https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:23:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274900 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 15:19:51 +0000 Torchwood 2274900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think DH will resist if I want to put LO in anything that costs money, since I'm not working so that LO can be home with me. But he wants her socializing so hopefully I can convince him (if I'm ever ready to have her away, at 2 months that's hard to imagine yet). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274896 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 15:17:45 +0000 daniellemybelle 2274896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sapphire: I have been SAH for about a month and so far I have been surprised by how fine it is. LO naps for 2-3 hours and that is my break (though I usually work during that time). If she didn't nap I sure as heck would need a break!</p> <p>But - LO was in childcare 4 days per week from 9 - 21 months. I think it might have been different if I had been a SAHM 100% of the time. After 2 years I would probably be ready for some "me time"! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274891 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 15:10:35 +0000 Tanjowen 2274891@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Ha, can't win! And my LO has separation anxiety so I'm not sure this will even work out. Sounds like you have a good plan in place.</p> <p>@illumina: I think you just described heaven. Coffee shops, shopping. .. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274883 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 15:05:50 +0000 sungirl 2274883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is kind of unrelated as I WOHM but ILs watch LOs for free and I started LO1 in preschool 3 days a week at 2 for socialization and I think it's been a great experience for him. Some people, ILs included, didn't understand why I would do it when we had free care especially when the transition was tough but I'm glad I stuck with our plan </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274697 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 13:35:37 +0000 sapphire 2274697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know how one survives being a SAHM without some regular breaks. I also think the time spent with other kids and other caregivers is important! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274642 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 13:06:27 +0000 illumina 2274642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH, but from 22 months old I started putting my LO in nursery 2 mornings a week for 4hrs at a time. The main reason is that I work for Dh's business and I needed set hours to be available, without LO being around. Unless it's a really busy week work-wise I'll usually work for half of the time she's gone and spend the rest doing my own thing...going for a coffee with friends, browsing the shops and I also try and schedule doctors and dentists appts during this time. </p> <p>I was surprised how little resistance I got...especially as my Mum and MIL both SAH with no other childcare. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274579 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 12:18:54 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2274579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tanjowen: my son is going to toddler preschool on Tuesday mornings (2.5 hours). He's my only and I stay home. Some people seem shocked. But... I don't care. We have no family here to help ever. I take him EVERY WHERE with me. I think it will do us both some good!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274574 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 12:12:11 +0000 mauxie 2274574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a SAHM but my sis is and I would be totally on board/encouraging of her doing a Mom's morning out sort of thing! Not only for her own me-time, but for her kids to just socialize and be open to different situations. I help the nursery at church and you can totally tell when kids are not used to being away from their parents for even short periods of time so I think starting it as an occasional thing is great! And a nice way to meet other parents/families :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274552 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 11:54:03 +0000 daniellemybelle 2274552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO started a Mother's Day Out program when she was 10 months old. It was Tuesday &amp; Thursday. We essentially used it as part-time daycare in combination with Grandma care. (For a time she went 4 days per week when my mom was recovering from an injury.) Her class had a mix of working parents who were using it as daycare, and SAHMs who needed a break.</p> <p>I felt "justified" in sending her because I was working so I never had that issue. However, when we moved, a lot of people were surprised that we were not going to continue with a similar program in our new city. She is 22 months old. Even when I say, "Well, I am able to be home with her now and just do my freelance work during her naps," people will respond, "Oh, but I'm sure she loved the socialization and learning at school! You don't think she'll be bored?" (This happened IRL and on HB. I started a thread though so I asked for it. :silly: )</p> <p>So, I had the opposite experience! You can't win for losing. Do what is best for you and your family and your LO! My LO struggles with separation and even after a year of school, we had hard days. I felt like the right thing to do was take a year off and take advantage of opportunities for her to socialize and learn with me (playdates, classes, etc.) She'll go to preschool next fall. I don't care if people think it's weird or that I should I have done something different. That's what worked for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274538 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 11:34:31 +0000 Tanjowen 2274538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: @BandDmommy: @charleysmom: @birdofafeather: Exactly what I think too - I need a break! DH is out of town 4-5 days of the week for work, and while I can use my mom to watch LO, it's hard to always coordinate for something like running to the grocery store. Or to just go to the gym (LO hates the gym nursery). </p> <p>@youboots: I guess I feel the same way, like I have to justify it somehow. My family is big on the guilt factor and it's hard to escape, even all grown up.</p> <p>@looch: I do feel weird saying I need a break, but I'm getting excited about having a few hours free to accomplish things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274514 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 11:04:29 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2274514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never did it but I have MIL for when I have a dr appointment or whatever. I don't like that she sometimes makes a big deal out of it to her friends and the family so I'd definitely rather do that than what I've been doing! I think people will judge no matter what (I've gotten comments about being a sahm regardless of help/MDO and the reasons it's been what's best for our family..) so don't worry about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274500 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 10:43:55 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2274500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have not done it yet, but I would doubt I will get any resistance. I have told DH since before we had kids that I intended to use a MOD type of program. And my mom used one when we were growing up so I know she's in favor. And my MIL is always suggesting that she takes DD for the day to give us a break so she clearly understands the need for one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274457 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 09:55:03 +0000 looch 2274457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You know, I was the one that was resistant! From the beginning, my husband was encouraging me to get a nanny, one day a week for a few hours to give me a break. It took me 4 full months to get comfortable with the idea. There was really no other option at the time, I couldn't have done a MDO type of program because there simply weren't any, but having the nanny was fabulous once I accepted I needed a break. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274434 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 09:30:29 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 2274434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would love to be able to put A into a program a few days a week once lo2 comes this fall. </p> <p>i'm planning on having a baby nurse for the first few weeks to help with the baby since i'll be having a c-section and dh travels often for work and won't have much time off, but after the nurse is done it'll just be the 3 of us and i'm very nervous about how A is going to react to being at home more and not getting as much attention. i have a mother's helper now since i'm supposed to be getting more rest and maybe i'll plan to keep her on for one or two days a week since that would be much cheaper than looking into a daycare for a few days a week. especially with daycare being so pricey here in northern NJ.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274427 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 09:23:47 +0000 youboots 2274427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I have to justify it a little. T is 6mo and started 1 day a week daycare yesterday. I work for my family less then 10 hours a month and we meet 1x a moth and I needed childcare that day. I felt it was best to have it be a regular thing so I can get errands done and M is often gone several nights a week. I really don't care what anyone thinks. It's stressful for me to find someone to watch her on the fly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274421 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 09:16:11 +0000 birdofafeather 2274421@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a PT WAHM but I think it's awesome. DD did a similar program and only me and one other mom were working. And the other moms older kids already went through the program! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274276 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 07:00:11 +0000 charleysmom 2274276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm hopefully joining our YMCA this fall in part because they have childcare. My LO needs to learn how to play with others and get used to being without me for a bit (as much as that pains me). I need time to myself as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274273 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 06:53:24 +0000 BandDmommy 2274273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, I put my son in a mothers day out program once a week when I was a SAHM. You need a break, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274272 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 06:49:41 +0000 Foodnerd81 2274272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I haven't found a program like that but I would happily put her in one this year if I could. I'm due with our second in December and I'm getting more people thinking I'm crazy for not having childcare lined up for the toddler. Lots of people have asked what I'm doing with her or said I should at least get a mothers helper. Right now I'm planning on one more a week of a camp like program at a nearby gym- but I would prefer two mornings. </p> <p>I think the socialization is important and getting them used to being in someone else's care. No one really thinks that's weird around here at least. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-did-you-get-any-resistance-on-putting-lo-in-moms-morning-out#post-2274270 Thu, 27 Aug 2015 06:44:56 +0000 Tanjowen 2274270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just as the title states. My LO is starting a Mom's morning out program next week, 2 mornings a week. He's 20 months old. I have met with a surprising amount of resistance from family and remarks from others that it's odd because he's my only (I take that to mean, why do I need him away from me?). I'm curious about other people's experience. </p> <p>I'm still putting him in the program no matter what. The kid needs some socialization and I need to go to the grocery store or doctor alone! </p>