https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 10:12:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not/page/2#post-2589409 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 22:16:15 +0000 Foodnerd81 2589409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: I haven't commented because I usually just stay out of but that's a great response. </p> <p>Also any time I post a picture that could be construed as something unsafe I always write a disclaimer so no one has to deal with this inner struggle. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not/page/2#post-2589403 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 21:45:46 +0000 MrsB2012 2589403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: that's really awesome that you said something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2589182 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 14:40:54 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2589182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: I private messaged her, she responded pretty quickly saying that it was a one time thing in her SIL's car and that she normally rear faces in her cars. She also thanked me for caring enough to say something to her.<br /> I was not expecting that response at all. Thanks for all the input! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2589158 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 14:13:09 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2589158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone. I am going to PM her and if she's mad, too bad I guess. I would hate for her daughter to end up seriously hurt or worse and I could have said something to prevent it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2589157 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 14:12:33 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2589157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oskarsmommy: This is really what was on my mind. I see stories all the time about kids tragically dying when it could have been prevented. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588806 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 07:40:54 +0000 LulaBee 2588806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say something. The kid's safety is more important than the mom's feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588759 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 03:30:12 +0000 Kemma 2588759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: could you do the whole passive agressive thing and leave a comment such as "love your car seat, doesn't it have such great rearfacing limits?"</p> <p>And for what it's worth, car seat safety isn't about parental choice, forward facing an eleven month old is just plain dangerous because physics just doesn't discriminate!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588664 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 20:07:18 +0000 hocuspocus 2588664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister had my niece FF at 10 mos! I said something. It didn't go over well. She said I was being really judgemental and the seat wouldnt fit in her car RF. It still really bugs me but I pick my battles with her now. I'm not the only one who has said something to her about it either. She still has her FF 🙄 (She's 18 mos now) and it's illegal and she knows it. I secretly hope she gets a ticket one of these days so she'll fix it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588637 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 18:35:49 +0000 Smurfette 2588637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: scary! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588628 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 18:22:58 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2588628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: I don't get how people don't know.<br /> I was just working on our car seat timeline and L still needs two more car seat iterations (FF harness and then booster) before she's out of a car seat. She's only two years younger than my great nephew. It's crazy to me that they drive ten hours with him just free range in the back seat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588609 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 17:23:18 +0000 Smurfette 2588609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: we just spend a week with DHs nephews, 6 and 9, and neither were in a booster. They are big but still should be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588608 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 17:22:29 +0000 oskarsmommy 2588608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would totally send her a pm, and I would love if someone would have don't the same for me! I did the same thing when my son was 11 months old - I didn't post anything on FB, then later I read something where a woman's son died in a car accident, and she had wished someone told her that her son's seat needed to be rear facing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588596 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 16:38:32 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2588596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Such a tough situation.<br /> One of DH's family members recently posted photos of her kids (5.5 &amp; 8) on a road trip. Neither of them were in car seats of any kind.<br /> Kinda freaked me out and I told DH to bring it up but he didn't want to and I'm not close to her at all.<br /> I still feel weird about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588592 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 16:26:15 +0000 Pollywog 2588592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my LO is huge and will outgrow his infant seat by 8 months and I planned to put him forward facing based on his projected weight. I honestly had no idea until a month ago that they had to rear face until 2. I'm so happy a friend said something. I'd probably send a PM </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588580 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 16:05:02 +0000 mauxie 2588580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>^ I like how @merriment worded it. I'd do something like that or maybe not say anything at all. TBH I know a couple parents that very much were aware of the law but chose to flip to FF'ing btwn 10-12 months. I also have a mom friend who once asked if I ever held/babywore my baby in the backseat instead of putting them in their car seats (to keep them from waking up during transfer)..!! She confessed she did it a couple times... YIKES. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588578 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:58:56 +0000 merriment 2588578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably say something via private message. BUT, I would totally couch it as an "OMG I didn't realize safety regulations had changed and I just wanted to share this new thing I heard! We're probably going to flip our car seats back to RF tonight" or something so it doesn't come off as judgy.<br /> Or maybe something like "I don't want to be sanctimionous and I know these things can be really fraught and judgy, but I saw your picture and wanted to make sure you knew that safety regulations have changed over the past few years. I hesitated to write as I didn't want to offend, and I hope you don't take this the wrong way as it is only meant with the best of intentions"<br /> I mean, if it were my kid and I was doing something dangerous, I would hope someone would tell me. I might be hurt or embarrassed, but in the end, I hope I would be grateful to someone for stepping out of their comfort zone to offer advice about something this important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588565 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:40:02 +0000 tlcbaby 2588565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say something directly. If I had a really close friend I might very apologetically say that I didn't know the law had changed and wanted to pass it along (in a private conversation). Unless I was really close with someone, I don't think I'd mention it. I didn't know the laws were so different from state to state! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588495 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:50:41 +0000 Mrsbells 2588495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cereal: Dont say anything. Sadly people usually do not take well to that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588477 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:33:29 +0000 psw27 2588477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I saw them being grossly negligent in person, then I might say something, but based on social media, no I wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588471 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:29:50 +0000 MamaG 2588471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As someone that turned their older daughter at 1 (my second is still RF at 20 months) and someone that moved their older to a backless booster "early" at 4y9m and definitely was FB judged for it. I vote don't say anything. It's not likely to change her behavior. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588466 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:25:32 +0000 snowjewelz 2588466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: that's awesome that your OB mentions it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588464 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:21:58 +0000 josina 2588464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Yep, what really bugged me was that she didn't even have the straps tight but I couldn't nit-pick on everything.<br /> My OB office mentions at every appointment that DS should be rear facing till 2, so it surprises me that people don't know this, but I guess that's not common practice everywhere. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588462 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:18:32 +0000 Miss Ariel 2588462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I noticed a friend posted a similar photo on Facebook. I thought about saying something, but looking through the comments one of her closer friends already did. The mom's response was that they were on vacation and the car seat wasn't their normal one, but back at home they still do rear face, so maybe there is some type of reasoning behind it? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588435 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 12:39:17 +0000 snowjewelz 2588435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: AND she chose to not fix it still?! </p> <p>@Mrs. Cereal: Ugh, sry you are stuck in a bad situation! I am torn too; if she'd end up being so grateful that you told her and she just did it b/c she had no idea, then it's worth it; but if she gets all defensive or just flat out don't care then it kinda sucks, even if you don't care of she unfriends you (on FB and real life). If you say something I'd totally go the route of wanting to make sure they don't get a ticket! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588424 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 12:27:11 +0000 JerricaBenton 2588424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: these are my thoughts exactly. </p> <p>People take risks knowingly and unknowingly all the time. Unless it came up in conversation with a close friend I would never say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588415 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 12:19:01 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2588415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would say something because it is a legal issue. It's astonishing how many people don't know the law - I had to look it up when we had a kid 'cuz I honestly had no idea. I think coming from a place of legal concern is OK - "hey, I saw your pic of LO and wasn't sure if you knew but the law in our state is that they have to be rear facing until 12 months/x lbs/whatever. I'd hate for you to get a ticket!" If it was after 12 months, yeah, I wouldn't say anything unless it was illegal. Everyone has different reasons for FF, so if they aren't breaking a law, let their reasons be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588394 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 11:49:17 +0000 autumnlove 2588394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't say anything. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588353 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 11:01:10 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2588353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: This was also on my mind. I think this is what I am leaning towards doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588348 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:58:01 +0000 jedeve 2588348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just share an info graphic with car seat info on your own page and hope she sees it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/say-something-or-not#post-2588346 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 10:55:43 +0000 josina 2588346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this same issue come up with a close friend who had her 9 month old forward-facing. I texted her to let her know it was illegal till age 1 and she said she wasn't aware of that (though never fixed it either). But at least since I told her it wouldn't be on my conscious if something did happen and I hadn't said anything. </p>