https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 22:25:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928842 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 11:24:01 +0000 Anagram 1928842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally don't think it's weird....but my husband would, because he's just more traditional about these things. Like, he also wouldn't go to a HH with a female colleague unless they were in a big group. I wouldn't care about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928832 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 11:18:24 +0000 shopaholic 1928832@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No. The only one I sort of know is my BFFs DH who is home half the week (they both have irregular schedules) but we never hang out without my BFF. I don't think DH would have a problem if I did have playdates with a SAHD, but maybe if it were at home and so late, it might seem weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928792 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:57:55 +0000 luckypenny 1928792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: truth :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928706 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:30:12 +0000 looch 1928706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@luckypenny: Well, I can only speak for me, but if I wasn't sure, I'd tell my husband about it, but I wouldn't present it as an option, rather a fact. "Hey, I am going over to blah blah's house this afternoon for pizza." </p> <p>If he had a problem with it, I would be pretty upset, because that would imply he doesn't trust me or he doesn't trust this other guy and life is too short to be worried all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928635 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:52:00 +0000 luckypenny 1928635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I don't think hanging out with dads is weird but I wasn't sure if it would make DH uncomfortable if I went to his house for a play date. Example he asked if we wanted to come over after school for pizza and play date then a neighborhood festival. Both our spouses work late hours. He's never had a problem with me being at a moms house with the kids at 9 pm but maybe he would if it were a man? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928601 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:36:06 +0000 looch 1928601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This isn't weird to me at all, why should it even be an issue? Are you worried or is your husband worried? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928589 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:32:23 +0000 luckypenny 1928589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lamariniere: hahaha! </p> <p>@wonderstruck: I know DH trusts me and wouldn't mind and he has a TON of female coworker friends. He is like 4 different women's work husband lol. </p> <p>Would it make a difference if they were really good looking? For instance I wouldn't mind if DH stayed home and hung out with moms but if she looked like a supermodel? Lol may feel different </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928492 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:05:51 +0000 wonderstruck 1928492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've never even considered that this could be an issue...the only SAHD I know is my cousin, so obviously that's different. But when I did work I was the only female in my department and I did end up being friends with several of my co-workers to the extent that we'd occasionally hang out outside of work. If my DH had a problem with it, I would had a problem with the fact that either he didn't trust me or thought I had bad judgement with choosing friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928344 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 07:54:53 +0000 JerricaBenton 1928344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know any SAHDs. There's one dad who brings his daughter to one of our classes but I think he might just be off that particular day. If i met one and our kids hit it off I'd consider a play date. I'd most likely want to meet someplace but I wouldn't rule out an in home play date depending on how everything is going. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928304 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 07:01:00 +0000 Andrea 1928304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've met up at the playground with SAHDs, but nothing in our homes as yet. I think it would be ok. I feel like I know them fairly well at this point since we bump into each other so much at school and other places around town. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928302 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 06:49:35 +0000 lamariniere 1928302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know two SAHDs. All of our kids used to go to the same school, so we would meet up at the park almost every day after school. We had occasional in-home play dates too. I never found it wierd and my husband was always aware of and fine with it. Funny though, one of the dads accidentally sent me an "I love you" text meant for his wife, but then rectified it right away. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928156 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 23:04:11 +0000 fairy 1928156@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know any SAHDs! But I don't even have any other moms over usually haha my house is usually too messy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928155 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 22:59:54 +0000 Corduroy 1928155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a SAHM but DH used to stay home with LO on Fridays. He would often take her to our friends' houses where the moms were SAH. I'm not sure how I would feel if DH made a play date with a woman I didn't know at all. I tried to set a few up with women I knew from mommy groups and he was having none of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928093 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 21:46:04 +0000 luckypenny 1928093@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: yeah, that is what I'm thinking but it's going to start getting really cold! </p> <p>@Foodnerd81: there are so many SAHDs in my new neighborhood (or WAHDs or maybe they have more flexible jobs). I never ran into this issue in San Francisco!</p> <p>@Ra: ha, truth! Half the time I'm lucky to have my teeth brushed so definitely no close encounters. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928075 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 21:29:04 +0000 Ra 1928075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any SAHD friends. I don't think DH would mind if I did though. I can't use the bathroom without B climbing me like a spider monkey, no way I'm having a torrid love affair! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928074 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 21:28:30 +0000 Foodnerd81 1928074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do not. I was actually talking about this with one of DH's best friends (a guy). He and his wife are expecting their first, wife would love husband to be a SAHD, but he's not so sure and feels like he'd always be the odd man out. There are a couple of dads I see out at local activities but I haven't really talked to them. I feel like it's a lot harder for them to connect with the other moms. Sucks, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928068 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 21:25:39 +0000 blackbird 1928068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just do parks then? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-and-sahd-friends#post-1928064 Mon, 03 Nov 2014 21:22:59 +0000 luckypenny 1928064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure this is the right board so feel free to move it...</p> <p>SAHMs, do you have a lot of SAHD friends? Do you have play dates together? We take the train everyday with a guy and his two kids so we inevitably started talking. I think DH would be uncomfortable if I had a play date at one of our houses. But maybe not? I don't think of it being any different than a co-worker relationship that DH may have at the office but maybe because we could end up meeting in our houses it could be weird? Thoughts? </p>