https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 15:51:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2293029 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 22:41:43 +0000 lilteacherbee 2293029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks with my first pregnancy (baby stopped growing a day or two before the ultrasound). I had a D&amp;C the next day and they did testing that confirmed it was a chromosome abnormality (Turner's Syndrome). It was an awful, emotional time, especially while we TTC again. Right around the time of my original due date, I got pregnant and my healthy little boy is 22 months and I also now have a 6 week old.</p> <p>I know it's hard and so unfair, but chromosome issues are incredibly common. I know so many women who had a miscarriage and went on to have healthy babies. </p> <p>One thing that tremendously helped my anxiety during my last two pregnancies is having chromosome testing done on the babies via blood test (like MaterniT21, Harmony, etc.). My insurance didn't cover it, but I only had to pay a very small portion of the bill and the peace of mind was so worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2293026 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 22:28:28 +0000 LCTBQE 2293026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I am so floored by these responses-- I read them all many times today. I peripherally know many women this has happened to, but none are really close enough for me to talk to them about it. I'm so grateful to hear your stories... this is helping me more than any real-life sympathy has by miles. </p> <p>@mamacate @mrs waffles, hearing that you both took care of yourselves and ate healthy food and exercised is so much more inspiring than me telling myself to do those things :) thank you. I hope to be in both of your shoes soon.</p> <p>@nutella I loved your novel (well, I loved that you shared it) and am sorry to say I'm familiar with what happened with you because I've been reading the Loss pages just trying to come to grips with everything. It is so wild to me that anyone would have to go through this 3 or 4 times before insurance would pay for more serious testing. Interesting to hear about your thyroid... I made an appointment right before my original post with an endocrinologist to have mine checked, since my basal temps are LOW and my mom has a problem with it. I'm sure it wouldn't save a chromosomal defect, but I don't want to leave any stone unturned. The baby announcements do hurt, but I think it'll be better after I get my period and can start trying again like you are now. I will cross my fingers for you! My OB actually told me the XL fertility after a D&amp;C is the real deal, not an old wives tale. She called it "super ovulation" :)</p> <p>@jojogirl thank you, so weird that I know your story too, but glad you're past the worst of it and can start trying again. </p> <p>@eko @t.h.o.u. so interesting to hear about both of your positive experiences with the progesterone, but I think what I really *needed* to hear was everything else you said about how there often just isn't an answer that medical science will find. Anyway, thank you, it's comforting just to read your replies. </p> <p>@mamabolt I saw your message on the April 2016 Moms board when I bowed out :heart: thanks for that, and for this. I think I might give up on trust completely, but the statistical reminders that everything likely will go on to be okay are reassuring in their own way. Sounds like you're doing wonderfully, though. So maybe I can have trust on your behalf, just not my own! Much easier :) I'm rooting for you. </p> <p>@yerpie110, I think the bad luck lottery is amazing and I doubt I will forget that analogy for like, a long, long time. Hope that like you I only get to be a single-time winner. Thanks for the wishes :heart: </p> <p>@alivoo01 I'm sorry you went through that only to be met with non-answers... when I read your post, I remembered how I was initially worried I wouldn't be able to get pregnant quickly (I did in 2 months) which in my haze I seriously had TOTALLY forgotten about. So thank you for reminding me to put this in perspective and be grateful that at least that part is probably going to be easy again. Amazing that you got it so quickly afterwards! </p> <p>@travellingbee :heart: :heart: :heart: I hear you! I'm not 26 anymore, either :)</p> <p>@2peasinapod I think I also gathered you have really been through it from reading the boards... I am so amazed by the strength you must have dug up to get through all of that pain and loss. So incredible that you came out on top and you're about to meet your next baby. I think when I am able to get pregnant again, I'll be camping out in my OB's office for the first three months--the "missed" part of my miscarriage really threw me for a loop. Anyway, hearing how you figured out what was going wrong is incredible, and inspiring. Hope it will be less bumpy for me :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292199 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 08:31:42 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2292199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I'm so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is definitely something that is not talked about often enough, and it's really hard to go through. </p> <p>I've chronicled my story here a few times, but I've had 4 miscarriages. Two before LO and two after him. My OB continued to tell me that it was just bad luck. After the 4th, I let him know that I was either going to go see a specialist without him, or he could refer me to one. She did a slew of testing to ensure that everything was ok, and she found a good amount of scar tissue in my uterus that she thought was causing the problem. I had surgery to remove it and I'm 39 weeks pregnant with my 6th pregnancy and hopefully second live child.</p> <p>Most OBs won't send you for additional testing unless you have 3 miscarriages in a row. That was the issue with my OB...though 4 out of my 5 pregnancies ended in miscarriage at the time, I had LO in between, so they weren't technically 3 in a row. I knew something was wrong though, which is why I insisted on seeing the specialist. </p> <p>My SIL had my niece and nephew, and then miscarried her 3rd pregnancy in the same fashion (missed miscarriage with a D&amp;C). She went on to have my niece a few months later. It's so common for women to have miscarriages, but it's not common knowledge unfortunately. I hate to say to wait it out, but when you become pregnant again, call your OB right away so that he/she can get you in for an early blood test to help ease your mind. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292186 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 08:23:40 +0000 travellingbee 2292186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I Had two in a row and they did a repeat loss blood panel which came back negative. They determined it was probably just poor egg quality due to my age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292179 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 08:19:14 +0000 Alivoo01 2292179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a missed miscarriage earlier this year that also involved a D&amp;C. I'm so sorry you had to go through that. My OB sent off the tissue to be examined for chromosomal defects, and it came back negative. In other words, why the baby quit growing will always be a mystery.</p> <p>I had to keep telling myself I was able to get pregnant so it's just a matter of when we can start TTC again. I also have a little boy (2 yrs old) so that helped me as well. I got pregnant once we got the all clear to try again. Good luck to you! *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292157 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 08:05:28 +0000 yerpie110 2292157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So very sorry for your loss. I found out at 10 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks, had D&amp;C 3 days later. It was my first loss, and my OB said it was likely chromosomal and just that I had won the "bad luck lottery." She was still willing to test the fetus, which I was grateful for, and the cause of the mc did indeed turn out to be due to a chromosomal abornomality. I didn't really do anything differently afterwards, and I am now pregnant again (28 weeks) and thankfully so far, everything has been healthy. </p> <p>Wishing you the best and that your rainbow baby will be here soon :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292131 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 07:32:13 +0000 JoJoGirl 2292131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I just had a missed miscarriage too (in August) - I'm 6 weeks post D&amp;C today. Chromosomal problems are INCREDIBLY common (about 25% of pregnancies are lost to them before 12 weeks) so your OB is right there's not much you can do at this point. Just try to have faith and keep trying. My heart goes out to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292129 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 07:31:49 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2292129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> <p>I dont think there is much you can really rule out after just a single loss but if you wanted to talk to your regular primary care doctor, its always good to do an annual physical check up and routine blood work. Thats a first step anyways. </p> <p>After my second loss, my OB was willing to run some tests and blood work. It resulted in a few false positives but with progesterone and aspirin I was able to successfully have my baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292124 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 07:23:48 +0000 mamabolt 2292124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I'm sorry for your loss. I had a loss in April. Mine was slightly different as I have one DD already, so we know I have no issues that would seriously impact carrying a pregnancy to term. My OB tried to test for chromosomal abnormalities after D&amp;C at my request (just because it would have given me closure) but couldn't get cells to grow. </p> <p>Statistically the most likely explaination is a chromosomal abnormality, and you are likely to have a healthy pregnancy next time. But it is so hard to trust. I'm ten weeks pregnant now and feel like I'm holding my breath waiting for bad news still. My OB did offer me Harmony genetic testing this time so I will have earlier confirmation everything is ok chromosomally. Good luck and be kind to yourself. Hoping for a sticky baby for you soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292050 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 02:12:05 +0000 Eko 2292050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I'm really sorry for your loss :heart: </p> <p>I had a blighted ovum that was discovered around 11w and followed with a d&amp;c. It's really unfortunate but most insurance companies won't cover testing unless you've had 2+ miscarriages. It is really common for women to have one miscarriage and have successful subsequent pregnancies. </p> <p>I ended up with a second miscarriage. I went through the testing and they couldn't find anything wrong. For me, it was more frustrating that there was clearly something wrong that they couldn't diagnose and fix. My doctor told me statistically that more often they don't find something wrong then do. He prescribed me progesterone and baby aspirin and I got my baby that way.</p> <p>For me, I just had to keep reminding myself that so many women have losses and go on to have babies. I was sad for a long time and still feel weird knowing I would've had a 2 year old right now. But, I do keep thinking if I had gotten the progesterone maybe I wouldn't have had my second miscarriage. While there are many women here who have a diagnosis, it is possible you may not have one. Personally, I think I just got lucky.</p> <p>I hope you are able to find some comfort and that you have your baby soon. Hope too you'll find plenty of women with only one loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292047 Wed, 16 Sep 2015 01:22:22 +0000 Nutella 2292047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss :heart: </p> <p>Mine is a very similar story to yours, except we we were TTC for our second. I found out at our 8w scan that it was a missed MC at 6.5w, and the fact that I had no warning signs freaked me out the most &amp; made it really shocking. I had a d&amp;c a few days after I found out - had to wait over the weekend in unknown limbo of what was best option for me (d&amp;c or natural) and as rough as that was, gave me a bit of closure before the procedure.</p> <p>Like you, I also wanted to know why but was told it was chromosomal &amp; they wouldn't do further testing unless it happened 3 or 4 more times!! So I just had to accept that it's common and happens a lot...to everyone.</p> <p>I did have slightly underfunctioning thyroid that was only addressed following the MC, which I really think contributed to it...though all the doctors I have spoken to say it isn't directly related.</p> <p>They did reiterate that it wasn't me that was the problem, and it was an unfortunate failing at the chromosomal stage. It was hard to just accept that it was bad luck as I considered myself 'healthy' and 'normal' but I think it really is just luck of the draw! </p> <p>I took a few weeks just to take it all in and have days in bed etc, and tried to treat myself as much as I felt like it (which wasn't a lot). I then joined the gym just because I was feeling really crap about the extra bloat and weight that I had put on for the non-viable pregnancy...and that has actually helped so much, I think it's about the time out (they have on-site crèche) and also exercise endorphins...soon I was able to not cry every time I thought about the MC. </p> <p>Best thing I did was talk to two friends who have had previous miscarriages. They were amazing sources of comfort and it was nice to speak to people who knew exactly what to say. </p> <p>Definitely getting easier, we are still aiming to TTC this cycle...but still hurts like hell whenever I hear of friends and family announcing March babies. But hopefully time will continue to ease that pain.</p> <p>Hope you get some comfort in the stories on here too, there are lots of women who have gone through so much - it's sad but also amazing how strong they are. </p> <p>Sending a hug and best wishes for you - hope you get your rainbow baby soon!</p> <p> :heart: </p> <p>PS: sorry for the novel! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292041 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 23:54:21 +0000 Mrs.Waffles 2292041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: I am so sorry for your loss. I too had an early miscarriage. And it's so hard. I tried getting answers with the OB, but because it was my first MC she said they don't run tests unless you had multiple losses. As far as coping it does get better with time. As pp stated, focus on taking care of yourself eating healthy exercising. And try again when you feel ready. For me, I wasn't ready to try until almost two years after the loss and now I have a beautiful 12 month-old. Wishing you well and sending you hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292037 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 23:29:53 +0000 MamaCate 2292037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LCTBQE: first of all, I am so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is awful and so hard to go through. Mine was also a missed m/c that resulted in a d&amp;c so I have been in your shoes. I had the same feeling of trying to control the outcome to make sure things would be different the next time. I could have asked for testing of the baby but it was not covered by my insurance and my ob felt it was chromosomal as well. Unfortunately m/cs are very common and often unexplained. It is my understanding that most of the time one loss does not correlate with problems in future pregnancies. </p> <p>I tried to focus my desire to control things on making my body healthy: eating right, exercise etc, and I am now on maternity leave with my healthy two month old. Good luck! :goodluck: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/ruling-out-possible-mc-causes#post-2292016 Tue, 15 Sep 2015 22:25:45 +0000 LCTBQE 2292016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi ladies, I'm pretty new to HB, but my story is that in late July I got pregnant for the first time, and then at my 8-week scan found out I'd had a missed miscarriage at 6.5 weeks, and had the D&amp;C the next day (almost 2 weeks ago now). My question is, to those who've had similar losses, did you do anything to try and figure out why/how it happened? I've heard of blood clotting issues, thyroid problems, low progesterone, and several other problems that can cause repeated miscarriages. </p> <p>My OB (who I love) told me it happened so early that it was probably just chromosomal defect and just try again, but I feel this urgency to make sure I don't have anything going on that would cause a repeat. How could it be that we're just supposed to keep trying and hope for the best, and that's all there is to do? Don't mean to sound insane/frantic, I'm just so annoyed with the waste, heartbreak, and imprecision of "hope" alone... I'd love to hear how you took action, or even just what you told yourself to cope. Thank you x1000, stalking these boards has already helped me so much. </p>