https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 06:42:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44778 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 21:20:23 +0000 Katm558 44778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tana_bk - It's so true! You would think people would be so overjoyed and relaxed on vacation....</p> <p>I guess I took the article as a serious conversation, rather than a sarcastic view on parenting. I think I'm just being overly sensitive right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44726 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 17:51:22 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 44726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@katm558 my husband worked at "the happiest place on earth" as well. He said he has never seen so many angry families in one place since. </p> <p>I thought the article was interesting as well. I'm sure I will want to read the different baby books before I have a child, but I doubt I will strictly follow any of them. I don't do that with any aspect of my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44724 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 17:38:29 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 44724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really liked it! I was chuckling through that whole article. :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44702 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 15:32:08 +0000 MsMamaBear 44702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved it!</p> <p>@anewme: That's how I took it as well! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44694 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 15:14:59 +0000 anewme 44694@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Katm558: Soo interesting. When I read it I didn't think she was quite saying that she thought children were inconvenient, but rather taking a sarcastic view of it. I took it as her trying to say we should let go a little and stop expecting that children can come into our world and be cured by all the books, experts and theories. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44679 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 14:31:45 +0000 yoursilverlining 44679@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting article! I don't necessarily agree with the author that all animals outside humans are natural mothers - many animals of all species abandon their newborns/young both in the wild and in zoos. </p> <p>I do agree that children are an inconvenience. I mean, your life changes conpletely. You no longer can just run away for a day or a weekend if you want. That's not a bad thing, but sure, they inconvenience you. Children have always inconvenienced people, I think it's just now we (especially women) have more choices in how our lives look. many more of us have to navigate how to fit children into already busy work and family schedules - which is a sort of (wondeful) inconvenience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44664 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 13:18:12 +0000 Katm558 44664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Darn it, silly iPad!</p> <p>So, with DS1, I tried to implement some of the principles outlined in the books I read, and at first, I felt guilty that I could always get them to work. Eventually I was able to figure out what worked best for all of us, mostly by trusting my instincts. The second time around, and I'm not sure if it is because we've kinda "been there, done that," but I feel much more connected to DS2. Instinctually, I know what DS2 needs and why he is crying. It's almost like we are connected.</p> <p>But as a parent, I never really felt "inconvenienced" by my kids. Maybe it is just because I had already experienced so many aspects of parenting because of my previous work, or because I was ready to make the changes to have a family, but my expectations about how my life would be haven't really changed. I knew what I was getting into, and I was happy to do it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44663 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 13:10:37 +0000 Katm558 44663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That was a verinteresting article, but I don't necessarily agree with the authors view of children being "inconvenient."</p> <p>Before having children I worked at "the happiest place on earth" for many years and I got to experience the general public in ways I could never explain. Families would argue about the most asinine issues, peoplw's attitudes would become impatient and ugly, and vacationers would forget all common courtesy. Seeing this prepared me for becoming a parent and made me really think about how I wanted to raise my children and how I wanted them to act.</p> <p>When I got bit by the "baby" bug I started researching different parenting styles, and through the course of my pregnancy and DS1's infancy, I read and watched all the titles the author touched on. However, I NEVER thought of my future children as an "inconvenience.". I knew my life would change, that we would struggle to figure out why the baby is crying, and we would loose sleep.</p> <p>With DS1, I tried to implement some of the principles outlined </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44660 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 12:32:12 +0000 mrbee 44660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting article! I agree that parenting has become harder, for a whole range of reasons. Parenting is hard, and it's best to just accept that fact.</p> <p>For me, two things helped the most. The first was to accept that parenting would be tough. Low expectations meant that any upside was hugely appreciated! Second was when we felt comfortable enough that we were able to shift out of survival mode, and start enjoying our kids' childhood.</p> <p>It sounds like she got a lot happier after embracing attachment parenting. That's awesome! Not sure that means that all parents should ignore parenting books though? We got a lot out of some of those books she mentioned... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/recommended-reading-the-inconvenience-of-having-children#post-44626 Sun, 01 Jan 2012 11:10:35 +0000 anewme 44626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousin sent me this article/post and I just had to pass it on because it was a great little read. </p> <p><a href="http://www.conscienceparenting.com/2011/12/29/the-inconvenience-of-having-children/" rel="nofollow">http://www.conscienceparenting.com/2011/12/29/the-inconvenience-of-having-children/</a></p> <p>The writer definitely hit on some same sentiments of mine that were spot on. Somewhere along the way, I think as humans and as mothers we have lost our instinct to raise and bear children ofter relying on the advice of "experts" and neglecting what our gut is telling us to do. You're almost made to feel like a barbarian if you went decidedly against what is now conventional but has been practiced for centuries. </p> <p>Babies now are exactly the same as babies were from the beginning of time. It's parenting and the world around them that has changed and we are always looking for ways to have the baby "adjust" or trained to better align with the life we have created for ourselves. </p> <p>I think this is what my mom is referring to when she says we have overcomplicated the process and that's why she sees that we have so much more to contend with in our age of baby making and raising children. </p> <p>What's your thought? </p>