https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 08:22:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147695 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 14:53:21 +0000 LovelyPlum 1147695@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending hugs to you. Hoping that you can catch a break soon.</p> <p>ETA: you're not broken, and you're not a failure!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147614 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 13:16:14 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1147614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You might enjoy this blog! The woman in it was 38 when she started TTC and she required clomid, had a couple of misscarriages. She now has two beautiful daughters so it ends happily. I love how she writes. <a href="http://babyborneoorbust.blogspot.com/?m=1" rel="nofollow">http://babyborneoorbust.blogspot.com/?m=1</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147550 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 12:25:43 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1147550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you! This is something I am concerned about too. I know it's not the same but it is still painful not to see the family you dreamed of come to fruition. Perhaps try vitex I have heard it helps fertility. Xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147544 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 12:11:57 +0000 FaithFertility 1147544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: I bet, praying foryou </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147541 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 12:06:18 +0000 sarac 1147541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pancakes: @FaithFertility: Thanks guys! Yeah, it's so hard to see all of my friends having their second children. My sister and I were pregnant together the first time, and it's so hard to see her pregnant now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147468 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 10:21:21 +0000 FaithFertility 1147468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: Complain away!!! TTC for #1, #2, #3.....etc and having difficulties has got to be hard, once a women's mind makes that decision that they want to get pregnant,I really don't think it matters if you have a LO or not. </p> <p>Good Luck and hopefully you will turn that frown upside down....Ohh WOW the 1st grade teacher in me just came out...lol sorry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1147445 Sun, 13 Oct 2013 09:50:06 +0000 Pancakes 1147445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Secondary IF is tough because, well, I was able to have one child, so why can't I have a sticky pregnancy with a second? And the questions/comments about, "Oh, is she your only one?" and "Mine were two years apart, so you're a little behind the curve." get tiring. It's also hard for me to see DD's preschool friends with their younger siblings when I don't even have one on the way. Yes, I am thankful for my DD but I still wish we weren't going through this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1146830 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 15:47:10 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1146830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you're going through this! I agree, IF is tough no matter what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1146828 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 15:43:46 +0000 sarac 1146828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey, thanks @MrBee! I really want to be respectful of people who might not want to read this. I well remember the terror of wondering if it was ever going to happen to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1146700 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 12:03:43 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1146700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just wanted to let you know that those of us still trying for our first don't mind you complaining here! IF is hard anytime you have to deal with it. Have you thought about seeing a naturopath? They might have a more natural suggestion for you to try while you're still BFing. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1146659 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 10:59:35 +0000 swedishfish 1146659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarac: I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time but don't feel like secondary infertility doesn't belong in the infertility boards. It does. But I like the idea of a secondary infertility board. You should suggest it!</p> <p>My mom had secondary infertility. She had me and then my sister came along five years later. I went through IVF to conceive my first so I don't doubt that I will need help for my second.</p> <p>You're not a failure. Some of us just need a little help. Hang in there and major hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1146648 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 10:49:18 +0000 singingbee 1146648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Infertility is hard no matter what. I think it is hard because everyone is like, "well, at least you have one now!" And other stuff like that. I had a friend who dealt with secondary infertility. It was hard, but she found out she was pregnant on the month she had given up trying. Hang in there. Vent to us if you need anything. Hugs and :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/secondary-infertility-sucks#post-1146637 Sat, 12 Oct 2013 10:38:13 +0000 sarac 1146637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Firstly, I wish we had a secondary infertility board. I hate to bitch about my own infertility when I have a child. I don't really think it belongs here, so I'm sorry. I totally don't subscribe to the idea that secondary infertility is as bad as just plain old infertility. </p> <p>Anyway, we've been NTNP for the last 16 months with no dice. More on the trying side lately. I conceived my daughter after 4 rounds of clomid, but my midwives don't want me to take it again until I'm done breastfeeding. And since I'm not sure I'll get to do it again, I'm not willing to cut off my daughter before she's ready. </p> <p>Every month I find some reason to think that I'm pregnant, and then turn out not to be. This month it was waking up at 4am dizzy and throwing up. I'm sure it'll just turn out to be the same nothing it always is. You know how it goes. I just feel like such a failure of a woman for not being able to get pregnant like everyone else can. </p>