https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 03 Apr 2026 18:02:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2761250 Mon, 24 Jul 2017 13:36:19 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2761250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes! I'm glad you have different options and hope something works out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2761230 Mon, 24 Jul 2017 13:03:28 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2761230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: hope it works out better with the crib in big sister's room! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2761121 Mon, 24 Jul 2017 09:33:06 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2761121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Becky: Oh no! I hope it gets better for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2761089 Mon, 24 Jul 2017 08:08:43 +0000 Becky 2761089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So we tried a sleepover and it failed miserably. I'm positive it was because of the way we set up the room (the big girl was on the floor next to the crib), and I'd like to try moving the crib into the older one's room for a test run. After all the laundry and cleaning up I had to do this weekend I'm pretty committed to co solo dating everything to one room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2761027 Sun, 23 Jul 2017 19:21:33 +0000 mrs.kiwi 2761027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had no choice but to room share and it's working pretty well for us. They definitely keep each other up before falling asleep at night but they're playing (in their respective beds) and happy together.</p> <p>We started whenbaby was 8 months-ish and my older one was 2.5. My older one was a pretty good sleeper but he did cry at times and want comfort.. and I don't remember what else he did but we did think he was a little lonely by himself. He never cries now that he sleeps with his sister and loves being with her. And she's so young she can't remember otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760749 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 19:20:29 +0000 maddyz 2760749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The baby for sure helps my older one sleep. They hardly ever wake each other up and the baby still nurses over night. I think it's very comforting for children to share a room. We also have no choice... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760692 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 15:45:10 +0000 Becky 2760692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love all the responses, thank you! @Loyo we have a very drawn out (close to 45 minute) bed time so I don't think the snuggles are the issue. She has been sneaking into our bed in the morning too so she gets extra cuddle time then. @Mrs. Goose I am leaning toward the novelty helping. The baby is usually pretty adaptable to a new sleep location after a night or two, also. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760613 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 12:44:25 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2760613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Give her a sleepover trial! When my daughter sleeps over at her cousin's house she actually wants to go to bed at the same time as her cousin (who is 5 years older) and sleeps really well in her room which surprised me. My toddler is 21 months old. </p> <p>The novelty might get her into an earlier bedtime routine and get her to stay in the room, who knows. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760609 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 12:37:47 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2760609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say give it one night trial and if she can stay in her bed do it more permanently! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760604 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 12:21:22 +0000 loyo 2760604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She might be needing a bit more cuddles from you. That's all I can think as a reason for wanting to come down with you. spend a little more time with her at bedtime, see if it changes anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760597 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 11:55:36 +0000 Becky 2760597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@corduroy and @T.H.O.U. I was thinking about trying that this weekend and now that you both said it I definitely will. I'll just move the baby's crib into the preschooler's room for a night or two and if they like it we will keep it there. And @meowkers I'm allergic, even to the hypoallergenic kind 😭I'm actually in the process of trying to figure out when in my busy schedule I can get desensitized (weekly and then monthly shots, and you have to wait in the office for 20 minutes after) so we can get a cat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760589 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 11:16:07 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2760589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What about an interim idea? Make her a cot in the baby's room (blankets on the floor) and tell her if she's lonely she can quietly go sleep on the floor in the baby's room. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760582 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 10:47:29 +0000 Meowkers 2760582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a dog? Maybe she can sleep with the dog. I'm not kidding. My DD who is 2.5 loooves sleeping with our dog. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760578 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 10:31:19 +0000 Corduroy 2760578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can they bunk up for a little while before you commit?</p> <p>My DD is 4 and DS is just 2. DD also complains about sleeping alone. She spent the night in DS's room a couple months ago when we had guests and she's crashed there every night since. We haven't redone the rooms and I don't know that we will but it's working for us now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760572 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 10:10:21 +0000 littlejoy 2760572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO is 3.5, and has totally been expressing sadness over having to sleep alone. We are welcoming a baby within the next month, and I felt like I crushed her when I told her the baby would be sleeping with us (and not her). :( </p> <p>She was having a REALLY hard time with sleep last month, and she was finally able to express herself. She told us it's sad that we get to sleep with each other and she has to sleep alone. :( </p> <p>That said, I am really sensitive to sleep issues with kids. If my youngest was a great sleeper, I'd be really, really hesitant to mess up that balance (because I know what 3.5 years of horrible sleep looks like). </p> <p>The other side - I know several friends who have their LO's share a room and it works out just fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760561 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 09:52:06 +0000 MaryM 2760561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can tell you from experience that sharing a room with my sister never stopped me from wanting to go downstairs and be with my parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/room-sharing-4#post-2760558 Fri, 21 Jul 2017 09:46:44 +0000 Becky 2760558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3.75 year old has been complaining a ton at bed time about being lonely and wanting to come downstairs with us. It's heartbreaking, but also obnoxious because she doesn't stay in her room until close to 9, and I have to be awake by 5:15am which means I get tops 7 hours of sleep by the time I get housework done and unwind (I work full-time and get home between 5:30-6pm).</p> <p>I mentioned potentially sharing a room with her 15 month old sister and she is really into the idea. My husband on the other hand is not. The baby is a great sleeper. She likes her crib and goes down well. She occasionally wakes up once in the middle of the night very briefly, but I'm a light sleeper and always go in immediately, give her her pacifier and lovey, and am out (the whole thing takes less than one minute). The baby sleeps 7:30-ish pm-7:30-ish am, and the older one sleeps about 9pm-6:30/7am. She used to go to sleep closer to 8, but bed time has been so dragged out due to her being so lonely at night. She really needs more sleep, and not getting enough effects her behavior during the day. She takes a nap at school and sometimes at home, and will often nap for 3 hours on the weekend (at home naps are usually in the stroller because she won't go down in her bed for me; at school is only an hour and she complains because she wants to sleep longer. This will be a bigger issue in a year, because she is young for her grade and will be in kindergarten next September so unable to nap at all). </p> <p>I'm not super concerned about her waking the baby up, because she does occasionally ask to go see her before she herself goes to bed, and she understands that she can't talk when she goes into the room or else her sister will wake up and sabotage her story time.</p> <p>The location for the nighttime routine isn't an issue. The baby's glider would go in the shared bedroom and her routine would happen there. The older one's routine would happen in the new toy/reading room. </p> <p>So what are your thoughts? Do we take the plunge and see if it works? I admit part of my wanting to do this is also based on cutting down the time it takes for me to manage laundry as it would now all be in one room. This isn't insignificant being that I work 40+ hours and my husband works close to 60 hours, so any time-savers are helpful!</p> <p>Sorry this is long...TIA for your feedback! </p>