https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 15:43:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-889578 Thu, 27 Jun 2013 13:26:41 +0000 maybebaby 889578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the advice, everyone!! Every day feels better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884924 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 06:53:21 +0000 Dandelion 884924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a 4th degree tear and most days I'm all better, but if I sit upright a long time, like when driving or something, I do get tender. I just found that doing the one cheek sit was the best...and the ibuprofen. I used tucks when it was healing, but at 4 months, there's a scar and no open wound. I was having sex with DH at 5 weeks...I was so scared but it didn't really hurt. </p> <p>Dermaplast was a wonderful thing, too. I bought some with antibacterial stuff in it, which was good.</p> <p>However, I didn't have a newborn to contend with, so I was able to focus all my energy on healing. The lack of sleep with a baby can definitely make healing take longer. Just rest as much as you can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884886 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 06:04:44 +0000 loveisstrange 884886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Tucks pads or soak cotton/maternity pads in witch hazel and freeze them. I did mostly sitz baths and nurofen.</p> <p>I had a nice big episiotomy. I want to say mine actually healed fairly quickly. It was healed up and the stitches had dissolved by my 6 week checkup. Sex didnt hurt. Hope that gives you hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884878 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 05:46:05 +0000 cmomma17 884878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forgot about the peri bottle! I loved that thing and used it way longer than necessary!<br /> I made "padsicles" but never used them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884789 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 01:29:38 +0000 hotpink 884789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Earth Mama Angel Baby Bottom Balm! And make some frozen pads with witch hazel and lavender. I tried to avoid sitting especially on harder surfaces. I spent a lot of time lounging on the couch to not put too much pressure down there. This may sound weird, but get some sun on that area and make sure to let everything get some fresh air and dry out now and then. I was slow to heal but everything is great down there now, including the sex. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884761 Wed, 26 Jun 2013 00:30:51 +0000 sarac 884761@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On the intimacy front, I've had girlfriends share that they got very skilled in non-intercourse kinds of sex. One also bought her husband a 6 month subscription to a woman run porn website. I say, do whatever you need to do to keep everyone happy in a way that works for you. And remember that it WILL get better, and you are NOT broken forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884748 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 23:49:40 +0000 MrsB2012 884748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't had a baby yet, but I was reading on another site that someone suggested to get maxi pads, pour witch hazel on them and then put a few drops of lavender oil on them and freeze them. I wrote it down to remember as a lot of people commented that it helped.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884600 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 22:05:50 +0000 aprk 884600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did same as @highwire in addition to baths when everything started to ache after too much activity/walking. At two weeks I also had my midwife check my stitches and one of the knots want dissolving, and once she dug it out (ouch) I felt a million times better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884556 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:44:37 +0000 DillonLion 884556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wore a pad, tucks pads layered on top, numbing foam on top of that. Before I pulled my underwear up, I rinsed with a peri bottle full of warm water, and patted dry. Then I sprayed the whole area with a ton of extra strength dermaplast spray. Then I pulled on the underwear/pad/toppings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884511 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:16:11 +0000 immabeetoo 884511@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After I had complications and a repair to my 2nd degree, Dr. prescribed 3 sitz baths a day with blowdrying afterwards.... awkward but it seemed to heal up really fast. In addition to everything previous posters mentioned! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884500 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:10:56 +0000 matador84 884500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsjets: tucks pads have witch hazel in them--didn't know that until i used them postpartum. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884482 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:01:42 +0000 Mrsjets 884482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cmomma17: yeah, not sure if that's normal for the L&amp;D I had or if it has to do with the stitch rejection. FX for you!</p> <p>@matador84: I used that bottle (i had one for each bathroom) a ton! </p> <p>I also heard good things about witch hazel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884477 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:00:18 +0000 Bao 884477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: yes, dermaplast! That's what it was called. I forgot about the tucks pads and peri bottle too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884474 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:58:57 +0000 Bao 884474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a 3rd degree tear as well and sitting on a boppy, using the numbing spray the hospital gave me, not missing meds and ice helped but it really sucked. I was still sore 11 weeks PP. I hope you feel better soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884470 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:57:02 +0000 matador84 884470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had 30+ stitches and a 3rd degree--ending with an episiotomy. I only wiped with pampers sensitive wipes, used the heck out of a peri bottle, wore a pad and put hydrocortison on it, sprayed it with dermaplast and layered tucks pads on it. It helped a ton. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884468 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:55:02 +0000 cmomma17 884468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsjets: oh no, painful until 6 months? I'm 10 weeks postpartum and scared to DTD! Poor DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884465 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:53:21 +0000 cmomma17 884465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sit on ice. Any kind of ice pack, or have DH make one in the appropriate size. I used a numbing spray too (dermablast?).<br /> Drink tons of water and eat some fiber so going to the bathroom doesn't cause additional pain.<br /> Also, gentle exercise. Like take a slow walk daily. I think the increased blood flow encourages healing. Just be very very careful and don't over do it!<br /> I tore very badly too, it does get better. I think I was sore to some extent until 6 weeks postpartum. I quit the Advil because it upset my stomach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884462 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:52:34 +0000 Mrsjets 884462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a third degree lateral episiotomy and my body rejected the stitches...it suuuuucked! I feel for you! I took naproxen for the first 2 weeks and then Advil after. I showered/siltz bathed twice a day to get some relief but I was tender down there for months...and sex was terrible until 6 months! I wish I had a trick to give you - but I can tell you it does go back to normal! I was so depressed abou it - I thought it was ruined...I seriously cried about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/relief-for-bad-tear-post-partum#post-884418 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:27:18 +0000 maybebaby 884418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am 3 weeks PP and recovering pretty well from a third degree tear. Some days feel better than others. I take daily sitz baths and have a script for 800 mg of ibuprofen, but some days seems worse than others. In addition to the sitz baths I have some Earth Mama Angel Baby bottom spray. What else can I do to find relief/speed healing? </p>