https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 25 May 2026 03:26:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1565404 Sun, 13 Apr 2014 03:36:10 +0000 gingerbebe 1565404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I would just tell my mom "DH and I talked about it and neither of us like it." I think there's not much someone can say after that. I don't know why that would be so hurtful to say - its not personal. You just don't like it. Its not like its going to affect how your mom feels about your kid once they get here (or at least I hope not). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1565065 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 18:57:31 +0000 Dandelion 1565065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mil kept trying to get me to change M's name to a name she liked while he was still inside me. DH finally said she should've named him or his brother that if she wanted it so bad...his name is M. He is good at being straightforward with her. She finally quit about a month before M was born. It was really annoying though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1565057 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 18:45:00 +0000 wonderstruck 1565057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: Yeah...I like that better than my response now, I may be stealing it for use with my MIL. Much more short and to the point, but still effective! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1565051 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 18:26:21 +0000 blackbird 1565051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"Mom, knock it off with the name suggestions. You already got to name some kids!" And then insert a giant smile :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1565027 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 17:42:58 +0000 wonderstruck 1565027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For people like that, smile and nod doesn't really work. I think you just straight out need to say, "I know you really love that name mom, but sorry, it's not my style." if she pushes even further then I'd straight up tell her that you don't like it. If she STILL pushed after that...well, then she's being totally clueless and you can feel free to roll your eyes when she's not looking and tell her you still don't like that name and that pushing for a name that the mom doesn't like makes no sense.</p> <p>I'm pretty straightforward with my mom and MIL - with my mom I can say I don't like a name at all, and it doesn't bother her. I am slightly more subtle with my MIL and will just say it's not my style. But really, WHY do people who aren't the parents think they have any say in naming?! Suggestions if the parents are having trouble is fine, but otherwise...just no. My MIL, since finding out my SIL and I are both due in the fall, has bought 2 baby name books, likes to post her survey results on what names she should pick, 'likes' FB pages involving baby names, etc. It's completely ridiculous - I just want to say to her, "You are never having another child, SIL has already chosen her names, and you're not picking ours!!" Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564635 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 09:16:27 +0000 mrs. 64 1564635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to be TG because I felt like it would take some of the naming pressure off if we didn't know the sex. DH really wanted to find out and I caved. Now we are finding out Tuesday and I'm really excited, but people are already driving me crazy with names and I just don't want to discuss it. I have said that we aren't in a hurry to pick a name and won't be announcing until the baby's born, but I feel like everyone is ignoring that. It is hard. I feel your pain! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564557 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 07:50:41 +0000 MrsKoala 1564557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just say thanks but no thanks and don't let her bring it up again. We were the same in that we were TG and didn't tell anyone our names, not even family. We did tell the middle names because they were family names and no one could argue with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564483 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 06:42:14 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1564483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually just blame it in DH (oh he vetoed it) or I say yea I knew a kid once that ruined that name for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564406 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 03:07:39 +0000 Honeygold89 1564406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the nicest way you possibly can just tell her you don't like it. When people tried to give me name suggests especially my aunt (she kept saying Charlie for both girl and boy names cause that's her name) I would just say no we still deciding or no I don't like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564379 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 01:45:33 +0000 googly-eyes 1564379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I actually wouldn't say "we know but we aren't sharing" because in my family (well mostly dh's family) that's gotten some crappy reactions. I think people find it overly dramatic at least in our families. But that may not be the case for you..</p> <p>If it were me (to people in general) I'd say we don't even know the gender so we're going to the hospital with a broad list and we'll decide for sure when we meet our LO. I don't know if that would be out of character for you but that would be my response. I'd even say things like "we'll think about it" or "maybe we should add that to the list" and then change the subject. I think you're on the right track being noncommittal. Remember, you aren't going to be pregnant forever so you just have to hold them off til your due date!</p> <p>If it were me and my mom, specifically, I would be honest and say that a) I don't like September and b) Quinn is our plan for baby girl #2 if there should be one, but it's on the list and not completely out of the picture. But then again, my mom and I have totally different naming taste which I tease her about and we laugh about it. Not sure how your relationship with your mom is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564361 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 01:11:21 +0000 jill_a55 1564361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haaaaated getting name suggestions and could last through like 2 names before snapping at the person offering them. </p> <p>We said "we're not sharing until the baby's born" which usually stopped some people... But if that didn't work I'd get pretty snippy with them and said things like I hate that or that's a terrible name. :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564351 Sat, 12 Apr 2014 00:11:03 +0000 Dandelion 1564351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom pushes her mom's name on me every time I've been pregnant. It's a nice name but not my style. I know she's gonna be pushing it to my brother who is due in August with a girl. All you can say is no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564349 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 23:54:06 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1564349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you've just got to tell them no and that it is final. There is only so much you can do to try and spare feelings. My mom kept coming up with name suggestions (all awful), but she finally said that she will stop if I want her to, and I said yes. Also, when we first told family about the pregnancy, I said something like "we are not taking any suggestions" in reference to parenting advice (but works for naming too!)</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/responding-to-pushy-name-suggestions#post-1564345 Fri, 11 Apr 2014 23:48:31 +0000 Torchwood 1564345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, we're not announcing the name until the baby is born. Partially because we're team green, partially because we just want to keep it to ourselves. Also, we haven't actually decided. All that to say, we're starting to get suggestions from people. Mostly it's fine. Nod and smile, make some sort of non-committal response (or a genuinely positive one in the rare case that we like it) and that's the end of it. But my mom has gotten *really* pushy on one. She really loves September Quinn, which is fine if you like it, but is just SO not happening. Quinn's a family name, and the planned middle name for a second girl, but I don't like September both in general and because of complicated emotional reasons. (If you've heard Green Day's "Wake Me Up When September Ends," that might make some sense). I really struggled to figure out how to get her to just drop it. She kept pushing, wanting me to ask DH what he thought, etc. </p> <p>So how do you handle someone with strong opinions about what to name your baby, without hurting their feelings? Especially if they bring it up more than once? I'm trying to avoid snarky, though snarky suggestions for if I lose patience, or just to make me laugh are welcome too. :) </p>