https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 22:52:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-492923 Wed, 09 Jan 2013 23:50:22 +0000 pinkcupcake 492923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works a lot &amp; also has classes, so I end up doing most of housework. There are a few things that he does, like take out the trash, clean the garage, and wash the dog, but I'll take care of the laundry, dishes, kitchen, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-489836 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:40:38 +0000 eeh 489836@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband washes the dishes as part of an agreement from when we bought the house and I had to give up my dishwasher. He also takes out the trash and handles all maintenance and repair issues, filling cars up with gas and maintaining them, and everything dealing with the outside of the house.</p> <p>When he is home I also expect him to at least go halves with me on diaper duty which he is great about. He has literally never once complained about changing her diaper in 5 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-489824 Tue, 08 Jan 2013 20:36:50 +0000 pastemoo 489824@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: I am sorry you are stuck as a SAHM. :( It's rough because military men don't seem to understand that even if you aren't working every second, you are working all 24 hours of the day and you are on call. It is tough to take care of everything! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485243 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 07:28:56 +0000 BelugaBean 485243@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our LO has been very challenging in terms of needing our attention a lot which I do admit is partially our fault. We're working on nap and sleep training so she doesn't need to be with me for those. </p> <p>Up until this past week though when we started that, DH did probably 75-80% of the chores around the house (if not more) and I felt awful about it. He said he didn't mind and he understood but I still felt bad. Even when I can do a lot of the work though, he still does some of it. He still enjoys helping make dinner (or making the whole thing) and he still helps clean up when he can (or when he gets the urge which happens sometimes). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485242 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 07:28:12 +0000 heffalump 485242@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Dh still does a lot of chores. It's just not that easy for me to get things done with a baby here, and he gets that. He's had to watch her and do one task, like laundry, and even that was hard for him, so he knows that running the whole house is tough. </p> <p>I do laundry and cooking and picking up around the house, but he takes out the trash and recycling. And if I need help with laundry or its still going when he gets home or it needs to be folded, hell help or well sit there together and fold it. </p> <p>I have a strong belief, and dh does too, that just because we don't get paid being sahms doesn't mean were not working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485159 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 04:18:15 +0000 hilsy85 485159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do most of the chores, which I feel is fair for us, since he works all day outside the home. He always helps out if I ask, and I teasingly nag him about simple things, like putting his dishes in the sink / dishwasher (very challenging for some reason!) and leaving his clothes all over the apt. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485122 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 02:41:08 +0000 X0X0X0 485122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM but my main chore is to take care of DD 24hrs a day. DH does 99% of chores. DD has a strong preference for me and cries when i leave her site (aka separation anxiety that has been going strong for few months now), so it's hard to do too many chores. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485102 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 01:19:47 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 485102@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do 100% of it but i cant get much done with LO so DH takes care of our son when he gets home from work so I can tend to the house. But, he pays for a cleaning lady to come in once a week and clean the entire house, so it's not like I ever do a bathroom or anything. I do cook and clean and take care of DS all day though. I also do the grocery shopping, although he picks things up on his way home from work if I ask. Were happy with it!</p> <p>But I think putting dishes in sink, clothing in hamper and all that is just something he ha to do as an adult. I don't consider them chores; I consider them everyday tasks that should come naturally! DH constantly has to be reminded to do it and I'm like, "haven't you done these things since you were like 8?" My mom never had to put our dishes in the sink; we knew to do that out of courtesy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485077 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 00:52:46 +0000 Running Elley 485077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do most of it, at least inside. What I find the biggest help sometimes though is when he tends to DS once he's home from work so I can actually get things done. I don't mind doing most of it but it's really hard to do all of it during the day while I'm the only caregiver for DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485072 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 00:47:57 +0000 Mrs. Train 485072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband does the trash 100% of the time and the dishes about 75% of the time. Everything else is me but when I ask he will do things without complaining too much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-485067 Mon, 07 Jan 2013 00:45:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 485067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's pretty evenly split sometimes I feel bad about it because I'm the one home, but DH says he doesn't mind and I think secretly he feels a little bad I'm a SAHM because I don't have a choice, so he says he wants to make my life easy. </p> <p>He take out the trash, does the dishes on his days off, picks up the living room after DS goes to bed and he does his own laundry.<br /> Occasionally he'll clear the table and clean the whole kitchen too. He'll make dinner if I ask him to.</p> <p>But I do the floors, bathroom, my laundry as well as Cobi's and bedding/towels, dining room, clutter/organization, deep cleaning and also paying bills and running errands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-484928 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:58:23 +0000 MamaMoose 484928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the moment I'm on maternity leave so basically a SAHM. I do feel like I should do the majority of house work (laundry, cooking dinner, keeping the place tidy). But I'm not husband's slave. I expect him to take care of the things that he directly makes dirty. I'll wash his underwear but it's not my job to put it in the hamper. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-484916 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:47:57 +0000 luckypenny 484916@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do laundry, cleaning, and either dishes or cooking. DH puts DD to bed while I tidy up. He always leaves his shoes out and never puts dirty towels in laundry but he does okay. I'd say its 80/20 but that's fair because he works really hard </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-484911 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:45:48 +0000 Bao 484911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works a lot, 2 jobs in fact and I feel like I need to do most of the work, so I do. I will ask though I'd he can help with certain things or give LO a bath. He usually doesn't mind because he knows I've been busy all day too, being a SAHM isn't easy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-484908 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:45:27 +0000 pastemoo 484908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: DH is military (so so soon to being former military!) and he does 0% of the chores and I do 100%. When I was working, too, I did 60 or 75% ish.<br /> When I go back to work he will be in charge of:<br /> laundry (maybe... we'll see!)<br /> trash (definitely, with no negotiations)<br /> general tidying of the room with the TV (where he tends to pile up crap)<br /> 2-3 dinners per week<br /> cleaning the shower</p> <p>I will do the rest (mop/diaper laundry/vacuum/dishes/the other days of cooking/dust/clean glass surfaces/tidy kid stuff). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-how-do-your-and-your-so-divide-chores#post-484902 Sun, 06 Jan 2013 22:41:54 +0000 loveisstrange 484902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DH is in the military. He works a demanding job and works long hours. I don't really ask him to do much, but when I do he always acts like he doesn't have to because it's "my job". Literally, all I asked him to do was put his dishes in the sink, his trash in the can and his clothes in the hamper/laundry room.... and he acts like that's too much to ask. </p> <p>I never wanted to be a SAHM. My personality is really not cut out for it but, in our current situation, it's best that I stay home. I find taking care of the baby AND the house to be a disproportionate amount of the workload for me. </p> <p>How did you and your SO learn to balance the workload at home? What chores/jobs does he/she do around the house? </p>