https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 05:08:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25632 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 19:04:03 +0000 Andrea 25632@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: re-reading your comments now and i don't think i got the real point of what you were saying to me. that was the 7 am, half awake andrea talking. sure charlie wants his mommy because he hasn't been feeling well. i'm sorry you felt rejected. that is hard on every parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25545 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:41:21 +0000 Rescuemom10 25545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww thanks Mr Bee! : D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25536 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:32:08 +0000 mrbee 25536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: That is so wonderful and sweet! Warms my heart... :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25535 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 16:30:52 +0000 Rescuemom10 25535@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On days where SD is not feeling good or upset about something, she def prefers me. DH doesnt mind because he loves how she is with me and that seeing she is old enough to know I am not her birth mother but still calls me Mommy and comes to me in times where a little girls just needs a mommy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25367 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 13:01:15 +0000 venice4504 25367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think all kids go through phases of who they like/want/need more. It sucks/hurts but they (usually) don't mean anything by it. I remember at least in the teenage years I wanted nothing to do with my mom. I grew out of that one. Plus Charlie is not feeling well...and we all know that boys become big puddles of jello when they don't feel well and they just want their mommies to take care of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25349 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:52:49 +0000 Rosie Girl 25349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the time! If DS wants to talk to one of us, and the other says something on the topic, he will say "NO! I am talking to ---" Man! Sorry for trying to join! </p> <p>The other day DS got in trouble too, and DH put him in timeout. When he went to talk to him DS looked at him and said "I don't want you, I want mommy, she's the nice one!" I felt so bad! So I went and talked to him and explained to him that isn't very nice and all that jazz. </p> <p>As he gets older he rejects us more and more! I guess we better get used to it since it will feel like tomorrow and high school will be here. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25310 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:33:26 +0000 ecogirl 25310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Liam seems to swing back and forth. Because I do everything with him and am home with him he prefers me when he is tired, hungry, cranky or hurt or needs a hug. Since his daddy isn't home as much he gets super excited when he is around so he goes to him for more fun stuff.<br /> Typical haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25102 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 07:45:15 +0000 pelikila 25102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both my son and my dogs prefer my husband. The dogs because he's the alpha male and my son because when we sleep trained I was still nursing and so he took over all nighttime duties and has continued to do so. Since that is the majority of the time my son is with us, he seems to have developed a preference for his daddy. Also, my husband participates in feedings, baths, mornings, etc. I'm incredibly jealous but at the same time, I understand why. That doesn't mean it doesn't hurt my feelings. I'm hoping he'll outgrow it in time but what that time frame happens to be I have no idea. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25101 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 07:44:51 +0000 Andrea 25101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: so I think it will help if you do more of a 50/50 or 60/40 split if possible. Our "schedule" also helps the LO because she isn't used to only one person doing the routine. We just learned this early on because it got to be a problem where she cried hysterically if the DH tried to give her the night time bottle. Once we worked him into doing bedtime, we have kept the schedule consistent and she knows that he does it on the weekends now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25099 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 07:36:56 +0000 mrbee 25099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I usually did the baths. I think Charlie just missed his mom so he started asking for her... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25098 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 07:31:11 +0000 tejbee 25098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh snap, indeed! Hopefully Charlie feels better and is more accepting and loving towards you soon. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25093 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 07:16:30 +0000 heffalump 25093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My lo is only 4 months old, but it goes both ways for us.</p> <p>We had a time when she only wanted me at bed time. She'd scream her head off for my husband. He took it like a champ and understood that its just because I'm with her all day long so she's used to me. But we started a bed time routine to get her used to him too and now we do every other night, no problem.</p> <p>I have my days when shell be super fussy for me but when he takes her she's fine. I don't taut so well, and usually end up bawling my eyes out. :(</p> <p>I'm not looking forward to the day that she can verbalize all of this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25092 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 06:42:36 +0000 Andrea 25092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah that happens to us, too. I think it's hard to make the switch from one parent to another when they're already in the process of doing it with another parent. And they seem to feel a little more needy during that bedtime, too. </p> <p>So we only have one person doing it at a time. I usually do it M-Th and DH does it F-Sun. And on the weekends, the LO might cry and still want me to do it but we say "No, daddy is putting you to bed tonight" and by the time the bath gets going and everything she has forgotten about wanting me to do her routine. And well, sometimes she does cry throughout her entire bath with daddy, too.</p> <p>I don't think you help yourself out when you give in to the LO in these situations because ultimately you want to split up the parental responsibilities right? At least that is how I look at it because I need the break from it once the weekend comes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25085 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 03:42:16 +0000 Rubies 25085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 4 months old and is a daddy's girl through and through. She plays longer with him, smiles more for him, giggles louder for him, and is more content with him. Psh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25058 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:20:19 +0000 mrbee 25058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I would like to train my son to be similarly obsessed with me! Ringtones huh... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25056 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:17:53 +0000 BSB 25056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I don't have any secrets. My dog is obsessed with me. In morning, if I get up, she gets up. If my husband gets up before me, she doesn't even lift her head. She also does this insane thing of howling when she hears my ringtone on my husband's phone. It's crazy. How does she know that I am calling? I was convinced she remembers my ringtone so he changed my ringtone to something else. She still howls when I call him. She's is nuts. She follows me around like a shadow, too. Sometimes, I tell my husband to call her, so she leaves my side. She was like this on the first night we got her.</p> <p>She does acknowledge him when I'm not around. :) She's not always this mean to him. LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25053 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 00:11:31 +0000 lemondrop 25053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was reading a journal that my dad kept from the time I was born until I was a few years old- apparently around 2 years old, I was pretty mean to my dad for a week or so. </p> <p>I wouldn't have much to do with him and kept rejecting him. While reading it I felt so bad about it, being that I had no recollection at all, but it still made me want to cry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25033 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:53:21 +0000 mrbee 25033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anewme: I think he prefers Mrs. Bee lately because he hasn't been feeling well. When a man is sick, he will always want his mom to take care of him. :-)</p> <p>It does sting a bit, probably because since Olive was born I have been spending a bit more time with him than Mrs. Bee since she has to spend so much time pumping and breastfeeding our daughter.</p> <p>Oh well, life goes on. I thought those quotes from him were pretty funny though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25030 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:48:59 +0000 anewme 25030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Poor hubby seems to get rejected quite often by our DD. sometimes I feel bad but he puts up such a hard exterior about it that I don't think too much of it. I wonder if it bothers him as much as it does you?</p> <p>Obviously DD doesn't know she's Doing this, but I am the one who spends more time with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25027 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:44:28 +0000 Red 25027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO definitely prefers me and sometimes will not let my husband comfort/carry her if she's hurt/tired or just cranky. He understands but it still hurts. He only has a few hours with her after work so unless she's hurt or throwing a HUGE fit, I'll leave her with him and she'll calm down after a couple of minutes and be fine with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25023 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:39:00 +0000 cyndistar3 25023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter tends to prefer me in most situations, I am a lot more comforting I suppose :/ It doesnt really bother DH because he knows she still loves him a lot :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25021 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:36:50 +0000 mrbee 25021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: What's your secret... do you keep bacon in your pockets? :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25019 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:35:56 +0000 BSB 25019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have kids yet but I know my dog prefers me over my husband. I think it hurts my husband because he's the dog person in the family. He's the one who wanted to adopt a dog. He always says that we are going to adopt another dog just so he can have a dog that loves him. :/</p> <p>Anyway, nope, no kid stories from me yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rejection-from-my-lo#post-25014 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:33:13 +0000 mrbee 25014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tonight, Bee was giving Charlie a bath when she called out to me. "Come here, Daddy! Charlie needs you!"</p> <p>I started walking over and heard him say, "No. Mommy needs you!" Oh snap. He was saying that he didn't need me.</p> <p>Then after the bath, I got ready to give him his bottle. Bee started to leave the room and Charlie panicked. "Mommy sit," he said as he glanced over to the glider where we usually give him his bottle. That's his way of saying that he would prefer for his mom to sit and give him his bottle, instead of me.</p> <p>Double rejection! It was hard on both me and Bee. I'm sure she would rather have me give Charlie his bottle! And of course, I would have loved nothing more to not be rejected by my son. Alas...</p> <p>Does your LO ever show a preference to your SO? What did your LO say or do... and how did your SO handle it? </p>