https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 00:50:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673397 Tue, 03 Jan 2017 15:12:02 +0000 catgirl 2673397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: This was DH's big fear about drop in care. We've ruled it out anyway because I can't get her in and out of her car seat.</p> <p>@BabyBruins: That's the goal. Even having help a few hours a day will be huge. Thankfully she got an indoor slide and a mini trampoline for her birthday recently so she is still getting energy out while stuck home with me.</p> <p>@RacheBon: we've been exploring some college aged kids, problem I'm facing is the ones home on break are booked and the ones who go to the local schools aren't back in the area yet.</p> <p>@KayKay: Great idea! I don't know of one but I'm off to search!</p> <p>Thank you again everyone for the well wishes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673394 Tue, 03 Jan 2017 15:05:19 +0000 KayKay 2673394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you have a local nanny board (or fb group)? Sometimes nannies will post to ours when their nanny-families are out of town for an extended period of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673299 Tue, 03 Jan 2017 13:08:58 +0000 RacheBon 2673299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That sounds really tough. As far as finding a sitter on short notice I would look at sites like Urbansitter and Chime by SitterCity, if they're available where you live. If you have any connections to college students now might be good timing to find someone who's on break for a few more weeks.</p> <p>Good luck and feel better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673214 Tue, 03 Jan 2017 10:45:12 +0000 BabyBruins 2673214@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was put on bed rest for 6 weeks when I was pregnant with #2 and I wasn't supposed to care for my older one by myself. He was 2 at the time. We ended up getting a babysitter to help while my husband was at work and my mom helped on the weekends. There were a handful of days that our sitter had an emergency or left early and those days became movie days and we chilled on the couch and watched tv. Even if you can't get help for all the time your husband can't be home, maybe having a sitter available for part of the time will be helpful to get some of your daughters energy out so she is more willing to sit and chill out when you are alone with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673104 Tue, 03 Jan 2017 07:50:14 +0000 looch 2673104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, this sucks! I wouldn't have been able to use drop in care when my son was small, I tried, but he would freak out about 15 minutes in and I would have to go and get him...this is why even though I stayed at home for 2 years, we got a very part time nanny (4 hours a week). I'd look and see if you can utilize someone like an au pair, that has older children in school in her care, so you can leverage him or her during their downtime. I would think any care in your home would be the least disruptive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673010 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 20:06:25 +0000 catgirl 2673010@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bookwormmama: I picture a lot of extra tv time and really easy meals for the time being. I'm trying to ice as often as I can and just rest but it's so hard for a two year old to understand. I'm fortunate that I can drive but I can't get DD in or out of her car seat so I will definitely need someone available for doctor's appointments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673009 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 19:57:26 +0000 bookwormmama 2673009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catgirl: hopefully your LO will go to bed easily for you on the nights your DH works late. I'm pretty lucky because my DH works in academics and can go in late/leave early whenever he needs to, but he can't work from home either. The situation sucks, but you will find ways to make it work! I think the first 2 weeks were the hardest. It really wasn't as bad as it could have been, I just had to let a lot go. I couldn't do laundry or clean, etc. Just make sure you give yourself time to rest/heal or it could take longer. During every nap I made sure to take my boot off and elevate/ice my foot in the first couple weeks. </p> <p>Also, you'll probably have several doctor's appointments, so you may want to try to plan those out ASAP and see if your parents or in-laws can help if your DH can't get off work. Or schedule for the days he has mornings off. You definitely won't want to bring your LO with all alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673005 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 19:35:19 +0000 catgirl 2673005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! This is definitely not how I imagined starting 2017!</p> <p>My mom is planning on coming this weekend and my MIL is prepared to come the following one if we need her too.</p> <p>Any tips on finding a sitter available during the day on short notice?</p> <p>@bookwormmama: That's been my plan - keeping us in one room as much as possible. I wish DH had more normal hours, it varies day to day but he works 1p-10p, 9a-5p, or 9a-10p occasionally. If it's a 9-5 day he can get out a little early if necessary but the others he can't. And he doesn't have the option to work from home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2673004 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 19:20:23 +0000 bookwormmama 2673004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about your elbow!</p> <p>I don't know how much help I'll be, but last summer I broke my ankle. I SAH, but we live 5 hours from our nearest family, so I have/had no help/backup. I stepped funny on our step one morning (thank god it was during LO's nap!) and then I called my DH telling him what happened and that I couldn't put weight on it. He usually walks to work, but had a friend/co-worker that was able to bring him home. We went to the doctor that afternoon and found out it was broken. Luckily (I guess), it was a Friday, so DH was home all weekend. I had a walking boot and by Monday was able to at least move around/provide basic care for my DS. We babygated our living room and I kept diapers, wipes, and a mat in the living room for changing him, and that helped so that I didn't have to move around the house a lot. All DS's toys were in the living room and we did some projects to break up the day. But I will be honest, he watched a TON of TV during those weeks. We had just moved to our city, so we didn't know a lot about the area and I couldn't drive because it was my right ankle. That was probably the worst part because it was 6-8 weeks of no driving!</p> <p>After a few weeks, I was able to move decently so we could go in the backyard and play more. That might not really be an option depending on where you live since it's so cold, but hopefully after a few weeks it will be easier to leave the house a little bit...even for walks!</p> <p>I think my DH came home early most days to help out, so if that's an option it might be helpful for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672995 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 18:44:03 +0000 brownepiano 2672995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a similar problem when I cut my hand and had nerve surgery. My in-laws took some days off work, DH took some days off work, and other days friends would come over and help till lunch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672976 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 17:30:57 +0000 erinbaderin 2672976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My friend had this problem over the summer - she needed an emergency surgery and couldn't lift anything for 6 weeks, and was a SAHM to her three kids. She hired a neighbourhood teenager to come over and basically do her lifting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672960 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 16:39:13 +0000 youboots 2672960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were both really sick when DH was out of town. I found a babysitter that came to us a few days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672959 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 16:39:06 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2672959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh, that sounds painful! I thought about this recently, myself, but don't have a good solution. I like the idea of the mother's helper as others suggested. Good luck, mama, and heal quickly. :goodluck: :heart: :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672955 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 16:27:25 +0000 ElbieKay 2672955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know this is not an ideal solution, but if your husband qualifies for FMLA then he could probably take some of those days unpaid and his employer would have to keep his job. At least if he takes off unpaid you would not also have to absorb the cost of a sitter.</p> <p>If I were in your position, I would try to find daycare or a nanny during the weekdays and see if your parents can help on the weekends to take the edge off the cost. And if my husband had to take a few days off to help too, then so be it.</p> <p>I hope you are on the mend soon! That sucks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672938 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 15:35:57 +0000 Foodnerd81 2672938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry, that sounds terrible! I stay home and we don't have family nearby either. We would have to have dh stay home or work from home to help. Maybe you could find a babysitter through care.com or something like that? I feel like you could afford to be less picky since you will be there for the most part, as opposed to leaving her with a new sister and putting all your trust at once, if that makes sense. </p> <p>I hope you feel better soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672934 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 15:34:33 +0000 mrsrain 2672934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! I'm so sorry you're in this situation! I have no idea what we would do. Maybe hire a mother's helper? Our families live in TX and TN, and we're in CT, so they wouldn't be a decent option for us at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-injury#post-2672931 Mon, 02 Jan 2017 15:25:12 +0000 catgirl 2672931@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you stay at home with LO do you have a backup if you can't take care of them for an extended period of time? Are your parents and/or inlaws able to help? Would you utilize drop off care if available? Or have SO take time off from work?</p> <p>I fell yesterday on the ice while carrying DD - I was able to prevent her from hitting the pavement but by doing so I possibly broke my elbow. It has too much fluid in the elbow and too much swelling for them to be positive right now, but they believe there is a fracture. I can barely move my arm which is making it incredibly difficult to take care of DD. </p> <p>DH typically works Wednesday - Sunday. We're trying to figure out what option makes the most sense for us if I am unable to care for her solo. Our parents live 2+ hours away and all work so they are only available on weekends. I've found a few daycares that offer drop in care but DH's schedule is really bizarre and I'm not sure I could do drop off or pick up. Basically feeling screwed right now and desperately hoping the doctors are wrong about the fracture. </p>