Hellobee Boards Topic: SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?

Hellobee Boards Topic: SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 01:24:28 +0000 Boogs on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884531 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:25:34 +0000 Boogs 884531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My FIL has actually told me I should hurry up and finish having kids so I can hurry up and go back to work...like he's the one footing the bill for me being a SAHM... autumnlove on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884497 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 21:09:43 +0000 autumnlove 884497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Andrea: My former boss's wife told me that she married rich and got knocked up so she didn't have to work for a few years!. Haha...she was a nurse practitioner! CupQuakeWalk on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884463 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:52:34 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 884463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I was a sahwife before we even had kids so.... Having kids didn't impact my working (or lack of). That is a rude question...and being a SAHM is work...really hard work, really time consuming...exhausting...like any other job! Plus it's 24/7 with no personal days! sarac on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884416 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:26:28 +0000 sarac 884416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Holy crap, I can't believe someone said that to you. I guess I'm lucky to be surrounded by people who recognize the value in having a stay at home parent, and who know how lucky I am to get to choose to do it. Mrs. Pen on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884184 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:36:25 +0000 Mrs. Pen 884184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @FarmWifeGina: I don't always love my job but I love having that separate time for me and I love the paycheck! I am a better mom and enjoy my time with J more. If anything I'm blessed more to have the option of a part time job! But yeah that comment hurt because it was accompanied with a lot more insensitive things.. To make it worse it was someone in my family! FarmWifeGina on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884174 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:31:01 +0000 FarmWifeGina 884174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Mrs. Pen: UGH! I'm not completely happy as a SAHM either, I think I would be a better, saner mom if I had a part-time job outside the home. Not that staying at home isn't satisfying, but you know what I mean. Comments like that drive me up the wall. FarmWifeGina on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884165 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:26:49 +0000 FarmWifeGina 884165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Never had that question. Although, I've had a lot of people act like I can stay home because we can afford it. Ummm, no, really, we can't, but I don't have the degrees or qualifications that would put me in a job that would pay more than the daycare costs, so home I stay. JerricaBenton on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884160 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:24:53 +0000 JerricaBenton 884160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ There are a lot of SAHMs around here so I don't get too many questions, but a few college friends have asked me questions about why I want to stay home. Honestly, part of it is that I don't want to work outside the home. I was never really fulfilled with previous jobs and love that I'm able to spend my time on what does fulfill me, which is being home with LO and taking care of the house and cooking, etc. (Of course I know working moms do all that too ;-)) Andrea on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884148 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:18:53 +0000 Andrea 884148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I have a friend who actually did have kids so that she didn't have to work outside the home so it does exist. She wasn't shy about telling everyone this. luckypenny on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884144 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:17:06 +0000 luckypenny 884144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Everyone tells me that ill get bored and want to go back to work. Ummm probably not, but thanks! I think most of our friends thinks DH makes a lot more than he does bit we still get help from my family and I have dividend payouts from investments that help. Mrs. Pen on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884136 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:14:45 +0000 Mrs. Pen 884136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When I told someone I wasn't happy as a sahm she got offended and said I should be grateful my husband could afford to have me home.... But she had no idea our financial situation- and part of the reason I was unhappy at home was because of money stress! Anyway... I hate those types of questions!! Dandelion on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884120 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:10:14 +0000 Dandelion 884120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Navy_Mommy: They should come visit you! autumnlove on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884118 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:09:56 +0000 autumnlove 884118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So rude but I thought the same thing before I had kids. Running Elley on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884039 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 17:29:42 +0000 Running Elley 884039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ No one has asked me this but I feel like some people do assume this. This is the most difficult (rewarding...but difficult) job that I've ever done. It's something I've always always wanted but, honestly, some days I miss working outside the home. Navy_Mommy on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-884030 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 17:25:42 +0000 Navy_Mommy 884030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My sister REGULARLY makes the comment, "well if you didn't REFUSE to work, you would be able to afford to come visit family more often." (we live on the other side of the country, and she makes these comments because they want to see my son, not because I want to go home). It. Drives. Me. INSANE. Mrs. High Heels on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-883966 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 16:59:46 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 883966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ that is such a rude question! Dandelion on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-883948 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 16:55:41 +0000 Dandelion 883948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My ex husband doesn't ask me this, but he does assume it. It drives me nuts. You'd think he'd be happy that I'm able to spend my time with DS, but whatever. Ree723 on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-883944 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 16:54:31 +0000 Ree723 883944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Wow, I don't think I would be very nice in my response to that at all! I choose to be a SAHM because it is the best thing for my child and it is by far, the hardest job I have ever had. I don't get to take a break if I'm tired or stressed out and my job doesn't end at 5 pm. I also don't get a day off and if I half ass my job, there are massive consequences. Ugh, that question would make me irate! Fortunately, no one has ever questioned my motivation and most people commend my decision. People are so rude sometimes.... Weagle on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-883926 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 16:48:17 +0000 Weagle 883926@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really. I think in this area, people assume that SAHMs either didn't make enough to make child are worth it or they have a rich husband. My reason is neither. I really did want to stay home. runsyellowlites on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-883924 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 16:46:53 +0000 runsyellowlites 883924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @artbee: Whoa! Someone actually has asked you that?! That's nuts! I would be dumbfounded if someone asked me that. O_o heffalump on "SAHM's, do people ask you if you stay at home because you don't want to have to work?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-people-ask-you-if-you-stay-at-home-because-you-dont-want-to-have-to-work#post-883920 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 16:45:23 +0000 heffalump 883920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I've gotten that question a few times. It's hard to be nice while responding. I actually loved my job, I love my degree. But I love being home with LO more, and since DH can support us I'm lucky enough to be able to do so. Oh, and the people asking don't have kids so they don't realize that being home with LO isn't all rainbows and butterflies. One friend asked me if I'll keep having babies so I don't have to work. Yes, that's a good reason to have a baby.