https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 11:05:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1930226 Wed, 05 Nov 2014 06:18:17 +0000 Dandelion 1930226@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. I am starting to really think about a part-time job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929857 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:49:31 +0000 HTownMom 1929857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have been feeling this a lot lately, I think because my LO is 15 months and really starting to push boundaries. Being a SAHM mom is super hard and I'm not as happy doing it. I do think that finding a job either full time or part time doing something that I would really love would be the perfect thing for me. Maybe in the new year after all the holiday stress is over! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929842 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:28:10 +0000 lovehoneybee 1929842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a SAHM anymore, but I did for 19 months. I went back to work because we needed the extra income, but also because I was really unhappy being a SAHM. Being SAHP is really really hard, but I think some people (men and women) are really cut out for it and enjoy it, but I didn't. I'm grateful I got to see E's big milestones first-hand, but if I could do it over again I would have gone back much sooner. I'm a much more patient mother (and wife) because of it. I'm frazzled a lot, and barely have time to think these days (thanks to D's later schedule), but overall I'm so much happier. And E is absolutely *thriving* in daycare in ways that he just wouldn't with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929814 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 19:09:00 +0000 Anagram 1929814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: oh, he works from home? That's amazing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929673 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 17:21:07 +0000 BrandNewMom 1929673@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My job was working as a toddler room teacher! 9 adorable, mostly sweet monsters for 11 hours a day. I thought one baby of mine would be a cakewalk after that, but I didn't factor in 24/7/365 shifts with no adult interactions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929650 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 17:01:00 +0000 sarac 1929650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! When mine was about 18 months old, I thought, OK! Time for a part time job! This shit is intolerable! Then my mother in law moved here, started taking care of my girl a day or two a week, and I got a little balance back. Life is awesome now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929518 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 15:51:53 +0000 jedeve 1929518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@plantains: aww thanks! My office was full of WOHMs who would talk about how SAHMs just played tennis all day and had all this free time. It annoyed me then too since I stayed at home two days a week. But now I think it gets to me more since I feel like I am working my ass off! (To be fair, I am still working from home ten hours a week.)</p> <p>Having done both, I think it's fair to say that being a parent is just plain hard no matter how you do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929451 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 15:10:06 +0000 Greentea 1929451@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The toddler stage is actually better for me, but I consider this for sure- this gig is tough for me personally! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929407 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 14:55:42 +0000 ScarletBegonia 1929407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I'm at work, I want to be home - but after 6 months at home with my son I was ready to go to work!! My silly brain can't seem to decide what I want!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929300 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 14:16:43 +0000 Cherrybee 1929300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aaw, bless you! I was so jealous of SAHMs when I was pregnant, then i hung out with my kid for a few months and suddenly work didn't seem so bad!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1929208 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 13:46:29 +0000 illumina 1929208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Fortunately LO always takes a good 2-3hr nap in the middle of the day so I get a little "down time". I'm lucky that DH WAH, so I often pop out at nap time to go to appointments :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928980 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 12:18:45 +0000 Lindsay05 1928980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep! And it has resulted in me returning to work part time. Staying at home is hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928966 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 12:12:46 +0000 fairy 1928966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope lol, though I do have days where I wish I lived near family members or had trusted friends who could babysit if I needed a break. I've never had a day or night away from my daughter (only a couple hours a handful of times). Unfortunately, I have no "village" here but I am working on it - it is just hard to get close to other sahms because we are all busy and when we get together half the time is spent chasing toddlers around! Getting there slowly.. I never dream about going back to work though haha no thanks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928943 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 12:03:41 +0000 Anagram 1928943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: Is it possible you can get a day here or there with a babysitter so you get some time off? I have some SAHM friends who all split a babysitter and they each get 1 full day a week of the sitter---and they are free to make appointments, get hair done, pedicures, go to the gym, grocery shop--whatever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928835 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 11:21:17 +0000 Orchid 1928835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! About once a week I tell my husband that I'm going back to work but quickly change my mind. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928828 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 11:16:25 +0000 plantains 1928828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yes!!!! Honestly, I wish I had a bigger village. I wish my family lived nearby, but in the meantime I am happy to pay cleaning people, daycare, activity centres, the list is endless hahahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928825 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 11:15:20 +0000 plantains 1928825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: As a WOHM, I am not at all offended, and I definitely believe that it cold feel much harder because the weekends with a toddler as affirmation that all day everyday would be soooooo tough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928812 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 11:10:09 +0000 looch 1928812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a parent that has been a SAHM and a WOHM, I don't understand why it has to be all or nothing...whatever happened to the idea that it takes a village to raise a child? It's okay to have people that you pay in your village, it's okay to have family help with your child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928777 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:53:00 +0000 winniebee 1928777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah but then the next day is better :) I did think toddlerdom would be easier than it has been - I imagined more independent play...and more napping. </p> <p>My son now goes to school part time (9-3) 2 days a week. He's 2.5. That gives us both the break we need. A newborn is coming though so about to start all over again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928775 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:51:48 +0000 Zbug 1928775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way most Monday's, but I'm usually good by Tuesday afternoon :)<br /> I would love to work part time, but finding a part time job in my field near where we live isn't easy. My husband only gets to see DD and hour or two a day, so I would want to have a somewhat flexible schedule. The days are long but the weeks/months/years are short. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928684 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:22:21 +0000 jedeve 1928684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"..why spend time going through that when someone else could be looking after her?"</p> <p>^^ this is exactly what I struggle with. </p> <p>I WOHM PT after my first. My attitude was definitely that I did all the stuff a SAHM did PLUS working 24 hours a week. And while that is partially true - DH and I were still 100% in charge of raising my kids and taking care of our house, staying at home is more work than I anticipated. I have to clean more because my toddler is home making messes more. I have to cook more because we are eating meals at home more. I have to do more diapers and more nap time routines and all that somewhat tedious stuff more. </p> <p>I have to admit that a lot of times I wonder what the point of me staying home is. I don't believe daycare is bad for kids. I get tired of hearing how "lucky"I am. I was miserable in my job and daycare cost too much. And I am working hard. But I feel like if I talk about how it is harder and more work for me, I will offend WOHMs. I just wish I believed there was some big reason k should be at home. But right now it's just what works for our family for a lot of little reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928650 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 10:01:01 +0000 Ree723 1928650@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, I definitely have days like that! Fortunately, the feeling is only temporary and I quickly go back to being incredibly grateful I am able to stay home with my babies.....but I'd be lying if I said I never had days where daycare sounded like a great option! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928574 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:25:32 +0000 Andrea 1928574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even on those days, I like being a SAHM better than the daily grind. People at work were really such a-holes! :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928572 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:24:16 +0000 meredithNYC 1928572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I came close yesterday. We are potty training our 2.5 year old and she wears pull-ups for naps/bedtime. Well, yesterday during bedtime she took off all of her clothes and pooped in the bed. It. was. EVERYWHERE. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928549 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:19:21 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1928549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is the same age but I actually prefer this age to 5 he horrid 4 month long sleep regression hell. I started looking for part time work around that time because I thought I couldn't take being with her all day for another second. It passed though lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928512 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:09:58 +0000 wonderstruck 1928512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! In the middle of temper tantrum days I definitely have moments where I think, "OMG I just want to have an adult conversation for five minutes!" I'm going back to school in January for a career change and I'm very excited about it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928476 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 09:02:24 +0000 MamaBehr 1928476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Something that has really helped me, is finding a part time job. I was a teacher, so I just started tutoring. I tutor on Saturdays and it works out nicely. I get a little break, make a little (and I mean LITTLE) money, and DH gets one on one time with the kiddos. This helps me on those super tough days, that and wine. Wine helps. Of course wine brings more children (at least in my life!), so the cycle continues... ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928462 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 08:55:12 +0000 luckypenny 1928462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All. The. Time. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928460 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 08:54:41 +0000 illumina 1928460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: Glad you're happy with your decision :)</p> <p>@Mamaof2: :crying: haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-do-you-ever#post-1928405 Tue, 04 Nov 2014 08:26:59 +0000 Mamaof2 1928405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@illumina: Not a SAHM but your post made me laugh - that is exactly why I work! :silly: </p>