https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 18 May 2026 11:52:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1352809 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 11:44:17 +0000 mrbee 1352809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Coincidentally, Bee wrote a post on Charlie's shenanigans this morning!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2014/01/16/diagnosing-tantrums-and-behavioral-problems-for-3-4-year-olds/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2014/01/16/diagnosing-tantrums-and-behavioral-problems-for-3-4-year-olds/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351900 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 08:48:04 +0000 mamimami 1351900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I liked Happiest Toddler on the Block! Also, we have Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood, haven't finished reading it yet but it seems great too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351759 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 05:50:12 +0000 Beyond2 1351759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Following... We're having a tough time at 16 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351731 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 03:07:50 +0000 Kemma 1351731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Too funny, I was just looking at toddler discipline stuff this morning! In NZ, all new Mums are given a resource book called "Thriving Under Five" that contains all sorts of info on feeding, sleeping, activities etc and here's what it said in terms of dealing with tantrums and behaviour...</p> <p>- Anticipate their needs (hunger, tiredness, boredom etc)<br /> - Praise good behaviour, try to ignore or distract from undesirable behaviour<br /> - Try to avoid saying "no" and give them positive redirection instead (Eg rather than telling lo to stop yelling, ask them to try whispering)<br /> - Be realistic about what they can or can't do - toddlers aren't made for sitting still or being quiet :-)</p> <p>As far as I understand, LO's at this age can start to understand boundaries and rules but don't really have the impulse control or neural pathways to actively respect those boundaries, they also have short memories! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351689 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:30:37 +0000 mrbee 1351689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Glad to hear she's fun and generally well-behaved!! :) Proving once again that parenting is a zero-sum game... as your LO became better, mine became worse! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351686 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:26:14 +0000 Freckles 1351686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: She seems to have abandoned her she-devilish ways these days and has been fun (except when she wants the ipad/tv, which she got too much of when on the airplane ride home). Honestly, i'm grateful for the little tips on the boards and your posts i read when LO was an infant! Uh-oh, i guess i'll have to wait for your post to hear what's up with Charlie! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351683 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:18:56 +0000 Freckles 1351683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: I agree that repetition helps at that age. I find that age really tough because they don't know too many words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351682 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:18:43 +0000 mrbee 1351682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Ah that's nice to hear! Haha Charlie got a lot better, so we didn't need as many management techniques for a while. But things have gotten a lot worse lately so I'm sure I'll be blogging about this again soon!</p> <p>How are things going with your little she-devil? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351680 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:15:44 +0000 Freckles 1351680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: your posts! I got a lot of great discipline and tantrum management tips from them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351678 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:10:53 +0000 mrbee 1351678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Haha, high five then!! Wait though, what posts do you miss again? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351676 Thu, 16 Jan 2014 00:09:14 +0000 Freckles 1351676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I got it from your post...best book ever. I miss those posts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351670 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:59:13 +0000 mrbee 1351670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I reviewed the awesome book that @Freckles: mentioned here!</p> <p><a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2012/06/26/the-best-parenting-book-ive-ever-read/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2012/06/26/the-best-parenting-book-ive-ever-read/</a></p> <p>I still use the techniques every day... amazing stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351667 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:54:59 +0000 hummusgirl 1351667@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Positive Discipline for 0-3 is good, very gentle and focuses on what's age-appropriate and how parents can set expectations accordingly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351662 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:49:10 +0000 wheres_c 1351662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're in the same situation at 13 MO.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351656 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:46:02 +0000 immabeetoo 1351656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: tht book is on my nightstand to read!</p> <p>I wanted to add my LO is a bit younger at 14m FWIW </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351653 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:41:48 +0000 immabeetoo 1351653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with baby sign! I don't really think disciplining works or is appropriate at this age but signing has helped us a lot with more and done. I'm not sure about the yelling! Is it just exuberance? Or is he mad about something in the store? We haven't had this happen yet. I feel like leaving the store would be a reward almost?? I need to think through what we will do I guess!<br /> @mrskc: I do a lot of "I'm sorry you're frustrated you can't have X, how about we play with Y" and "that's not for gabe, that's mamas/dogs/dadas". He still points and wants things that aren't his but the repetition seems to be helping. After redirecting and giving him his own toys 500million times, he will now leave the dogs water and food alone 95% of the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351621 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:08:49 +0000 brownie 1351621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: I hate to say this, but my 2 1/2 (closer to 3) year old still does this. He will just whine and cry about something he can't have. Good Luck! There is a lot of distraction (bribery) in my life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351616 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 23:06:03 +0000 mrskc 1351616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>following. Trying to figure out this whole make my 15 month old listen to me! I think I need to teach him to sign. That would probably help. Right now he points at things he wants and I don't know how to handle when he gets upset when I won't let him have something. I pretty much ignore him when he does that. And he laughs at me when I tell him no! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351605 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 22:58:22 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1351605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: no, no, I like to hear experiences! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351601 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 22:54:49 +0000 Freckles 1351601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is great too: <a href="http://www.amazon.ca/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.ca/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1451663889</a> It doesn't necessarily address disciplining but how to approach certain situations. It has been a great tool, along with Karp's book that @littlek mentioned.</p> <p>They usually know they're breaking the rules around his age. For instance, at that age LO loooved putting her foot on the table and it made me really upset. I would sharply tell her no, i would ask her nicely, i even flicked her heel (lightly). Finally i just ignored her and she put her foot away after 1 second. It took me 3 months of warring with her to figure that out!</p> <p>When you say, "shh don't yell" do you say it in a loud voice or a quiet voice? I know what worked for me is when i lowered my voice to the sound level i wanted her voice at, but honestly it took a while for her to figure it out. In fact, she would start yelling after i tell her to quiet down. :silly: </p> <p>In general, consistency and repetition helped. Sorry, i just realized you were looking for resources and i wrote a novel. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351566 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 22:38:22 +0000 littlek 1351566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happiest toddler on the block? Do you sign with E? In found that helps with a lot of the issues you are<br /> Describing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/resources-for-parents-on-disciplining-a-young-toddler#post-1351509 Wed, 15 Jan 2014 22:06:06 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1351509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am looking for books on how to train the behavior of a young toddler. So far i've found that most books are too specialized for me. I don't follow the whole attachment parenting style but I am not into spanking either (especially a toddler who can not yet verbalize anything).</p> <p>I basically want to know a few things from these books:<br /> -at what age is my child knowingly breaking the rules versus just unknowingly making mistakes (eg: throwing food from highchair)<br /> - in what way(s) can I get my child to learn right from wrong (eg: do not tip your milk cup over when done. Just say "done")<br /> -how much does my child comprehend when told "no" (eg: He will get mad and yell in a store and when I say "shh, don't yell" he will not stop. I don't know if this is because he doesn't know what i'm asking for or if he is blatantly disobeying)</p> <p>Anyone who says terrible 2s start at 2 is wrong:) In our case, it is sprouting at the age of 15m :) </p>