https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 10 May 2026 11:01:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-721642 Wed, 17 Apr 2013 06:29:13 +0000 looch 721642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I should clarify, the reason we had someone come to help was two fold...one it helped my son get used to being cared for by someone other than his parents and two, I didn't like to use our family time on weekends to get my hair done or go to the dentist. So for me, having someone come gave me a set time where I could schedule this stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-721241 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 20:48:50 +0000 FarmWifeGina 721241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I don't have "help," but I certainly wouldn't mind someone to come in once a week or so! I don't mind taking the kids with me everywhere (although I do take them to a babysitter when I have a doctor's appointment), but it would be nice to have someone just entertain them for the day while I got a ton of stuff done- sitting down and paying all the bills and getting all the regular filing and paperwork done uninterrupted, work on stuff for my business, make phone calls, clean house, etc. I do a lot better when I can pick up steam and keep working at something until it's done.<br /> When I was growing up, when my mom had 5 and 6 little kids running around (I'm the oldest of an eventual 10), we had a local teenaged Amish girl come in as a mother's helper (VERY typical in the Amish/Mennonite communities) to help with the kids and light housework. And oh my word, when I think back to that I WISH we lived near an Amish community because I would totally hire a girl to help me out. They know what they're doing when it comes to kids and diapers and basic housework. They're clean, they're honest and it's such a win. But. I don't live close to any Amish so I juggle on my own for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-721215 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 20:37:18 +0000 Cchoi4 721215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have help but my parents and in-laws all live within a 45 minute drive so if i ever really needed it, i could call on them. My cleaning lady comes once every two weeks, which helps tremendously with the household cleaning.</p> <p>But as for errands, grocery shopping, post office, mall returns, etc..I take LO with me. Its not the easiest thing in the world but not the hardest either. </p> <p>For the eye doctor or dentist, I wait until husband comes home...usually around 6pm or so ...and then i'm out the door. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-721153 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 20:16:27 +0000 mrsjyw 721153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im not a sahm but wfh 2-3x a week in office 2x a wk...and I could not do errands as freely or upkeep the house wo my mom who is a's primarybcaretaker when I'm working. She helps w everything not just the house. Love my umma!!!!</p> <p>Id take a day. If u could find a good pt nanny id do it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-721114 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 20:00:42 +0000 pinkcupcake 721114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I don't like leaving lo with anyone but dh. I have a hard time trusting anyone else with her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720964 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 18:37:25 +0000 sarac 720964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I could see doing it if I had another baby before my first was in full time preschool. Or if my husband didn't work from home part time, and I needed time for appointments. I plan to either have a cleaner or a sitter/mother in law around for sure when I have two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720954 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 18:31:13 +0000 tororojo 720954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No help here...I'm having so much trouble scheduling things like dentist, eye doctor, etc. We do grocery shopping in the evenings, when either DH or I can stay home with LO. I work chores in while she naps or is in the moby. I figure we'll put her in a mother's day out program in the fall, once she's a little older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720893 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 18:00:20 +0000 chopsuey 720893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get this question a lot too. Mostly from my friends in CA.<br /> No help here. Would love to have someone come and clean for me, but I'm a control freak so I need to do household chores myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720888 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:58:12 +0000 Cole 720888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a nanny and I currently work for two families, one of the moms is a sahm and has me come for a day and a half. It gives her time to schedule appointments, household maintenance, work on things around the house, cook uninterrupted etc. </p> <p>I don't clean per-say although I do make sure everything I do with the kids is cleaned up, their rooms and playroom are tidy and organized etc. I also go through their clothes seasonally and help her make lists and decide what to purchase for their wardrobes. I keep a running list of art supplies and toys that we need or want. I also prepare and set up activities for them to do through the week so she has things ready to go when they need them. </p> <p>It totally makes sense to me why a sahm would want that extra set of hands. You will be a better parent if all of your needs are met and besides, squeezing all of your errands and boring for kids things into one day a week gives you more time to play the rest of the week! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720886 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:58:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 720886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would love to eventually have someone come for a few hours a week. We won't have it right off the bat- and I probably wouldn't want it in the first couple of months- but I think it would be really nice to be able to schedule appts during those set ours, run errands that are harder to do with a baby, and even just do something for me, like go to the gym or meet a friend for lunch. </p> <p>Even more so than a babysitter, though, I'd love to have a biweekly cleaning lady or something. We had a monthly cleaner until we moved and it was great. Since I'll be a SAHM soon, we cancelled when we moved and aren't getting a new one until we see how everything is going, but I think for the first several months it might be a lifesaver.</p> <p>ETA: The only family we have nearby is BIL, who is younger and probably not so into babysitting. I'm sure he would do it in a pinch, and when LO is a toddler will be a super fun uncle, but I don't think a night in with a newborn is his cup of tea at the moment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720869 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:51:54 +0000 LittleGBee 720869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG, I wish! We don't have family around and I've been going crazy lately. What I would give for a few hours to myself...or for someone else to clean my kitchen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720853 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:45:50 +0000 fairefaire 720853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I was in college, there were two families I would "help" occasionally - both were SAHMs, but would have me come over a few hours once a week or every other week so they could run errands or go to volunteer commitments, or sometimes so they could just get out of the house and have lunch with a friend sans kids. I think it was great for their sanity, and just as much as they needed a break from their kids, sometimes their kids needed a break from mom, too!</p> <p>One found me through a friend-of-a-friend, the other found me through my school's "job binder" (the career office kept a listing of odd jobs like babysitting, house sitting, etc.), </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720850 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:44:00 +0000 Sweet T 720850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any help at all. I think I would feel guilty being a SAHM with regular help. I take DS with me if I need to go grocery shopping during the week. I wish I had family near by to spend time with LO but it's just not a reality for us right now. We couldn't afford the extra help even if I wanted it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720841 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:38:11 +0000 tysonja 720841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i personally don't have any help, but i certainly would not say no if it was offered!! :) if you guys can afford it and your dh is on board, i say why not!! :D go for it girl! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720822 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 17:13:11 +0000 heffalump 720822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't, but my mom lives close so she can watch lo during my doctors apts, if I have to take the dog to the vet, etc. I just take lo with me to run errands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720800 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:59:20 +0000 umlo 720800@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. No help here but I would love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720773 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:48:58 +0000 luckypenny 720773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love doing things for and with my kids too but...sometimes it's nice to have a few hours where I can do those errands that are harder to do with kids. Example, our weekly grocery shopping. I live in a condo and the walk to and from car, elevator, apartment is tricky with 5+ bags of groceries and my baby who can't wal yet. I take DD once during the week to pick up things I forgot or that we changed our mind about<br /> MIL comes two days a week. One I do chores in the house and go to the gym and the other I do errands. I love having the help. Moms deserve a lunch break or some time to themselves too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720769 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:47:29 +0000 allison 720769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't, but DH works from home so I'm not here by myself with LO. I think if I was here alone with him and we had the extra cash, I would definitely get a nanny for a few hours a week! Check out Care.com. I bet you could find a qualified college student looking for a little extra cash.</p> <p>ETA: I think it's just more for an emotional break. As a former full-time nanny, I would sometimes be dying for some adult interaction at the end of the week. Sure, you can always take your LO with you to run errands, but I can definitely see how it would be nice to just get out for a few hours by yourself to recharge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720763 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:45:36 +0000 loveisstrange 720763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, and DH would laugh in my face if I suggested it. C and the house are my "job" at the moment. I would LOVE someone to just come in and do my dishes once a week, but that's really not going to happen, unfortunately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720756 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:43:51 +0000 iheartleopardprint 720756@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I have never had any "help", nor do I really see a need for it I guess. I can easily get everything done with my 2 kids in tow, and any help I need DH is more than willing and able to pitch in. As a SAHM I don't particularly see the need for it, I love doing things for and with my kids :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720713 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:21:42 +0000 looch 720713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a nanny come every week for about 4 hours. It was great. At first I was resistant to it but my husband insisted . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720670 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:03:23 +0000 Honeybee 720670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Before we relocated in December, I sent the kids to an in-home daycare two days a week. They loved it, and it was nice for me to be able to run errands, clean the house, and do schoolwork on my own. DD was in daycare full time from 9 months until 21 months (when I had DS and quit work), and I started taking DS at 3 months. The provider just liked us, so she was willing to work with us on a part-time arrangement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720659 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 16:00:32 +0000 runsyellowlites 720659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH usually has 1 weekday off a week so I try and make that my out of the house day... during his overtime weeks I just lug the kiddos with me!</p> <p>I would LOVE to get "help" though!.. Can this help also cook &amp; clean? lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720655 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 15:59:34 +0000 SAHM0811 720655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a mother's helper last summer since we just moved across the country and I needed someone to help entertain the kids while I unpacked. She came 2-3 times a week for about 4 hours or so. She was a recent HS graduate that was a student of my cousin who is a teacher. She had a lot of babysitting experience and was great with the kids! It was nice to have an extra pair of hands around. </p> <p>I don't currently have help now though since she moved away for college. My older DD goes to school for 6 hours a day, but I do still have the younger one with me 24/7 and she's a handful, but I manage somehow. My sister (who has a baby too) just sits occasionally if I have an appt and can't take DD with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-amp-help#post-720641 Tue, 16 Apr 2013 15:53:34 +0000 shopaholic 720641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an interesting conversation at lunch this weekend with friends. Everyone always asks me if I have "help" and if I need help. I figured most SAHMs don't get much help and said as much. But DH came out with a doozy about how he's spoken to co-workers and most of their SAH-wives get "help" one day a week! Someone to watch LO while they run errands, go to the store, go to appts., etc. He seemed keen on the idea that I could do something like that. </p> <p>Do any of you SAHMs here have a once-a-week helper/nanny or take your LO to someone for something like this? How does it work and how did you find this person? Our parents aren't an option. But it would be really helpful to have a day set aside that I know I could schedule things for. </p>