https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Jul 2026 04:38:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/regression-in-behavior#post-2807841 Mon, 05 Mar 2018 15:39:36 +0000 bubblegum 2807841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: It makes me feel so much better to hear from another parent going through it as well. We attempt to do all the same things. But man he pushes the envelope HARD. I just e-mailed his teacher while I wait for the meeting to be set because it makes me sad that he's talking back. </p> <p>I hope you're right and soon he ages out of this. But man am I scared for 4 because I've heard that can be tricky too. We're going to keep trying to be consistent and hope that things turn around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/regression-in-behavior#post-2807832 Mon, 05 Mar 2018 15:22:20 +0000 gingerbebe 2807832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son doesn't have a sensory disorder, but he's 3.5 (turns 4 in September), is a more introverted/easily overstimulated child, and had a speech delay between 2 and 3 years. He's on the normal spectrum now for speech, although he isn't the most verbally advanced kid in his class by any means. However, he's apparently academically somewhat more advanced, so we've been dealing with this brain-speech disconnect that's been tested harder and harder lately as he really wants to express himself emotionally as well as express all the facts he knows. Its led to increased behavioral issues, talking back, pushing lots of boundaries, attitude, and my very non-violent child has even bitten 2 classmates in the last 2 weeks. He's also been fibbing and coming up with weird excuses not to go to school, etc.</p> <p>DH and I have been working really hard trying to reinforce good manners, but again, like you, he KNOWS he's not supposed to do certain things, but does them anyway. Our son seems to respond best to consistency, so we're repeating our rules and mantras all day long. "What's the rule? We never ever hit friends. We never ever bite friends.<br /> We give high fives, fist pounds, or hugs. We use our listening ears and we follow directions with a happy heart." </p> <p>We are also starting to give him real consequences now, not just timeouts - i.e. he loses privileges and we explain exactly what behavior has caused that loss of privilege. But we're also making an effort to have "chair time" with him at night before bed to do some positive reinforcing after the fact. We do big hugs and snuggles, we talk to him about what he did that day that made him a "nice boy" and a "good listener" and what we're proud of him for. We also go over things that made Mommy and Daddy sad - i.e. biting friends, or not listening when we asked him to clean up his toys. We also go over any disciplinary actions we had to take, like "Remember when your brother got fruit snacks, but you didn't get to have any because you hit him? Did that make you sad?" We listen to his response and then we say "So you have a choice. You can CHOOSE to be a good listener and have lots of fun and get fruit snacks and play with your brother OR you can choose to not listen, sit in timeout, no fruit snacks, and be sad. What do you think is a good choice?" And then we end with more hugs, say that we love him very much, and send him to bed on a positive note. </p> <p>Obviously, we're still in the thick of it, but we're hearing him recite his rules and mantras back to us lately - "No biting, right Mommy? Sam is a good listener." And we're working on his attitude by giving him feedback on how his actions make us or his teachers feel sad.. He seems to get it because he will say "Mommy's sad? Why? Because Sam was not listening? Awww. Sorry Mommy." </p> <p>The lying piece, I'm still working on. </p> <p>FWIW, I'm told this age is challenging in general, not just kids with delays or other issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/regression-in-behavior#post-2807813 Mon, 05 Mar 2018 14:31:14 +0000 bubblegum 2807813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Hey! He's 3 going on 4 in two months. Yes, he had his burst some time ago and his language grows more and more. </p> <p>It would be nice to know that is the reason for it. This disorder has been challenging to adjust to but the regression in behavior is killer. </p> <p>I'm a little annoyed because they're saying we can't have a meeting until next month and I've already tried to give this time on my own, attempting to give him time to adjust. I do not want to wait another month. I'm hoping they can work with me on a sooner meeting date. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/regression-in-behavior#post-2807806 Mon, 05 Mar 2018 13:42:32 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2807806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi lady! I'm sorry that you're going through this! Remind me how old DS is again? Did he have that language burst yet? </p> <p>I'm asking because my BFF, whose son is delayed with speech and a few other things, had an extremely violent 2 weeks prior to each language/developmental burst that he had. He got worse and worse as he got older, and finally, just before he was 4, he had his worst one yet. Meaning that he was physically violent with her and she was at her wits end as to what to do.</p> <p>Then suddenly, he had a burst, and he was back to his "normal" self. I'm wondering if this outward behavior is his brain trying to play catch up to his development, and it may be a phase that he'll burst out of with his next developmental burst. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/regression-in-behavior#post-2807768 Mon, 05 Mar 2018 11:54:10 +0000 bubblegum 2807768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies! Long time no talk. I'm hoping to get a little help with DS behavior. I wanna give a quick run down of his life changes up until now and see if you guys can help me figure out what to do to get him back on track.</p> <p>2016: Moved to a new house<br /> 2017: change in therapists (aged out of the program), got a baby sister and started a new school with new therapists. </p> <p>Little things in between like potty training and switching from a baby sitter to grandmom care to now being home with DH. </p> <p>He transitioned pretty amazingly through all this. We were very worried because DS has a tad sensory issue and has a language disorder which makes explaining and him understanding things very difficult. In turn he is also just now beginning to tell us things but still struggling. (Due to his language disorder)</p> <p>So recently his old teacher left the school and he has a new teacher. However they transition her into the class very nicely. But we think this might be what's causing the acting up. He's doing things he KNOWS he shouldn't be and things he has never done before, especially at home. We spoke to his teacher today and she said he's been having a difficult time staying on task in school and talking back a lot. She said he's not being "bad" per say but just difficult participating. Their working getting him back on track at school which I'm thrilled about but I am going to request a meeting with his therapists and teachers to get a feel for what I can do to support them and most importantly my son. </p> <p>BUT for home life, I need help. I need any tips of moms who may have had this happen. We have tired everything possible but I want to make sure the reinforcement is positive and as effective as possible. We haven't had any luck but we want to make sure we exhaust all solutions. </p> <p>I feel so bad for him. I know my son and I feel like he's doing all of these things as a cry for help because he's overwhelmed. </p> <p>Any tips would be greatly appreciated. </p>