next to him. Some of my favorite moments happen right before bed and I would miss them entirely if we didn't cosleep. Also SIDS scares me to death and Ip have some seperation problems with him being in his room by himself for the night sends me into a panic... I don't know why but it does<br /> I just feel safer when he is with me. I'm kinda paranoid I guess. But I LOVE cosleeping and am a huge advocate of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508782 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 18:04:34 +0000 DillonLion 508782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is a noisy, grunty sleeper and I like to change positions constantly. We all sleep better when we have our own separate sleeping quarters. I sleep with a video monitor and that gives me peace of mind. Co sleeping (and co bedding) was great in the early days and for occasional naps now, but that's it for us (LO is 7 weeks) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508767 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 17:55:27 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 508767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 4 months and will be in the co-sleeper for the foreseeable future. Its easier for me to nurse him or comfort him back to sleep if he's right there. But my understanding of the recommendation for room-sharing is the same as @Arden. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508724 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 17:32:35 +0000 MrsRcCar 508724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS sleeps in his crib in our room. We simply do not have another room to move him to right now. (Although I think if we did I still wouldn't move him) I like knowing that he is very close to DH and I. My good friend had a DD pass away from SIDS and the whole idea scares me to pieces. DH and I took it very hard when she lost her DD. (Her DD is our god daughter. ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508684 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 17:17:37 +0000 blackbird 508684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We'll be doing it because it seems so much easier! I read a Sears book on baby sleep and it quoted a lot of Dr McKenna's research and it just made a lot of sense. </p> <p>I think babies are like adults when they can sense that their parents are near. Most of us sleep better next to/near our husbands, right? We just instinctively know if we are alone. I think babies are probably the same...they know mom and dad are there and sleep better than they do in another room. </p> <p>There have been studies on anxiety levels and breathing patterns that show that babies who sleep in the same room are less stressed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508674 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 17:14:11 +0000 Mrs. Pen 508674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: I have heard that but I thought it was if you co-bed!</p> <p>I liked him in our room for my peace of mind and easier night feedings but that has nothing to do with SIDS haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508644 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 17:01:46 +0000 travelgirl1 508644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of interesting points! My LO is 10 weeks old and we have her crib pushed right against my side of the bed so I can see her all the time. I love this arrangement and would be super paranoid about her breathing if she wasn't with us. Another reason I like it is because it means I can instantly see if something is wrong, like today I woke up and saw she'd busted out of her swaddle and some of the material had crept up around her nose. I could reach out and fix it straight away </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508581 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:28:54 +0000 MegWag 508581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting!<br /> Thanks for the info ladies.<br /> We actually co-bedded early on. There's no room in our bedroom for a crib or pack and play- even a bassinet would have been pushing it! (Man, British people design small bedrooms!!)<br /> I think the thing about proximity makes some sense. Our bedroom and the nursery are right next door to each other and the crib is actually against the same wall as our headboard, so maybe we're linked up that way! I think we're actually in closer proximity than we would be if he was in our room- though there is a wall between us :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508569 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:22:26 +0000 littlek 508569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO was born 6 weeks early and spent 10 days in the NICU, where he was hooked up to monitors to watch his breathing. He also weighed less than 5 lbs when we took him home, there was no way I was going to put him in another room until he was bigger. I wanted to have him close so I could hear and see him breath. We waited until he was 4 months old to move him, because I felt at that time he was big enough to be in his own room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508559 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:20:01 +0000 London Mama 508559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Speaking for myself, having DS in our room has made the nights a lot easier as I barely have to get out of bed to grab him for feedings.</p> <p>But I've also kept him with us for the same reasons as explained by Prettylizy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508553 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:19:07 +0000 prettylizy 508553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears-co-sleeping-a-sids-danger" rel="nofollow">http://www.parenting.com/article/ask-dr-sears-co-sleeping-a-sids-danger</a></p> <p>article by Dr. Sears re: cosleeping. We did a mixture of co-sleeping and co-bedding. For the most part she slept in her bassinet next to my side of the bed, except in cases of extream exhaustion on my part during the 4 month sleep regression where she slept wherever we landed together! lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508552 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:19:05 +0000 Mrsbells 508552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@prettylizy: Yes i agree with this! very true about not sleeping deeply if your baby is very close by </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508551 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:18:24 +0000 mrskc 508551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I read somewhere that they thought it was good b/c the baby can hear their parents breathing. I dunno tho. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508546 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:17:28 +0000 Arden 508546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"New research has shown that in most cases, SIDS is caused by a baby's inability to arouse himself from sleep. Normally, when something occurs that threatens your baby's well being, such as difficulty breathing, he will automatically wake up. For reasons that are still unknown, in some babies, this protective mechanism does not go off, and so these babies are more at risk for SIDS.</p> <p>This is where the positive aspects of co-sleeping come in. Dr. James McKenna, director of the Mother-Baby Sleep Laboratory and Professor of Anthropology at the University of Notre Dame, has conducted numerous studies of mothers and babies who were co-sleeping and night nursing. His group of researchers found that mom and baby share similar patterns of sleep arousals, what we call "nighttime harmony." They drifted in and out of sleep stages in a similar, but not always identical, pattern. Some SIDS researchers believe that this is a factor in baby's protective arousal mechanism. This harmony may also be related to a psychological synchronicity between co-sleeping mothers and their babies: The co-sleeping mom is more likely to subconsciously sense if her baby's health is in danger and wake up.</p> <p>Researchers also believe that the carbon dioxide you exhale when you sleep close to your baby may help stimulate her breathing."</p> <p>Note: Co-sleeping simply means room-sharing. Bed sharing is a type of co-sleeping, but not the only type. Most researchers recommend a side-car cosleeper or bassinet within arm's reach of the mother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508542 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:16:13 +0000 MsLipGloss 508542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, it comes down to the combination of the following: (1) BFing; (2) frequent night wakings (for many reasons, including reflux); and (3) our master is on the main floor and the nursery is upstairs.</p> <p>ETA: We mostly co-sleep, but occasionally co-bed. You gotta do whatever gets the baby--and you!--some Zs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508538 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:15:20 +0000 prettylizy 508538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm paraphrashing what my doula explained to me, but mama and baby will synch up their breathing when they sleep in close proximity which is apparently what reduces SIDS. Also, apparently when baby is close by, mama sleeps differently, not as deeply which combined with being tuned in to your little one helps you wake up sooner/quicker to tend to them etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508533 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:14:07 +0000 mrsjazz 508533@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything I've read has said that there are studies that show that babies are safest when they sleep in the same room as their mothers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508524 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:12:28 +0000 sunny 508524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Breastfeeding is linked to lowering the risk of SIDS and if they are in your room perhaps it promotes BF or BF for 6 months or longer? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508522 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:11:51 +0000 Crisark 508522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have the room for her to be in her own room when she's born until we move so that's the only reason she'll be in our room.<br /> My other two LO's were in their rooms immediately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508519 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:11:01 +0000 Bao 508519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am curious as to why this is recommended too. I had LO in our room for the ease of things, but she is 4.5 months and is in her own room now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508514 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:10:05 +0000 Mrsbells 508514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MegWag: I think its because certain things can increase the risk of SIDS or suffocation. Such as the baby's airway getting blocked and if they are in the same room as you, you are more likely to notice that something is wrong </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508513 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:09:30 +0000 ShootingStar 508513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There have been studies that show that the SIDS risk is reduced if the baby is in the same room as the parents. Also a lot of people also like to have the baby close by for easy night feedings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508508 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:08:16 +0000 plantains 508508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very curious to see what the answers to this are. Baby sleeps in our room ans she is almost 7 months old. I am pretty excited to move her to her own room though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reasoning-for-having-baby-in-room#post-508498 Wed, 16 Jan 2013 16:05:48 +0000 MegWag 508498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my son is 10.5 months and has been in his own crib for many months now. I've always wondered about the logic behind the recommendation that you keep the baby in the room with you for the first six months (and according to someone on another thread, they're about to increase it to the first year!). They say it's to reduce the risk of SIDS, I think.... but... if SIDS is going to happen, isn't it going to happen regardless of where the baby is? I mean, SIDS is sudden and unexplained, right?<br /> So what difference does it make if the baby is in the room with you, in another room just across the way, or even on the other side of the house?<br /> I'm genuinely curious. Anyone know what the logic is? I always assumed it was more for parental peace of mind than anything else. </p>