https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 00:35:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132729 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 10:33:54 +0000 SweetiePie 2132729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like @wonderstruck's wording! Very friendly but hints that it was short notice.<br /> But, I agree with PP that if the person inviting isn't upset I wouldn't Rock the boat too much. If she makes a comment that you never show up or something, maybe then I'd be direct about short notice invites.<br /> We have a friend with 2 older kids and they always invite us to dinner at their place with a couple hours notice. We are direct with them (because they are close friends and we aren't worried about offending) that with a 7 month old they need to at least ask the day before or even that morning. It's just hard to schlep a baby a half hour away without any notice. They still always ask last minute so I don't feel bad declining anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132716 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 10:16:02 +0000 catomd00 2132716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you need to say anything personally. She obviously is cool with people not being able to make it. I don't think she owes it to anyone to give more advanced notice as long as she isn't mad at people for not being able to come. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132677 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 09:18:03 +0000 coopsmama 2132677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: I like your suggested wording. I'll have to use that next time this happens to me! (Which is frequently. For some reason my friends all like to be incredibly last minute which doesn't actually lend itself to being able to do stuff with them.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132661 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:57:49 +0000 Maysprout 2132661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the original note is good. </p> <p>I'm a last minute party planner but I feel like I generally get better responses last min because people with other things to do are going to have those things to do whether or not there's a party. And then people feel obligated to make an appearance if you've given them a long heads up but it just causes them stress and another thing on their to do list. Like even with your mom saying she could reschedule its still the only day that works for you to go with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132660 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:57:42 +0000 Andrea 2132660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think it needs the critique. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132659 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:57:08 +0000 wonderstruck 2132659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This happened to me a few times with the same person. After a few times I responded with, "Oh shoot, I wish I had known about it earlier; I would love to be there but already made plans for that day that I can't change, sorry!" Sounds like you already responded, but just figured I would give a suggestion for next time. I definitely wouldn't explicitly say to give you more notice, because that does feel like a critique and not very polite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132658 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:52:57 +0000 Charm54 2132658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would not add the part about more notice </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132654 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:48:35 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2132654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't add the last line about a head up, but I might be more explicit about why I couldn't come (or ask husband to casually mention it). "I'm so bummed I can't make it. I tried to rearrange my other plans but I didn't have enough time." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132643 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:36:58 +0000 simplyfelicity 2132643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd send the first and not worry about it. You had plans beforehand and that's totally fine. It's implied you would have gone had you known sooner. Enjoy shopping with your mom! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132642 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:35:08 +0000 jedeve 2132642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Instead of "I already had plans" you could say "I made plans with my mom last week." That might put the bug in her ear that more than a week notice is good. </p> <p>How was the cruise? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132641 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:32:49 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2132641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yoursilverlining: the "critique" was of the text b/c I'm a say it like you mean it kind of person, but I don't want bad blood between us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132638 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:25:20 +0000 yoursilverlining 2132638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would leave it just with your first note for sure too. I totally get how annoying last minute invites can be, but any "critique" sounds really passive aggressive to me and I think has the opportunity to cause issues between you and the other woman/family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132631 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:09:30 +0000 hotchildinthecity 2132631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Leave it at the first one for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132629 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 08:08:29 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2132629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: thanks @Peasinapod: you're right I have no idea when the bday party was planned. Given the venue I think they may have invited her school friends and hopefully those classmates received at least 2 weeks notice. I added , "sorry I'll miss out" between venue is a blast and have fun. Thanks for the help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132620 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 07:59:11 +0000 Freckles 2132620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like your note without the last part about providing you with more notice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132618 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 07:58:24 +0000 Peasinapod 2132618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, as long as they weren't upset with me for not being able to make it, I would leave it at your first text.</p> <p>If it were my daughters birthday and I received the second part I would be offended. Unless you know for certain they had it planned earlier and just failed to mention it. </p> <p>Your first message makes it pretty clear that without an early invite they run the risk of guests having prior plans. Maybe include that you're really sad to miss out? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/rsvp-no-w-note-critique#post-2132614 Sat, 04 Apr 2015 07:47:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2132614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband received a text mid-day Monday for his God daughter's bday party today. That's six days notice. I already made plans to go shopping with my mom- about 10-14 days plans set. I tried to figure out a way that I could do both. Make an appearance at party with my mom and then we head off to shop. That would delay shopping for about 2 hours. We were leaving for a cruise when we got bday text, so I wasn't able to run the new plans by mom until yesterday. She couldn't start later and suggested we go another time, which put a wrench in my next two weekend schedules. So I told my husband definitely I couldn't go at all. He knew about the shopping plans already so no bad feelings. Well, now I would like to send this below to bday girl's mom. I want to convey my regrets &amp; let them know last minute invites are problematic. This is the second event I have had to miss. The other was around Christmas and we received an "invite" 2 days. For that one I did keep asking when can we get together for a present drop off. I pick out the gifts, often wuth the help of HB, and want to see the kids open them. Plus I miss out on cake, ugh! Anyway, does this sound okay?</p> <p>"Morning! Please give LO a bday hug from me. Mr. Lime will be there with bells on, but I won't be able to make it as I already had plans set. Venue is a blast. Have lots of fun!"</p> <p>I feel like it's nice enough, but doesn't convey I need more notice. Maybe I should add. "For LO's next event please give me a heads up as early as possible." </p>