https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 22 Jun 2026 23:48:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294673 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 09:48:01 +0000 snowjewelz 2294673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH 5 days, and it's not so bad. And I want to SAH too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294560 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 08:23:01 +0000 Alivoo01 2294560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS goes to daycare 5 days a week, and he enjoys it! On the rare occasion he stays home with me, he gets a bit confused and thinks it's the weekend. LOL! He's 2.</p> <p>I like that daycare provides a routine so he knows what to expect. We kind of adapted to that schedule so there's not much fluctuation between weekdays and weekends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294523 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 08:05:40 +0000 Eko 2294523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TiredmommaMD: thanks! That is what I'm thinking, but just waiting to feel it as well! The reassurance helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294500 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:51:40 +0000 TiredmommaMD 2294500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOHM and work a lot actually, more than I'd like to. I can tell you that leaving your kid with someone you trust whole-heartedly is EVERYTHING. She you feel just ok about your childcare provider it is so hard to get through the day. I would work the extra day and go with the daycare you love if it were me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294479 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:43:00 +0000 Eko 2294479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ms.line: @Mrs D: definitely finding part time care is nearly impossible. I work in a law office and was already thinking about how demanding work would be. Talking with coworkers everyone weekly is already putting in an extra 10 hours a week. I was planning on making up hours early in the week when DH doesn drop offs so I can go in early and work through lunch. I guess overall it would be easier for us both if he was there for a third day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294470 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:35:38 +0000 Eko 2294470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: I never thought about how confusing the schedule would be for him. I do want to still have our parents watch him. It helps create a better relationship and that's important to me. Taking one day off a month is a good idea! I may not be able to really start doing that until the new year, but that sounds great. I have limited PTO from being out for 4 months.</p> <p>@Mrs D: unfortunately it's nowhere near me and I wouldn't be able to do that. It's near DHs work.</p> <p>@blackbird: work might let me do that! I definitely like how easy and reliable this woman seems and overall sounds like it would make life easier for us, which is why I'm considering it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294468 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:34:51 +0000 Mrs D 2294468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ms.line: I completely agree with what you have said about flex time being difficult. In my field (auditing - formerly an external audit firm) the firms preach flex time for moms but all it really means is 1) cramming the work into less days 2) annoying employees who need you when you are not available 3) extra risk in performance reviews if you really adhere to the 80%. I think if you work in a job where you can easily leave work at the office it is much easier...but some jobs it just seems like less pay for the same stress! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294461 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:29:28 +0000 ms.line 2294461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going through a similar struggle right now! I would love to go down to 80% at work and use a combo of daycare and grandpacare, but finding ANY daycare is currently proving to be an issue, let alone with part-time attendance. It's looking like we'll have to pay for a full week, and I can't justify cutting back my hours at work in that case. FWIW, my company has a lot of flex time offerings, so there are a lot of younger moms who only work 3-4 days a week. And really thinking about it, they don't seem any less stressed than the moms who are there 5 days a week! I think in many cases their actual workload wasn't reduced much when they dropped their hours, so now they're trying to compress 100% work into 80% time (or less). Also, it seems many of the moms who work 3 days a week struggle to find a routine, especially since they've cobbled together childcare. I think it's awesome that you've found a woman you trust so much that can do a full month for $1,200! Returning to work will no doubt be a period of adjustment, but at least you'll have some peace of mind knowing your LO is in great hands! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294456 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:23:33 +0000 blackbird 2294456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worked 5 days a week work E and you just get used to it. Right now I'm off every other Friday. Is that an option? Sure you lose out on the daycare cost but.....it's nice for a little while, until you get into more of a groove. Our Friday daycare lady can be somewhat unreliable (right now her dad is very sick so I try to be understanding but sometimes things get sprung on me last minute) and it's frustrating </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294454 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:22:34 +0000 Mrs D 2294454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work a full 5 days and its not that bad. Actually I love it. Part of why I can love it is because I love the women who care for my DD. I think if you love this woman then you should follow your gut.</p> <p>Is it close to your work? Could you take DS to breakfast a few mornings a week? Or go over on your lunch break to see him? That may help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294453 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:22:31 +0000 erinbaderin 2294453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man, that's a tough call. I know a little bit how you feel - I decided that I was going to work from home two afternoons a week so I could pick my son up from daycare early, and when I told my job about this great plan they said "What? No, you can't do that." I think that the peace of mind you get from knowing that your son is someplace really great where they love him and will take great care of him will help, and once you get back into the 5 days a week routine you'll be ok, it will just be tough coming to terms with getting to spend less time with your baby.</p> <p>Would you send your son there all 5 days, or pay for 5 days but only send him for 3 and leave him with your mom for the other 2 anyway? I feel like your original plan (2 days with your parents, 2 days at daycare, 1 day with you) might have been confusing for a little kid - harder to get a sense of stability when you're in a different place every day? Somebody made me feel better about not picking my son up early twice a week by telling me that kids did better with a set routine anyway, where their days were predictable, so maybe going to the same place 5 days a week will be better in the long run. And do you get vacation time? Maybe once a month you can take a day off and spend the day with him and do special mommy/baby days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassurance-going-back-to-work#post-2294449 Fri, 18 Sep 2015 07:04:41 +0000 Eko 2294449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I normally don't post this kind of stuff, but some reassurance would be nice. I heading back to work in 3 weeks from having a long 4 months off. We set it up so that my parents are watching DS 2x/week. DH and I agreed it would be nice and could make it work so that I only work 4 days a week. I really enjoyed the thought that I would get that extra day with DS. Plus, it would be a day we don't have to pa for daycare.</p> <p>So, we've been daycare hunting for two days and turns out there is such limited availability, especially for part-time hours. We have only found two places. One place is a daycare center, it wasn't bad, and charged $700/month. We managed to only find one home daycare that would even talk to us. This woman is absolutely amazing. DH and I beyond love her and would feel so comfortable leaving DS there. But, we would need to pay for a full week, which for her is $1200/month (a steal in my opinion).</p> <p>We really want to go with her because of the flexibly it provides. My mom isn't exactly in a stable position and it is possible down the road she wouldn't be able to help us anymore. But, to offset cost I would realistically need to work a full five days</p> <p>I know moms do it all the time, but I just got it stuck in my head I would be with LO an extra day. I love this woman and know she would take such excellent care of DS. Sorry for the rant. Tell me it's not so bad! </p>