https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 17:58:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-221748 Sun, 15 Jul 2012 09:48:49 +0000 autumnlove 221748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: awesome! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-221745 Sun, 15 Jul 2012 09:43:02 +0000 DillonLion 221745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! Mailed to me with no return address. Just a sticky note on the boc of DVDs saying "sorry it took so long to get these to you" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-221556 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 23:58:34 +0000 cyndistar3 221556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay you got them back! (?) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-221551 Sat, 14 Jul 2012 23:40:42 +0000 DillonLion 221551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, after a few more text/email communications from me (with no reply from her), guess what randomly arrived in my mailbox today? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-179018 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:12:42 +0000 Modern Daisy 179018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: You're welcome - it's the only thing that ever works for me when people are being flaky. I honestly wouldn't even give her an explanation as to why, just give her a firm deadline and sound somewhat authoritative about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-179013 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:11:19 +0000 dc yoga bee 179013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Eep I hope you get your DVDs back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-179012 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:10:04 +0000 DillonLion 179012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: That's a good idea. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-179010 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:08:14 +0000 Modern Daisy 179010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One thing you could try is giving her a deadline. Like send her an email that says "Hey I'm sorry to be such a pain about this, but I need the DVD's by next Friday. I'm totally fine coming by to pick them up just let me know what works for you". </p> <p>I HATE it when people don't pay me back or return what they borrowed. So I totally feel for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178981 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:45:19 +0000 DillonLion 178981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know het apartment complex, but have no idea which apartment ahe lives in. She moved there right before she quit so my boas only has an old address for her :'( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178950 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:25:06 +0000 sorrycharlie 178950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally agree with @eeh about just stopping by if possible.</p> <p>but - I would say to just make it about the discs at this point. she's clearly not responding to social offerings, and as an adult, she should be willing to give up someone else's dvd! that's just weird.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178935 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:01:43 +0000 eeh 178935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sounds like time for a "hey, I was in the area" stop to her apartment complex. Take her some coffee so it doesn't seem totally like you only wanted the disc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178932 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 07:54:14 +0000 chopsuey 178932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: ugh that sucks.. -.- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178929 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 07:51:52 +0000 mediagirl 178929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Grrr!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178924 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 07:44:05 +0000 DillonLion 178924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sent a lighthearted text yesterday and got no response at all :'( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178895 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 06:53:08 +0000 mediagirl 178895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: can you ask her when she'll be around and go to her? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178494 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 15:20:26 +0000 DillonLion 178494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JessLC: We work in a big suite of offices, so if she comes by and drops it off at the front, we'd never see each other. She lives in an apartment complex, so leaving it in the mailbox is not an option, although she can leave it at her front door and I can grab it, that is fine with me. I just need her help to make the arrangements. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178489 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 15:16:57 +0000 SleepyMonkey 178489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If maybe she feels awkward about seeing you, can you suggest that she leaves it in her mailbox and you just swing by and pick it up? Maybe she feels embarrassed about how things went down and isn't ready to see you yet (not saying that you did anything wrong but she could be feeling reluctant about it and this would take that aspect away if it were the reason). And hopefully you'll get the DVDs back and however you decide to take the relationship from there is up to you. Btw I LOVED Lost and would feel the same way about them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178420 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 14:14:13 +0000 DillonLion 178420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@autumnlove: Glad you got those back! DH and I are about to start watching the Wire on Netflix :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178416 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 14:11:26 +0000 Rescuemom10 178416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see maybe wanting privacy if you were just co-workers, but how you said she was one of the first to know about your PG and being friends outside of work makes it a little different than just co workers. So yeajh, just saying I feel bad your in this sitaution. Best of luck. I hope everything works out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178413 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 14:08:34 +0000 DillonLion 178413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Thehistoryofus: I agree! I originally offered to come by her place and she was like "No no no, I will come to the office to drop them off". That is the only reason I'm suggesting it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178411 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 14:08:30 +0000 autumnlove 178411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was in a similar situation and let my coworker borrow Season 1 of The Wire. He left for a new job (with one day notice) so I texted him a few weeks later to ask about his new gig. After a few exchanges, I reminded him about the DVDs and he dropped them off a few days later.</p> <p>Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178406 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 14:06:57 +0000 T.H.O.U. 178406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I could understand why she wouldn't want to come back to the office just to return some DVD's. I would offer to pick them up from her (Hey, could you leave them on your front porch tomorrow in a plastic bag) or offer to meet in a neutral location (Lets grab coffee). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178384 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:52:31 +0000 DillonLion 178384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: No biggie! It isn't the end of the world. I could see how I would want my privacy from old co-workers after leaving a job - I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178381 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:51:20 +0000 Rescuemom10 178381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: Ohh my gosh...how did I miss that! I am SORRY! I totally did not register that part when I read it. Wow, Ok that really does stink then....wow yeah I would be a little hurt by that too! Thats drastic just to delete you because she quit. Hmmm...yeah i vote for the casual text, of I hope all is well....and then bring it up. Dang! Sorry again I dont know how I missed that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178379 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:50:20 +0000 DillonLion 178379@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: It is the second time it has happened since I've worked here. Girl who I was seemingly good friends with quit without any notice and we never spoke again. Hopefully this one will go a little differently than the first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178377 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:48:26 +0000 heffalump 178377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would ask again, and like others said ask if she wants to hang out. That's so weird that all of a sudden she doesn't want to be friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178375 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:47:26 +0000 DillonLion 178375@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: I'm not sure I really want to remain friends after how the whole situation at work went down and the social media blocking, but I'll put it out there to be nice and maybe we can work past that if she wants to still be friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178373 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:46:39 +0000 chopsuey 178373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dang. I would text again and suggest lunch and ask if she could bring the DVD set with her. Either that, or ask if you can drop by her place and pick it up!<br /> Ugh. I hate people who don't return things they've borrowed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178371 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:45:19 +0000 Rescuemom10 178371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would offer to hang out too. Its too bad she quit, but if you were friends outside of work too I would make sure to make that effort there as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/returning-something-borrowed-need-advice#post-178367 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 13:41:26 +0000 DillonLion 178367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: I offered that originally, but she said she would drop them off at the office. When I talk to her again I guess I will suggest that both are on the table - pick up at her place, or drop them at the office. Both are within 5 minutes of eachother. </p>