https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 03:26:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-34910 Thu, 15 Dec 2011 18:06:35 +0000 Red 34910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and I definitely prefer it over working. In my previous profession, I worked out of my home office so I'm sure the dynamics are different than working in an office outside of home but I don't miss work at all. Even when I ran my own business (after the home office gig), I always felt like a rat in the system, like nothing I did was really meaningful. Now, as a SAHM, I know I'm making a difference by raising a happy, productive human being. I feel much more fulfilled. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-34415 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 21:42:08 +0000 Mrs. Bee 34415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>full-time wahm. i definitely wish i worked fewer hours, but i would never want to be a sahm -- i couldn't handle it!</p> <p>i have the benefit of not having missed any milestones because i'm home though, so the decision to work is probably easier for me. still... i know i could never be a sahm. i love my job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-34403 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 21:32:29 +0000 ecogirl 34403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you a SAHM or a working mom? SAHM that does volunteer work outside of the home</p> <p>If you're a working mom do you work full time or part time?</p> <p>If you're a SAHM do you wish you'd stayed in the workforce? My job was lining up to be very stressful. I was in residency to be an oncologist specializing in children. I don't wish I'd stayed because I really love my life as it is right now. I'm sure in the future I'll go back.</p> <p>If you are a working mom and work full-time, do you wish you were a SAHM or work fewer hours?</p> <p>I can't figure out how to create a poll otherwise I'd create a poll. I appreciate your thoughts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-34384 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 21:24:00 +0000 venice4504 34384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just got to become a SAHM. I'm on the fence on how I currently feel about it. I still do about 5 hours a work a week (which is peanuts) but it does keep me a little sane. I'm sure I'm going to like it a lot more when he's a little older. This summer I'm sure is going to be a blast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-34007 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 14:13:26 +0000 MsMamaBear 34007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a working mom, but teacher, so I get the summer off, breaks, so that's good. I hate where I work at right now, so I wish I was at home. I thought about the home thing the other day, really thought about it, I'd prefer to be parttime. I'd like to have my own money, so I don't have to ask when I want to buy something. Plus, I like to have my own money just in case. never know what could happen in life.</p> <p>If I could do a part time teaching job, I'd take it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33902 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 13:12:26 +0000 Rosie Girl 33902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I LOVE staying at home. But, I will have to go back to the workforce at some point I think.... I have mixed feelings about this. I want to stay home and enjoy my children and not miss anything, but I also feel like getting out during the day is good too. I don't get ready for the day really anymore since I stay home, and I think that would help my self-esteem. I also think that interacting with other adults is nice :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33872 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:58:10 +0000 Boogs 33872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and I LOVE it and feel so lucky to be at home! I think it depends on your personality because I know there are some women who would hate it or much prefer to work. At the end of the day I think it's all about what works for your family and makes you happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33860 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:49:26 +0000 winniebee 33860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I currently work full time and will be returning to work after babywinnie arrives in May out of necessity. I am considering returning to work 4 days a week rather than 5, but not sure yet. In a few years I will have the option not to work so we'll see how it goes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33857 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:48:30 +0000 Crisark 33857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been a SAHM and I HATED it. Just wasn't for me. I got really depressed.<br /> I am a working mom of 2 and it's difficult. But, it's mainly because my shift isn't convenient to any after school activities for them. But, the money is good and I really enjoy being in the work force.<br /> I'd be happier if I was able to work less hours though or work some from home. That would be ideal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33848 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:44:29 +0000 LivsMama 33848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you a SAHM or a working mom? Working, by choice</p> <p>If you're a working mom do you work full time or part time? Full time, but I have a very flexible schedule</p> <p>If you're a SAHM do you wish you'd stayed in the workforce? </p> <p>If you are a working mom and work full-time, do you wish you were a SAHM or work fewer hours? I dont wish I was a SAHM. I contemplated doing it as we do have the option for me to SAH, but I chose not to because I love my career, love my job, love my coworkers. My hours are super flexible. Im home almost every day by 5 and I get every other friday off to spend at home with Liv. I am very lucky, we have an ideal situation</p> <p>The worst part for me was the guilt in choosing to going back when I didnt HAVE to. But in my 3 months of maternity leave, I was starting to get frazzled by being home all day. Work gives me a break and adult interaction time, and I CHERISH the time fomr when I get home to when she goes to bed. Its 100% Liv time...no phone, no TV, no computer. Its a little sad that she goes to bed at 7 bc I only get a few hours with her when I get home, but I know that will change as she gets older.</p> <p>I think the happiness debate is, well, debatable. I think there are some SAHMs who are elated to do so and are infinitely happy with it. I think there are some working moms who are miserable because all they want is to be a SAHM and they cannot be. I truly think its dependent upon each situation. And I do NOT think one option is better over the other. Each family needs to do what they have to do to maintain happiness and necessity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33829 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:28:28 +0000 Miss Adia 33829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I remember reading an article stating that the SAHM vs working mom war is all in our heads.<br /> I don't care if you stay home and I don't care if you work 12 hour days. You do you. Neither choice is wrong or better than the other.<br /> Personally, I couldn't do it, but I'm not a home body. I don't like being in my house for a long period of time. Secondly, my daughter is school aged so there would be no point for me to just sit at home all day until she got home from school. Thirdly, I like money and I'm happy with the fact that if FH ever left me, I would have money to survive on my own.<br /> I haven't missed any milestones. I've been there for her first steps, her first words, her first pee and poop, her first everything. I have a billion photos documenting such. I did stay home the first 6 months, but I'm glad to be working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33816 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 12:18:59 +0000 ALittleP 33816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, ladies. This is helpful. I guess I need to figure out what I'm most comfortable with for myself and my family's needs. Luckily, I have the option. I think I'll pursue the position(s) that are coming my way and see what happens. Sometimes things work out the way they are supposed to work out... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33549 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 08:34:16 +0000 pelikila 33549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a mom that works away from the home full-time. Being a SAHM wasn't an option for me emotionally. I need to have a separate-me from the mom-me and have that dedicated time away. It is hard to be a WAHM, particularly when you realize how little awake time you are spending with your baby but if it is what is best for you, then there is nothing wrong with it. It gets better over time and requires adjustment like anything else. Sometimes I wish I were a SAHM but in the long run, I know what I am doing is what is best for our family as well as myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33541 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 08:04:07 +0000 EloiseKE 33541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and have zero desire to go back to work. I tried it, I was miserable, so I quit. But I hated my job. If I was in a career I loved that really fulfilled me I am not sure I'd feel the same. But I have been there for EVERY single milestone, first steps, first word, first tooth, first haircut. I haven't missed a moment, and for me personally, that's worth more than a job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33537 Wed, 14 Dec 2011 07:46:48 +0000 safdxb 33537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I plan on working part time after the baby comes, but not until the baby is old enough for a nursery, maybe 6 months. I hope it will be a good balance between being a mom and still having a chance to get out every so often, even if it is to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33499 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 23:02:56 +0000 cyndistar3 33499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been a SAHM and I love it! I love watching my little girl grow up and learn new things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33448 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 21:20:35 +0000 Maysprout 33448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been a SAHM for the past 6 months and loved it. I had a horrible job while I was pregnant and I think it was a blessing in disguise that I felt like quitting and I could just concentrate on being a new mommy. It's made me feel very fulfilled and happy.</p> <p> I've been telling anyone who will listen that more part-time work, which the study seem to find was the best, would help new mommy's so much being able to stay atop of their field but still have the chance to recover and breastfeed if they want without so much pumping. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33440 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 21:13:28 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 33440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely different strokes for different folks. I work part-time in the office, part-time from home. I love working because it makes me a better mom. I think I would go nuts as a SAHM, but that doesn't mean I love my child less. Just that I'm a realist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33432 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 21:00:54 +0000 heffalump 33432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think different things are good for different people. </p> <p>I'm a sahm and I love it. I love being with my lo all the time and watching her grow up. I'm always texting my husband pictures of her doing new things (finding her feet, rolling over, etc ) and I would be so upset if I was missing those things.</p> <p>Sometimes it does get really hard to be home with a baby all day, especially if she's extra fussy. It helps that I've learned to communicate better with my husband so he knows if I need a break when he gets home or on the weekend. Plus, seeing her smiles makes any fussy day worth it.</p> <p>And no, I don't miss working at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33426 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 20:54:02 +0000 runsyellowlites 33426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a WAHM and can't wait to be a SAHM.... having to work and figure out my schedule is the only part I'm not too fond of with working from home.</p> <p>I worked out of the house for a few years with DS and I'm much happier being home with him than when I was out of the house... again though the only part I miss was having a set schedule and not having to mix home &amp; work.</p> <p>Hopefully in the next 6mths I won't have to work anymore! WOOT WOOT! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33424 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 20:49:37 +0000 chopsuey 33424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM. I'm super happy and thankful that I can stay at home with my LO.<br /> There are days when I miss working, but I know I'd be miserable if I had to leave my baby to go to work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahm-vs-working-mom#post-33420 Tue, 13 Dec 2011 20:44:50 +0000 ALittleP 33420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A survey released by the American Psychological Association found that working moms are happier than SAHMs. Check out this article: <a href="http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/12/111212124520.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2011/12/111212124520.htm</a></p> <p>I'm pregnant and am a part-time PR consultant who works at home but am contemplating going back to a traditional work environment (i.e., a full time position in an office) before I have the baby and before I start to show(!). I'm torn by what will make me and our family happiest!</p> <p>Are you a SAHM or a working mom?</p> <p>If you're a working mom do you work full time or part time?</p> <p>If you're a SAHM do you wish you'd stayed in the workforce? </p> <p>If you are a working mom and work full-time, do you wish you were a SAHM or work fewer hours?</p> <p>I can't figure out how to create a poll otherwise I'd create a poll. I appreciate your thoughts!</p> <p>[EDIT: PS, I am currently planning to take time off when I have the baby and then continue consulting from home but at the moment, I'm feeling like I need to get back to a traditional work environment with less stress of finding new business when old business goes away. Childcare options not discussed as of yet.] </p>