https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 15:05:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2516837 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 08:45:32 +0000 Caly 2516837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Paddington10: Great news! Very happy to hear :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2516725 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 07:07:20 +0000 catomd00 2516725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great news! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2516719 Wed, 06 Apr 2016 06:59:59 +0000 Paddington10 2516719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to thank everyone for their feedback and report that my husband is not a carrier, so we're in the clear! I wouldn't wish a week of this waiting on anybody though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509256 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 09:51:05 +0000 Caly 2509256@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husbands family has experience with fanconi anemia. Our niece passed away at 6 from the disease and neither family is Jewish. It's was also the only case in either side of the family that we're aware of. Like @thepicklemonster said, both parents have to be carriers and then there is a 1/4 chance of passing it along. It's extremely rare, so, please try not to freak out! I see your husband is getting tested. Hopefully, it will put your mind at ease so you can stop worrying! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509165 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 08:49:10 +0000 danda 2509165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good luck and I'm sure you'll be fine. I'm a Tay-Sachs carrier which is scary, but my husband is not so we don't have a risk of our children having the disease. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509109 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 08:07:44 +0000 Paddington10 2509109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, everyone. After talking to a geneticist friend and an NP friend who works at an OB office, I feel better knowing how incredibly rare it is. Just the same, my husband is getting tested immediately and I'll be on edge til we get the results. Being over 35, I'm getting a lot more tests than I did with my son which in many ways makes things much more anxious. In some ways I'd rather not know! Anyway thank you all and Im happy to hear about others' experiences!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509063 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 07:21:52 +0000 LindsayInNY 2509063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had genetic testing done when going through IF treatment and came back a carrier for Tay Sachs. I'm not Jewish either. My husband got yesterday after just for reassurance. If you're worried, I'd look into having your husband tested too. But, as you can see above, it's not super uncommon to be a carrier of something. That's why they said its opening a can of worms. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509058 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 07:17:17 +0000 catomd00 2509058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think there's any reason to freak out quite yet. Have DH tested for peace of mind and maybe even DS. That's all you can do at this point. The likelihood is DH isn't a carrier and DS is perfectly healthy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509046 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 07:01:39 +0000 PurplePumps 2509046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just get him tested too. More than likely he wont be a carrier since it seems so rare. I came back as a carrier for 3 genetic diseases... which was totally unexpected cause there is zero family history of any genetic disease as far as I knew. We got DH tested too and he wasn't a carried for anything, so nothing to worry about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509027 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 06:19:30 +0000 hilsy85 2509027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a carrier for a bunch of random stuff, including tay sachs. Some of the things I found out about before I was pregnant, but some stuff I only found out after I was pregnant, and like you, I was freaking out until my DH got tested. Luckily he is a carrier for none of that stuff. The odds of your DH being a carrier as well, especially considering he's not Jewish, are so so so tiny--so I am sure that all will be well! But it is scary for sure. I believe his tests took about 6 days to come back . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2509021 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 06:03:34 +0000 Alba4 2509021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with the others. Have your husband get tested, at the very least for peace of mind. I am a carrier of Cystic Fibrosis and was nervous during my first pregnancy, until we found out that my husband was not. I look at these screenings as a way of being prepared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508985 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 00:07:12 +0000 sarac 2508985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went to school with the Frohnmayer family - they had several children with Faniconi anemia, and they founded the support and research foundation for people afflicted by it. It is a terrible disease, certainly - but it is very, very rare. The chance that your husband is also a carrier is very low, so try to relax a bit. In all likelihood you are fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508971 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 23:18:14 +0000 thepicklemonster 2508971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Get your husband tested for peace of mind. It is so incredibly unlikely that he is also a carrier, especially if he is not Ashkenazi Jewish. Even if he were a carrier (which again is sooo unlikely),this is a recessive disease which means if both parents are carriers, any child has only a 1/4 change of getting it. DH and I are both of Ashkenazi Jewish descent and I just found out I'm a carrier for FIVE things including cystic fibrosis and a type of hemophilia (which are common among our ethnicity). I was really scared but DH got tested and he is not a carrier for any of the same things as me, phew.</p> <p>Don't freak out. that disease sounds insanely rare. Just get your DH tested and talk to a genetic counselor, they will make you feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508948 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 22:23:42 +0000 jhd 2508948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not the same at all but LO had some genetic testing done shortly after birth and the geneticist was seriously the absolute best doctor I have ever met. She explained everything so well and was just so kind. I hope you meet someone equally wonderful who can give you all the information you need. I would definitely do what you can for peace of mind. :goodluck: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508945 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 22:22:11 +0000 MaisyMay 2508945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a cystic fibrosis carrier, and this came up during our second pregnancy (miscarried first pregnancy). It led to a very uncomfortable and scary week waiting to find oUT if DH was a carrier too. Please talk to a geneticist. They will help make sense of it all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508940 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 22:16:55 +0000 ElbieKay 2508940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am Jewish, my husband is not. When I was pregnant with my son, I got the panel of tests and was positive as a carrier for Gaucher syndrome. So, my husband got tested and luckily he was not a carrier. We waited for his test results during the same week that we waited for the Harmony results. I was really worried even though the odds of there being an issue were very low.</p> <p>I suggest that you get your husband tested because the odds are very low that it will be an issue, and most likely the test will ultimately give you peace of mind. And anyway, knowledge is power.</p> <p>I'm sorry you had a positive result for your test. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508935 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 22:07:39 +0000 LovelyPlum 2508935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, how scary!! </p> <p>If you have the option, I would talk to a geneticist. They are super awesome at helping to interpret those tests and determine the appropriate level of freak-out factor. Can you get your son tested, too, just for peace of mind? </p> <p>I hope that in the end, it's nothing more than an interesting fact that has no real effect on any of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508576 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 16:20:38 +0000 Mrs.Someone 2508576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I are both completely Jewish, so we had genetic testing done too. He came up with a few things, but we had no matches. </p> <p>With that said, 30 babies a year means you have a super super tiny chance of having it affect you. Have your husband tested for peace of mind! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/scared-to-death-finding-out-youre-a-carrier-for-something#post-2508563 Mon, 28 Mar 2016 16:08:03 +0000 Paddington10 2508563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the Jewish panel done because I am half Jewish. I didn't even bother with my son -- it wasn't covered with insurance and because my husband isn't Jewish, they said it wasn't worth it. This time it was covered, so I said why not. The nurse just called to say I'm a carrier for Fanconi anemia, a very rare and horrible disease found mainly among Ashkenazi Jews and South Africans that involves the bone marrow. It affects about 30 babies per year in the USA.</p> <p>I AM FREAKING. OUT. Now: My husband is not Jewish. They suggested he come in for testing to "rule it out" and said I could also talk to a geneticist if I wanted. The nurse was very nice and said that this testing always opens a can of worms, et cetera, and not to worry. But of course I am worried. And the test takes a week to come back. What do I do?? Has anyone had experience with this? Also, the disease sometimes is not apparent until a kid is six or more, and so I am freaking out about my five year old too.</p> <p>:-( </p>