https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 19 Jun 2026 13:37:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-498262 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 13:33:16 +0000 tororojo 498262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: Bummers! I just didn't hunt down DH's family at all...but we don't have to pay a venue so I see your predicament. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497935 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 12:02:47 +0000 CandyCane 497935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would try to get my DH to contact them or maybe send a hoping to see you there! tone email to remind them you aren't 100% certain they are coming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497845 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:42:01 +0000 Adira 497845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo: My mom was actually hoping at the my MIL would do this, but my MIL is divorced from FIL and it's FIL's family that hasn't responded to the RSVP, so I'm not sure if my MIL is comfortable contacting that side of the family. I'm not even sure if she has any of their contact info anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497813 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:34:40 +0000 tororojo 497813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally not tacky! Maybe you could even get MIL to do the grunt work? I don't think it's gift grabby at all, you just want to know one way or another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497763 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:19:30 +0000 Adira 497763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I agree! Especially because half of these people, my mom (or I) talked to ahead of time (before the invites even got sent out) to make sure the date would work for them, and they all said that it did and they would be there! And now they're not RSVPing! WTF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497732 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:12:13 +0000 Modern Daisy 497732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: It's really obnoxious of people not to RSVP by the date, so I think you're fine to reach out in any way you want. Personally if I were you, I would contact my friends and ask my DH to contact his family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497707 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 11:02:22 +0000 Adira 497707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: Thanks! That's what I was hoping, but wanted to double-check with others! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497661 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:45:00 +0000 Smurfette 497661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I think that is fine. You can just say that your Mom asked you to reach out since she didn't have the number/email. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-497569 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 10:18:34 +0000 Adira 497569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, I need more advice on this subject, haha. The RSVP by date is today, so we're going to wait until at least tomorrow to start bothering people with their response. My question is, is it okay for ME, the person the shower is being thrown FOR and NOT the hostess, to call/e-mail people to find out if they are coming?</p> <p>My mom is hosting the event, so she said she would call people on my side of the family to find out if they are coming or not, and I figured I could ask the two friends who didn't RSVP, but my mom doesn't have the contact information of any of my husband's family. Is it okay if <b>I</b> contact them to find out if they are coming (my mom needs a head count since the event is catered)? Or does that seem tacky and like I'm begging for gifts? There are only two of them (two aunts) that I would be contacting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485989 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 12:35:06 +0000 pelikila 485989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depending on the relationship I would probably call or email them the day after the RSVP due date. If it is someone I'm not all that close to or rarely shows up to events, I would just count them as a no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485962 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 12:27:47 +0000 purrpletulips 485962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You could always contact them to confirm they got the invitation and then remind them of the RSVP date at that time. We had a couple of people who reported not getting our wedding invitation so this worked out for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485794 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:48:53 +0000 Alivoo01 485794@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd wait until the day the RSVP is due then follow up with people. That's what I recently did with the hubby's party. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485744 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:32:34 +0000 Ash 485744@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I'm with everyone else... I'd wait til after the date but it definitely isn't rude to contact them to find out for sure. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485722 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:24:00 +0000 Adira 485722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies!! Sounds like I should wait until after Friday and then it's okay to bug the stragglers for their answer! Some of my friends have heavily implied that they ARE coming, but they haven't RSVP'd yet, so I wasn't sure what the etiquette was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485720 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:23:43 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 485720@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She could also send an email reminder that the RSVP date is approaching since individual phone calls may be time consuming. I would BCC the recipients though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485719 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:23:40 +0000 T.H.O.U. 485719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait until the RSVP date passes and then contact them. Just a simple, "hey we need a head count, can you come" works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485713 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:21:27 +0000 littlek 485713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would wait till the RSVP date passes and then reach out and see if they are coming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485709 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:20:41 +0000 runsyellowlites 485709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For all of our events we generally will call after the RSVP date before giving our final headcount. We've set it up to where we have our date 2 weeks out from our "headcount" deadline and then usually call a week after.</p> <p>With yours being closer I'd probably start making calls a on the Sunday before the deadline... maybe even Saturday just incase you can't get in touch with everyone first round. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485708 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:20:40 +0000 Smurfette 485708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they are your friends, I would say something. Maybe email them all on Thursday and say that your Mom asked to remind them to RSVP since she has to give a headcount. </p> <p>People forget all the time. But it is rude to not RSVP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485699 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:19:00 +0000 MamaMoose 485699@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do think it's rude to reach out to people prior to the RSVP date. You gave them a date to respond by so you should give them the courtesy of waiting until then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485690 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:16:31 +0000 tororojo 485690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it's rude to get a hold of them once the RSVP date has passed--if anything, they're rude for not RSVPing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485688 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:16:13 +0000 Adira 485688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: Okay, so you don't think it would be rude of me to call of people and remind them to RSVP? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485671 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:12:25 +0000 Ash 485671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say to get a hold of people as best as you can if you need an exact (or approximate head count). And I'd also probably add a few to the total just in case some people pop in. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-etiquette-chase-rsvps#post-485626 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 11:02:01 +0000 Adira 485626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What's the correct etiquette when you're planning a party and you have an RSVP date on your invitations and people haven't responded yet. Do you gently remind them prior to the RSVP date not to forget to RSVP? Do you wait until the RSVP date has passed and then see if they are coming or not? Or do you just assume any non-responses are a not-coming?</p> <p>My mom is planning my baby shower and she's hosting it at an event center where she needs to give them an official head count since they are serving lunch. She sent out the invitations over a week ago with an RSVP date of January 11th (this Friday). She has to tell the event center by January 14th (the following Monday) the total head count. Some of my friends haven't RSVP'd yet - I'm curious if I should do anything, wait and then do something, or don't do anything? </p>