https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:59:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65689 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:20:44 +0000 yoursilverlining 65689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a SAHM, but I think it would depend on why a LO hated preschool. If they hated it and cry because they are just used to being home 24/7 with the undivided attention and affection of a parent and are anxious about being in a new environment with a teacher and other kids – then, no. That wouldn’t be helpful in the longterm to a child to pull them out of different, positive social environments just because its outside their comfort level at first.</p> <p>If they are really not ready, that might be different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65675 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:04:18 +0000 tequiero21 65675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i'll have to admit, my first instinct when i read your title was to say, just because they hate it, doesn't mean they can quit it! lol. i don't want to raise a quitter. but, reading your description, if the kid is not ready because they're too young, i think that's a different story. like in your mom's instance, i totally see her point of view and the fact that you were okay by age 3, shows you really weren't ready then.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65670 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 12:00:10 +0000 daniellemybelle 65670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes kids aren't ready but sometimes, like in @chopsuey119's experience, it's because something is going on. My mom was a SAHM, and sent my brother to preschool when he was 3. He didn't like it but didn't say anything. One day my mom went to pick him up early unannounced, and he was sitting in his cubby by himself while the other kids played. My mom asked the teachers what was up and they said, "Oh, he just likes to go sit by himself sometimes." Except that wasn't his personality AT ALL, and of course they had never shared that he did this with her before. My mom pulled him out then and there, and on the way home she said, "Why didn't you tell me you didn't like it?" and my poor little brother said, "I thought you wanted me to go there." :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65571 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 10:19:48 +0000 heffalump 65571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crumbs: I'm more interested in having extra time to nap, go to the grocery store, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65536 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 09:39:43 +0000 chopsuey 65536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If my LO absolutely hated it, I'd take her out and home school her. I hated preschool mostly because there was this boy that would harass me. (he would grab my private parts whenever I walked past him in the school bus) I was only 3-4 years old!! Makes me angry thinking back on it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65489 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 06:29:46 +0000 SugarplumsMom 65489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd try to encourage it but if my LO hates it then I'll probably try later. Before I was pregnant, I thought I'd want to have baby home with me at all times, but now that I am, I think I'd want some time to myself to pursue other things as well (like studying Swedish or taking a pottery class, etc). </p> <p>LO isn't here yet and I'm sure my opinion will change when s/he arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65478 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:08:47 +0000 looch 65478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think this is necessarily something that only SAHMs would deal with, but I probably wouldn't start a formal preschool until age 3. As with any new experience, it's about an adjustment period. We have a sitter that comes once a week and as soon as my son sees her, he cries. As soon as I leave, he's over it and is fully occupied with playing with the sitter (I know because I've watched them on our nanny cam). Now, some kids aren't developmentally ready to go to preschool and in that case, if it were something like my son couldn't participate in the activities and was getting frustrated and spending his time alone, then I'd reconsider. Otherwise, school is fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65337 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:55:35 +0000 Andrea 65337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: thanks for your perspective! very insightful! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65332 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:51:48 +0000 eeh 65332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think for me it depends on what they don't like about it. If my kid doesn't like going because he/she has to share toys and play nicely with others then I probably wouldn't pull them out because they obviously need to learn that lesson. If they hate it because it's just too much then after about a month and several conversations with the teacher I would probably look for a more scaled back approach to ease our way into things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65311 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:24:51 +0000 owlmom 65311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with you - if we try for several weeks and LO just isn't ready, we'll wait and try again a little later. Children don't all develop at the same rate, and I don't want to force LO to grow up faster than she is ready. But at some point before kindergarten she will be in preschool, even if she doesn't love it because I believe there are a lot of benefits to it. It will be a different story if I go back to work though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65310 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:24:36 +0000 lilteacherbee 65310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll give a little perspective as a preschool teacher. I've taught 2.5 - 4 year olds. Many times, the younger children were upset, but as soon as their parents left, they'd get over it pretty quickly. However, I've had a few kids who emotionally were not ready, but this was more in a daycare setting so the parents didn't really have a choice. It helps to slowly introduce the child into preschool (letting them visit, go 1 day a week, then 2, etc.). I'd say if your child consistently cries and hates school for more than 3 straight weeks, they probably aren't ready yet.</p> <p>Now, I'm teaching state-funded pre-k and all my kids are 4/5 years old. I have one little boy who cries every single morning, but his issue is because his mom just had a baby and he doesn't understand why he can't stay home with her too. In a few short months, he is going to have to go to kindergarten, so we've been trying to explain to him that school is fun and "big kid school" will be even better.</p> <p>I'm not yet a mom myself, so who knows how I'll feel once its my own child, but I thought I'd give some teacher thoughts :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65309 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:19:51 +0000 Boogs 65309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do the same thing as your mom. Since that's such a young age, there's still plenty of time to get them used to going to school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/sahms-would-you-keep-lo-in-preschool-if-they-hated-it#post-65306 Wed, 01 Feb 2012 20:15:52 +0000 heffalump 65306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom put me in preschool at age 2 for two days a week . I hated it and cried the whole time, so she took me out and I went back when I was 3 with no problems. Day care wasn't an issue because she stayed home, and she said I just wasn't ready.</p> <p>Before I probably would have thought lo should just try to get used to it if she ends up hating it,but now I agree with my mom. Some kids just might not be ready at 2 and it's ok to wait.</p> <p>What would you do if lo hated preschool? </p>