https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 17 Oct 2026 19:04:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1051258 Thu, 29 Aug 2013 07:50:03 +0000 looch 1051258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to get a nanny/sitter once a week. She came for 4 hours, usually during the morning and would give my son breakfast and put him down for his morning nap.</p> <p>He would also get a half hour decompression time when he came home, to get changed, wind down from the drive, then he would take over the bath duties at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1051242 Thu, 29 Aug 2013 07:43:42 +0000 heffalump 1051242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every other weekend I get a massage. It's only an hour, but it's awesome. Every wed. night I go to water zumba. We all go out to dinner in separate cars and I drive off to water zumba while DH takes LO, spends time with her, and puts her to bed. We also get a date night every Thursday because it's grandparents night and my parents take LO out. Yay for date night tonight!</p> <p>DH can tell if I need a break and will offer to let me just leave the house when he comes home from work. I usually don't take him up on it.... but I do think it's nice that he offers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050602 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 20:08:04 +0000 pinkcupcake 1050602@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't get out of the house (alone) much unfortunately. I don't necessarily want to leave the house but I was starting to feel really overwhelmed about being with LO all the time so about a month ago, DH took over bath and bedtime. It made things so much better! It's not like i go anywhere (I'm too exhausted to leave the house in the evening), but I can clean up after dinner, go for a short walk, just surf the web mindlessly, etc. It's been great just getting that hour break for ME :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050510 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 19:21:26 +0000 betsyboop 1050510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH does bedtime when he's home, and that helps, but the real sanity saver for me is that we recently agreed that Saturday mornings would be my time to be alone and do whatever I want. Some days I just sit around, and some days I run errands but knowing I don't have baby responsibilities is really nice and is something I look forward to each week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050494 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 19:09:43 +0000 heartonastring 1050494@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH does bath time and bed time. It saves my sanity on a daily basis! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050485 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 19:03:30 +0000 immabeetoo 1050485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: oh duh yes bath time for sure! We started doing it as a family but then when I was feeling weepy I curled up and read instead.. And never looked back! I know DH likes having his special one on one time with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050373 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:56:41 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1050373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for the suggestions ladies. I'm going to try to convince him to take over bath time. I planned for him to do it when lo gets older so he may as well now if he'll go for it. </p> <p>I'll let you know how the talk goes. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050349 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:36:18 +0000 Silva 1050349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband is in his med residency, so free time is limited. So far the only breaks I have had are for running errands or going for a run. But basically I just let him know there is something I want to do, will he be around. If he wants to do something alone he generally assumes I'm available, so I try to do the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050303 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:11:46 +0000 sunny 1050303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I need some alone time, it happens either after LO has gone to bed for the night or on the weekends :-(</p> <p>Fortunately, DH comes home at a decent hour most nights (around 6:30) so I do get help when I'm trying to make dinner and if I want to do an occasional Mom's night out with friends for dinner, he can accommodate me with a little bit of advance notice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050290 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 17:04:55 +0000 luckypenny 1050290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH does bath &amp; bed time so I can put my feet up for a bit. I also joined a specific gym just because they have child care, even though its the most expensive one in our area. My sanity is worth it for the 1-2 hours I get by myself a few times a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050281 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:55:28 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1050281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to schedule in time for myself or I just don't do it. How awful is that?</p> <p>Every other Saturday ill run errands alone. Even if its window shopping, at least I get a few hours out of the house. I do it first thing in the morning.</p> <p>My most favorite relaxing thing is to get my hair done. I go every 8-12 weeks for a cut/color &amp; schedule it in the evenings.</p> <p>DH is in charge of bath time, so I use that time to relax. Chloe loves playing in the tub, so bath time is a good 30 minutes. I read, watch TV, or veg on the couch. Sometimes ill go for a walk. It's a great, quick pick me up in the evening.</p> <p>What time does your LO go to bed? Does he STTN? Now that Chloe sleeps through the night &amp; goes to bed at 8pm, I find myself doing a lot more reading or watching movies on the iPad in bed. I didn't do this until very recently, though (last two months, maybe). I'm a workaholic &amp; realized its ok to be selfish and want some time to myself, so I'm allowing myself to have it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050270 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:51:42 +0000 runsyellowlites 1050270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty lucky in that DH's days off are usually split between weekdays &amp; weekends so he'll just stay home while I run a couple errands or even go visit my mom (next street over). Otherwise our church had their ladies lunch every week where childcare is provided &amp; there are other mommy groups/day out programs here that I could utilize.... I usually just take advantage of DH's days off though bc I don't like mommy groups all that much. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050262 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:49:52 +0000 LindsayInNY 1050262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to suggest something similar to @Mrs. Train: - a mom's group or a gym/fitness class that has a gym? That might help during the day when DH isn't there to take over.</p> <p>I don't know how this would work but what if you found a friend to babysit-share with? Like a nanny share kinda where you each agree to watch the others LO for an hour or two each week? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050253 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:45:15 +0000 Mrs. Train 1050253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I joined a moms group that meets every other Tuesday. It has child care so it's a time for us moms to get together without our kids. This was hands down the BEST thing I did as a SAHM. Other than that I don't get much time. :( we also try to sneak in some date nights here and there. (Going to the movies tonight) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050252 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:44:55 +0000 aprk 1050252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just say I'm going to do this, here's a bottle of milk, I'll be back in an hour or two. Good luck!</p> <p>Well, ok, I usually say "I want to do this, can you watch the baby?" but he's not the type to say no to something like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050238 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:39:21 +0000 immabeetoo 1050238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Polish: we usually make sure there's a chunk of time rah weekend that I go out alone and he stays home or goes out with LO. He reminds me if I try to blow it off or stay home :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-help-me-here#post-1050228 Wed, 28 Aug 2013 16:33:15 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1050228@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh and I are supposed to have a discussion tonight about how to give me some time out of the house. I "WAH" babysitting during the day so I don't really have a chance then, and after lo goes to bed I'm exhausted.</p> <p>When do you get out of the house? How do you work it out with SO? </p>