https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 21:48:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-79044 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:19:01 +0000 LuLu Mom 79044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cupcakemama: No I compeltey agree, that's exactly why I'm bitter toward it. My cousin's wife had a very expensive crib on her registry for her second child &amp; when several of us went in and purchased it, she was snotty aboutthe fact that it was bought by several people not just one. She was not a gracious momma at all! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-79037 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 11:09:51 +0000 winniebee 79037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My reaction is that it's great to have one if there's a lot of time between kids or if it's the father's first baby. Showers for #2 just aren't otherwise done in my area or in my family/friend circles. That said, I always get a little something for someone having #2 (or #3...#4...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78924 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 03:14:13 +0000 SugarplumsMom 78924@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted for it's always okay. That's how we do it back home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78923 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:45:23 +0000 hotpink 78923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I don't know the etiquette on this one. But I have been to two showers for second time Moms-to-be. Mom #1 had recently moved to town so our friends wanted to show her a shower for the second baby. And Mom #2 was a newer friend having her second baby and her friends were throwing a shower. So in both instances I had not been to their first baby showers.<br /> Both showers were complete with food and drinks and games, plus good friends! It had been made clear that presents were not expected as much as hanging out and celebrating. Each times I got a cute stuffed animal for the new baby as the families seemed to have most of what they needed already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78920 Tue, 21 Feb 2012 02:29:24 +0000 looch 78920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with cupcakemama on this one. I never expected anyone to buy us any big ticket items, it's my kid, why should they buy me a car seat? If someone wants to give a gift, that's great, but to specifically have a party where you're asking for big ticket stuff, not for me.</p> <p>Having said that, I graciously accept invitations for showers and bring a nice gift. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78833 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 22:21:02 +0000 cupcakemama 78833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm the grinch that said never! I say never in respect of a big deal, complete with present, shower. I don't think it is appropriate and just comes across as a gift grab, especially when people expect guests to stump up for big ticket items. Actually I don't get that either. I decide to have a baby, I pay for it. </p> <p>I think a celebration for a new baby is lovely, just not the expectation that others will fund the arrival. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78818 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 21:51:41 +0000 tequiero21 78818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i didn't vote because i agree with #2 and #3. i think it's "etiquette" only to have 1. but i also say if someone's willing to throw it for you, why the heck not? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78606 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 15:42:36 +0000 heffalump 78606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: I think it's fine to have wedding and baby shower close together. People should be happy... they're done buying you gifts after those two events for a while! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78603 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 15:40:56 +0000 DillonLion 78603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Its too bad that we would actually desperately need baby things a lot more than we needed housewares... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78598 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 15:29:35 +0000 heffalump 78598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@highwire: We did that too. And bought a house. We decided against a housewarming party because 1. There's no time with a baby and 2. I don't want to seem like I'm fishing for even more gifts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78587 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 14:55:04 +0000 DillonLion 78587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just went to a shower for an expectant mom, with an young son, and expecting another son. It didn't even cross my mind that it was against any etiquette rules. It is a celebratory time, why not celebrate?</p> <p>There was also a registry, if anyone's wondering.</p> <p>ETA: It has crossed my mind, however, that we've started trying pretty quickly after we got married, and I feel kind of weird thinking about having the wedding shower and baby shower so close to one another. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78574 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 14:24:34 +0000 Crisark 78574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a second one and it was thrown by my family even though it was a different father than my first.<br /> I'm not sure if anyone would decide to throw one for us if/when we have our third.<br /> I'm not going to be upset either way.<br /> I think it's always ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78546 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:37:19 +0000 Lozza 78546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much every baby shower I've been to has been pretty low-key and small-ish, so it doesn't really seem weird to me to have a get-together celebrating each baby. Especially if you've moved, or changed schools/jobs, or somehow otherwise gained a new social circle that would want to celebrate the baby with you. We have plenty of friends who had child #1 before they moved to our city, and I know they have plenty of friends around here who'd love to celebrate child #2 with them, and wouldn't be thinking "oh, I got them a big gift LAST time" since we didn't know them for child #1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78537 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:28:10 +0000 sulli301 78537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends. If we have another baby soon I won't expect one or make a registry but I'd love it if someone put together a small gathering. I think even if it's the same gender, close together each baby deserves a few new things but sometimes people will just gift you without there being a shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78532 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:17:04 +0000 Adira 78532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: Yeah, I'm curious if that means if I have two kids if I can have two showers and the mom will have to come to both of mine! Although I doubt my mom would let me have a second shower... she's pretty opinionated about what's appropriate or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78531 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:12:23 +0000 MsMamaBear 78531@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: I was invited to one, 1st baby isn't 2 and they are the same gender. No thanks, especially since she didn't come to mine! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78528 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:11:19 +0000 cyneswith 78528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's fine any time. Probably wouldn't include registry info after #1, though. And I'm a fan of backyard BBQ baby showers - it was the only non-awkward one I've been to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78524 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 13:05:29 +0000 katdevargas 78524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's always ok. it's a celebration of the new baby! and who doesn't love celebrations, you know? if this baby &amp; the first are close in age or are the same gender or whatever though, you can always have a "sprinkle" instead of a shower, like @chopsuey119 suggested </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78523 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 12:58:50 +0000 Adira 78523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jessiejo17: I hear you!</p> <p>The reason I brought it up is because my sister-in-law is on her second child with her new boyfriend and she's getting a baby shower. Her first child was six years ago and with a different man, so maybe that's why she's having another shower? But her family (the same family that threw the first one) is throwing this one and it's a HUGE event. Like 100+ people! I thought it was kind of greedy, but didn't know if I was just judgmental. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78515 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 12:37:38 +0000 LuLu Mom 78515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think a smaller one is okay if it's been a longer time, or if it's the father's first child and his family wants to put on a bigger shower.</p> <p>I have a hard time when people expect showers for a different gender or with each child. I know in some circumstances it is okay, but I feel it comes off greedy in a way. </p> <p>However, I'm a little bitter due to the wife of a cousin on this one, she expected our family to throw this big shower for her second child &amp; buy her gifts when she has never returned the favor for weddings/showers/ect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78509 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 12:27:55 +0000 MsMamaBear 78509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Different sex, new baby for either of them </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78506 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 12:27:04 +0000 heffalump 78506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's always ok. It's not something I would do because it's just not something we do in our culture, but to each their own. There's always something that a new mommy needs, even if you just have a diaper shower. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78499 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 12:22:55 +0000 Adira 78499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: Oh, that's a good point! I should've added the option for if it was a different gender! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78468 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 11:36:52 +0000 chopsuey 78468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely if you're having a baby of opposite sex. Also, I think baby sprinkles are always fine for #2, #3, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78449 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 11:00:32 +0000 Adira 78449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@eeh: Yep, that makes perfect sense! Maybe I should have clarified that option - if it's the Dad's first baby instead of saying "different father" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78447 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 10:59:17 +0000 eeh 78447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted for the long time since baby #1 option but then I got to thinking that if it's a different father and it's his family having the shower because it's his first I would be okay with that too, if that makes any sense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/second-baby-showers#post-78445 Mon, 20 Feb 2012 10:56:26 +0000 Adira 78445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm curious on other people's opinion on this topic! When is it okay to have a baby shower for baby #2? </p>