https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 08:44:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074778 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:52:12 +0000 birdofafeather 1074778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>agreed with PPs, you can't spoil at that age! and even if you want to constantly hold your kiddo at whatever age, that's up to you, not others! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074751 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:45:41 +0000 ShootingStar 1074751@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't believe you can spoil a newborn that young. However, I do believe that *you* can turn something into a habit. Like picking him up the minute he cries. But if that's how you're comfortable parenting, and what feels right, then don't let anyone else tell you you're wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074747 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:45:07 +0000 googly-eyes 1074747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not spoiling, and this coming from someone who isn't an AP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074718 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:39:49 +0000 Kemma 1074718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely NOT spoiling your baby! Enjoy every sweet minute :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074667 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:27:21 +0000 Bookish 1074667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't think you can spoil a 4 week old! I loooved snuggling on my little bug, and she would sleep on me all the time. Then as the weeks passed, she stopped wanting to sleep on mama, and is sleeping at night in her crib and napping anywhere but on me! Enjoy it while you can!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074642 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:16:21 +0000 Boheme 1074642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ZombieBullfrogHoller: :heart: Snuggle that sweet boy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074635 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:14:48 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1074635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Goodness, thank you all! :D That's certainly great to hear! </p> <p>@grizz: The 4th trimester - that all makes so much sense and is how I felt! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074633 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:14:24 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1074633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Repeat to self: Spoiling is impossible at this age, and my MIL is delusional. Spoiling is impossible at this age, and my MIL is delusional. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074623 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:11:44 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1074623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like PP have said. You can't spoil a newborn. Do what you feel is right for your baby. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074612 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:09:08 +0000 bpcmarj 1074612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You cannot spoil a newborn! If you are happy and so is he, then go with it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074609 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:08:12 +0000 mrbee 1074609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've heard both schools of thought on this. In the end, if you don't mind holding your baby, then I think you should hold your baby all you want!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074601 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:05:46 +0000 hilsy85 1074601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Repeat: You cannot spoil a newborn. You cannot spoil a newborn.<br /> You're his mama, and he needs you. I would just ignore everyone else (as hard as I'm sure that is), because continuing to listen to their opinions when they are at odds with yours and what you believe is right for your baby will only make you annoyed and upset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074600 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:05:30 +0000 edelweiss 1074600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i think what you're doing is fine. if and when you're ready for a change, you'll know because that's for you to decide, not others. the wrap is a great idea! </p> <p>not every baby is snuggly so enjoy it for as long as you like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074597 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:04:45 +0000 pelikila 1074597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone's parenting style is different. I definitely followed more of an "attachment parenting" approach and that included holding my baby A LOT. Go with your gut on what feels right for you and your baby and just say "thank you for your opinion" and keep doing what you are doing. Also, cluster feeding isn't unusual at that age so no worries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074596 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:03:54 +0000 Lindsay05 1074596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. I am sure at some point you will need to transition or force baby to sleep alone but that newborn stage is fine. Now if LO is 8 years old and still needs to sleep with you, then thats spoiling. Personally, I forced swing/playpen sleeping because I needed that time away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074593 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:03:44 +0000 BananaPancakes 1074593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't even have to read what you wrote. I firmly believe you can't spoil a newborn. Do what you feel is right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074591 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:03:05 +0000 Boheme 1074591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is no such thing as spoiling a newborn, and it pisses me off when people guilt new moms by saying that. Dr Sears has a theory that the first 12 weeks of baby's life are the 'fourth trimester', where baby is adjusting to the outside world. It reassures and comforts them to be held, rocked, and interacted with. Babies do not have the emotional complexity to manipulate you into holding them. They just want to feel secure. Go with your gut as a mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074589 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 14:02:31 +0000 bunnylove08 1074589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you're doing what a normal mother would do, tend to your baby's needs. If you're okay with what you're doing then who cares what everyone else says because you're with your LO 100% of the time and they're with them 1% of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074579 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 13:58:05 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1074579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On that note, I cannot wait until the Moby wrap I ordered gets here. x__x </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/reassure-or-enlighten-me-am-i-spoiling-my-newborn#post-1074569 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 13:54:54 +0000 ZombieBullfrogHoller 1074569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, I need some honesty here. :P There is just so much conflicting information - especially when you have a ton of outspoken family members :S</p> <p>LO turns 4 weeks on Wednesday. For the first 2 weeks, when he wasn't sleeping or eating or getting changed, he was chill with just laying in his bassinet. But I would rather hold him and he was chill with that, so that's what we did. I would put him down now and again, but for the most part, he was being held or laying in our laps. He loves being snuggled :3 I scoop him up as soon as he cries. I will let him fuss a bit, but as soon as the crying starts, I'm like "Nope! *baby grab*" </p> <p>MIL and other family members kept going on about spoiling him and how we were setting up bad habits, etc. I had remembered reading somewhere that you can't spoil a newborn. And that's what I want to believe, so that's what I diverted to, haha.</p> <p>Well, for the last two weeks LO has been cluster feeding every so many days like there's no tomorrow! Now he's out of the last batch and whenever we lay him down he fusses and cries until he is picked up. Then he's happy as a clam :P This is only throughout the day - he sleeps very well at night. As long as he's fed and swaddled he wakes up every 4 hours or so and is good to go. </p> <p>This newfound neediness doesn't bother me. Yes, it's tiring, but I thought this was normal newborn behavior and so I expected it. I mean, it seems like a little baby should want to be held and comforted all the time, right? :x</p> <p>So yeah, am I "ruining" my baby (I mean, it's bound to happen, but already? ;) ) </p>