https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 05:37:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-68022 Mon, 06 Feb 2012 12:30:29 +0000 Rescuemom10 68022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks again to everyone for the kind words and support. I think the initial shock and anxiety of it all have passed. Now just have to "deal" with the cards we have been dealt. Not that its going to be easy but just one day at a time. I am actually to the point where I just wish he would leave SOONER so we could get it over with.</p> <p>Thanks again everyone. You are all so, so sweet! : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66784 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:02:59 +0000 Rescuemom10 66784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You all are too sweet!</p> <p>@MRS. JACKS. The orders he was given OCONUS are unaccompanied orders. His daughter who has medical issues is enrolled in EFMP (Exceptional Family Member) She is a category 3 which mean no overseas. A detailer (person who dishes out the orders) can still disregard the matter and send the service person with out the family. Which is what he is doing. In addition the OCONUS orders are to a command where they average 290 days gone a year. Which DH and I talked about would not be worth it to figure out how to sell or rent our house and for me to give up my job here, plus tranfering all our pets. He would be actually "home" for about 2.5 months a year in that command and not all at once. A week here, a few weeks there. So yeah....just not worth it and would rather keep me here even if they WERE accompanied orders and keep me where I would have more support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66768 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:42:06 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 66768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: Why can't you go if he's OCOUNS? I cannot imagine how hard it will be to be separated for that long. I hope you had an ok birthday, and I too appreciate the service of you and your loved ones! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66649 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:48:29 +0000 mrs. wagon 66649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to thank both you and your husband for your service and commitment to our country. I could never, EVER imagine being married to someone in the military, let alone being active duty myself. I know I am selfish and spoiled but I just know I could never handle it. We all go through struggles, but these types of sacrifices you and your husband make are definitely something I will never understand or fully appreciate. Sending many many many happy sunny thoughts your way and hoping things work out GREAT for you!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66645 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:43:21 +0000 sulli301 66645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: I'm so sorry :( I can't even imagine how that must feel. You must be such a strong person. Thinking of you!!<br /> Happy Birthday &amp; I hope you had a Happy Groundhogs day too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66638 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 13:37:16 +0000 Rescuemom10 66638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just need to find new ways to fill my time. While our short time period of TTC and even before. I was researching into anything and everything about babies. Its crushing to think of how long we need to wait now. I mean yes we dont HAVE to wait but I dont exaclty want to have a baby with out him here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66548 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 12:17:20 +0000 Shutterbug 66548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:( hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66513 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 11:35:46 +0000 Rescuemom10 66513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone, you all are so sweet! Slowly its all sinking in more and at least I feel a little more in control of my emotions and have not had a meltdown recently. I too hope time goes by fast. I wish he would go sooner so I could just get it done and over with. </p> <p>@LOOCH- I agree if WE were going. But if he goes to the desert, I obviously CANT go with him, and the other orders they offered were also to another location where I cant go with him! Booo! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66340 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 03:36:15 +0000 looch 66340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There's a bright side to everything, moving out of the country could be a fabulous opportunity for you both, you never know! Try to think positive thoughts about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66319 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 02:12:51 +0000 MaisyMay 66319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy Birthday. I wish there was a way we could make things smoother for you guys right now. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66273 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 22:49:06 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 66273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry.... that's a lot for anyone to bear.... :( Thank you for sharing with us!! Hang in there, you'll get through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66269 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 22:39:39 +0000 mrsjyw 66269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! I'm SO SO SO Sorry that you're going through such a difficult time. I can't even imagine how you're feeling such life changes... I hope that you will be near your support system soon! Thinking of you and your hubs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66144 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:30:59 +0000 ALittleP 66144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Happy birthday!!! I'm so sorry that you're having a really hard time. I hope that you can be close to family again soon. Big hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-66136 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 20:22:53 +0000 heffalump 66136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh wow. Everything always seems to happen at once. I don't have words, it's just so awful to have to be seperated from the ones you love. Hope time passes quickly for you so you can be near your family again soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65978 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:15:12 +0000 winniebee 65978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww I'm so sorry!! Happy Birthday...I hope your day turns around a little... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65975 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:12:44 +0000 Rescuemom10 65975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the kind words and Birthday wishes. I am so out of it today and so emotionally drained....blahh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65944 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:30:40 +0000 Crisark 65944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so very sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65937 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 16:18:18 +0000 BSB 65937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, I'm so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65909 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:50:14 +0000 Adira 65909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you're dealing with this! That's so heartbreaking. :( It's really rough that your family has had to leave and now THIS with your husband! I hope that you guys are able to figure something out... so sad. :( Good luck to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65903 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:41:31 +0000 Andrea 65903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: I'm sorry I forgot to say HAPPY BIRTHDAY! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65896 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:28:44 +0000 oliviaoblivia 65896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rescuemom10: So sorry you have to deal with this! and on your birthday too! I wish life were more fair. We are hear with ears whenever you need to vent.<br /> I hope you can find something to smile about today. Happy Birthday from an internet stranger! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65894 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:28:36 +0000 twinmama 65894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! That's a lot to pile on at once, and being apart from family totally sucks. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65888 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:15:22 +0000 Rescuemom10 65888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies. Just feeling VERY overwhelmed. Just needed to let it all out and always feel so "welcomed" here on HB! : ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65885 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:13:47 +0000 Andrea 65885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry to hear this. I hope the venting helped and vent away anytime! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65880 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 15:10:57 +0000 MH.Abroad 65880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rough-week-and-really-down#post-65862 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 14:55:30 +0000 Rescuemom10 65862@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Things happen for a reason. That’s what I keep telling myself to get me through the rush of emotions I have been having this last week.<br /> I just need to vent, I just need to say it, I need to let it out.<br /> Budget cuts, downsizing, defense spending, the economy. It's hit everyone in one way or another. Recently I have really been seeing it hit us on the Government side, more so the Military when I say government. I have watched some wonderful people have to make drastic choices to ensure a continued career. I have seen people with 10+ years invested, half way or more to Military retirement told "Thank you for your service, Good bye". Last weekend I watched my Sister in law and 9mo nephew drive away. Yesterday, my brother followed. It finally hit me yesterday the reality of them leaving as I watched my brother drive out of our driveway. He has been up where DH and I are stationed for the last 1.5 years. He was supposed to be up here for 4. He is a pilot. With his plane and community "downsizing" his best bet to ensure his future (13yrs in) was to give up his love of flying and take a duty elsewhere. They hated leaving, they loved it here and he loved what he did. Security for you and your family of course being more important he took a job elsewhere. It was the first time in 13yrs my brother and I were on the same side of the US. What a blessing to even have him as close as he was. I am VERY thankful for that time no matter how short and even with him deployed 7 of those months. Yesterday was hard. I went to work very sad; the reality of them gone was most definitely there. The day couldn’t get any worse, but it did!<br /> DH came into my office looking sad. I could tell he had something to tell me.<br /> The news we thought was not coming for MONTHS came early. The reason we stopped TTC. Where are we going to next and can I go with?</p> <p>DH was contacted and had to select where he wants to go to next. He has two options. Either 1.5 yrs in the desert (Of course w/o me) or 3yrs without me OCONUS (outside continental US). That’s it! I couldn’t handle it. My family who I did have close to me left earlier than expected, my brother just drove away a few hrs ago and now you are telling me we are about to go through something where I could REALLY use family nearby?</p> <p>Last night I lay in bed, trying to process everything. Looking back at how perfect everything was and how drastically it changed this week. I felt so helpless all I could do is cry. I did not want today to come. I didn’t want to close my eyes and wake up to today. Today being the day it would be set. Be for sure. Him having to make the decision. Today being the worst Birthday ever.<br /> I know the lifestyle of the Military, me previously being Active Duty myself and now being "married" to it. But who could ever have imagined things being how they are now. So many changes. The Military is changing so fast it’s a whirlwind for many.<br /> This morning I woke up, today of course came. I felt numb. I don’t know how to feel. I look at my phone and the ton of "Happy Birthday" messages. I roll out of bed not feeling happy at all. But the love load of messages have helped some.<br /> Thanks for letting me have my sappy vent. Just needed to let it all out! Still processing it all. I guess I am telling you all because I have mentioned possibly having to stop TTC, even though we didnt expect to know this soon. With the posibility now being reality....yeah...I just feel like we have stop moving forward, and just "enjoy" the time we have now. The idea of not being able to TTC for another 2.5 yrs atleast is really hitting me hard.</p> <p>BY THE WAY for those still reading....man I get lengthy when I vent....but HAPPY GROUNDHOGS DAY!!! </p>