https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 04:43:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-755655 Wed, 01 May 2013 21:37:01 +0000 doodlepoodle 755655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You all made me feel so much better. I appreciate it so much. I was playing with him tonight and thought 'screw them, karma is a beeyotch'. </p> <p>@78h2o: awe a side Mohawk sounds awesome and I bet she's a gorgeous girl! Thanks for the love :)<br /> @sorrycharlie: I didn't mean to ignore your 'thread jack' (not that I see it that way!) no Internet during t,he day! I'm sorry people ask ignorant questions. I'm hoping they aren't educated on it and are just asking with good intentions, but even then we are so fierce with our love that its hard to not go on the defense immediately. I babysat a little girl with one on her cheek the size of a large gum ball and she was gorgeous! Just because she had that didn't take away from her beauty and I know you'll teach your LO to be confident in her beauty as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-754044 Wed, 01 May 2013 08:16:31 +0000 sorrycharlie 754044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love little J!! People are so sad and obnoxious. It doesn't help, and isn't nice, but when I encounter people like that I think about what could be wrong in their life to make them so terrible.</p> <p>Not to thread jack but I have a small idea of how you're feeling..O has a small hemangioma on her forehead and people are always asking me when it'll "fall off" or when I plan to have it removed. It's the size of a pencil eraser! She has a large one (bigger than a nickel) on her chest that I'm worried will cause her grief :( if people (adults!!) alreadythink it's totally fine to discuss, how bad will kids be? Ugh.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-754030 Wed, 01 May 2013 07:59:36 +0000 PrincessBaby 754030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>J is gorgeous! I cannot imagine that couple was talking about him or his ears, really...He makes me smile every time I see him- how happy he always looks makes him even cuter! I get you wanting to protect him though- and I would be the absolute same way. You are such a good mama:) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753964 Wed, 01 May 2013 07:12:55 +0000 heffalump 753964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, I think ears that stick out are soooooo cute! My niece's ears do that and it's my favorite feature about her :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753960 Wed, 01 May 2013 07:09:53 +0000 MrsTiz 753960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aawww, J's ears are the sweetest, I love seeing them (and his bedhead) on Instagram! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753945 Wed, 01 May 2013 06:54:08 +0000 MrsSCB 753945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww, I'm so sorry you had to go through that at the store, those people are such jerks! I haven't seen your little boy but I'm sure he's just gorgeous. I don't have any kids yet, but I bet I'll feel the exact same way if my kids inherit any features that I am self-conscious about in myself. It's hard not to worry that they will end up dealing with the same insecurities that we do, but it sounds like you're a great mom who loves him very much! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753911 Wed, 01 May 2013 06:04:22 +0000 Bookish 753911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I bet he is adorable :) I had terrrrrrible stuck out ears as a kid, and only recently 'grew into them.' The only advice I have is to just not focus on them. My mother tended to feed into my embarrassment with them, sometimes with comments about how we could 'fix' them, and I always fantasized about having them pinned back, to the point of an unhealthy obsession with how they looked, I think.</p> <p>I think you are being awesome and protective, but I just wanted to say that as long as you raise him to not focus on physical appearance as paramount, and give him good coping skills on how to deal with people who might bully him, you got nothing to worry about :) And like I said, I bet he's suuuper adorable :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753903 Wed, 01 May 2013 05:43:45 +0000 SugarplumsMom 753903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>WTH! They said that? I'm so pissed for you! I hope they weren't talking about your LO at all and was somehow looking at something else. I can't stand rude strangers! And BTW, your LO is super cute!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753840 Wed, 01 May 2013 00:05:08 +0000 HLK208 753840@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What???? J is SO stinking cute!!! So many boys have ears like his, simply because they can't cover them up like we do! I couldn't imagine anyone laughing at a baby, and if they do then there is something wrong with them. As he grows older, there will always be something that kids will pick on others for, whether it's weight, clothes, the way someone speaks. You are going to bless J with an amazing sense of humor and he will turn it around IF he gets made fun of. DH's ears were a lot larger and stuck out more as a baby but it took a few years for him to grow into them. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753788 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:49:36 +0000 shopaholic 753788@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww.. poor mama! J is SO ADORABLE! I know J can't understand yet, and a mama-bear has the most protective instinct of all! Those stupid kids will have their own kid issues to deal with some day, so let karma bite them in the a$$! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753776 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:43:21 +0000 78h2o 753776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: aww, I haven't seen your pics, but I'm sure he is adorable. My nephew's ears stick straight out and I think he's a total cutie pie. My Dad had ears like that as a kid and they got better as he got older - maybe your LO's will too? My LOs ears curl a little bit and she has crazy, crazy hair that does make me a little self-conscious. I overheard some ladies commenting about her hair (she has a natural side mohawk) at Target and it made me feel bad for LO. But I got over it quickly. I will make sure she knows how much she's loved and how beautiful she is inside and out. I think she'll be ok! I'm sure your son will too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753768 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:36:10 +0000 chopsuey 753768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love his ears!!!!!!<br /> Kids can be cruel, but I'm sure he'll be a confident boy/man and know how perfect he really is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753764 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:29:36 +0000 autumnlove 753764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww. He is gorgeous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753748 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:15:59 +0000 Lindsay05 753748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww poor little guy. I hope those kids get whats coming to them. If it makes you feel any better, kids will find the 'faults' (not to say his ears are a fault) in anyone. I know you will teach him that people who say those things are the ones who are actually so insecure. You have a very handsome little guy :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753741 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 22:00:31 +0000 doodlepoodle 753741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: not flippant at all :) I use humor to cope ;)</p> <p>@Ree723: fanks. I really do appreciate it. I pity the first girl to break his heart bc if this hurts this bad...oh that girl better run! </p> <p>It's been bugging me all day and I knew I could post here for support just not from my new job :( I'm so grateful for hb, even if I'm not on the site much anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753735 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:55:36 +0000 Ree723 753735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's awful and makes me get a bit teary too! It's one thing when people hurt us, as we can cope with it, but the thought of our babies having to go through any hurt is heartbreaking. You know I love J and think he is the happiest, cutest little guy. Because he is fortunate enough to have parents like you, he is going to grow up with great self-confidence and any little barbs other kids may throw his way are going to roll off his back because his mommy and daddy will have made him strong in who he is. I know it sucks but just think of how awful the lives of those college kids must be if they have to stoop to laughing about a baby to make themselves feel good. I pity them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753733 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:54:45 +0000 lovehoneybee 753733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whatever. They just wish they had awesome ears like him! </p> <p>(I hope I don't sound flippant! I would be super upset too! But he's gorgeous and so sweet and I think his ears (E has big ears too!) are endearing!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753732 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:53:45 +0000 doodlepoodle 753732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: yes! Then we'll eat carbs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753731 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:53:15 +0000 doodlepoodle 753731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Bao: :) the town I was in (my hometown) has a reputation for breeding hippies and DH said that they were just jealous of how clean he was and gawking lol...(ps I have no problem w/hippies, just a local joke haha!) </p> <p>@Mrs. Pen: mine did too, they still do honestly. I'm pretty thick skinned but its still a sore subject...maybe that's why I'm so worried for him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753730 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:52:27 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 753730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Next time you and J go grocery shopping.. Take us with you!!!!! I will gladly kick some teenage boy ass... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753728 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:50:03 +0000 Mrs. Pen 753728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: he's lucky to have a mama as sweet and understanding as you! My family dismissed my feelings saying I was just imagining it and they weren't that bad and to get over it. Totally didn't make it better at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753725 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:48:59 +0000 Bao 753725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eff them! Sorry, but that breaks my heart! You have a beautiful child. I bet they were just jealous because they couldn't stand how adorable he is! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753724 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:48:17 +0000 doodlepoodle 753724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my sweet Instagram buddies, I heart you. ;) I know he's friggin awesome and cute (not biased at all) I just hate the thought of him being in school getting the dumbo talk. </p> <p>My sweet godson (4 yo) asked me VERY matter of fact at dinner one night 'auntie ali, does baby Jacob still have big ears?' Yup. Sure does buddy. :/ he obviously meant NOTHING it's just another reminder of how bad they are. </p> <p>@Mrs. Pen: we actually met with a otoplasty specialist a couple of weeks ago and have started a savings account for that. I asked DH if he thought we could get a family discount :P</p> <p>@TurtleDoves: :) thanks love. DH keeps saying 'they'll build character' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753719 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:42:37 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 753719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sweet, sweet love, J...he is the most beautiful child God has ever created. I can't believe anyone would ever say anything bad about him. He is so, soooo precious!<br /> I think all the love he gets from you &amp; his dad will make him strong and people's words will never be able to hurt him. He is so perfect:') He will know this and he will be able to differentiate between those who love and support him and those who are just plain bullies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753714 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:39:48 +0000 tequiero21 753714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me too, brings tears to my eyes. I would totally have been upset too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753712 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:38:37 +0000 Mrs. Pen 753712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babyjmama: well mama you know I'm in the EXACT same boat. Oh if I could afford it, I would have otoplasty in a heartbeat. And unfortunately J got my ears. At least mine were easily hidden with my long thick hair... but (most) boys don't have the option so I do worry for him. His don't look quite as bad as mine but they do stick out and people comment on them all the time. Not badly, but the fact that they're quite noticeable still bugs me really badly. It is definitely a case of projecting what my feelings were onto him and I truly hope he doesn't go through the same thing.</p> <p>I'm so sorry :( I'm here and know how you feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753709 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:36:59 +0000 Running Elley 753709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw this brings tears to my eyes too!! Little J is the sweetest looking boy and I think everything about him is totally endearing! I would also be upset and hurt by something like that :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753701 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:32:40 +0000 hilsy85 753701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh this brings tears to my eyes :( I don't think you're selfish at all, I think it's totally normal to want to protect our babies from any hurt physical or emotional! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-conscious-of-physical-features#post-753691 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 21:26:37 +0000 doodlepoodle 753691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So as some of you know (mainly I keep up w/the bees I have on Instagram since I haven't had Internet between moves) J has ears that stick out really bad. Honestly I was really self conscious at first bc my ears stick out and I know what it's like to be made fun of. Over the past few months I've gotten over it though and really don't notice them and kinda came to love them because they're part of who he is and I love him! </p> <p>Anywhodiddle. I was at HyVee last night with him getting groceries and this college aged couple were staring at him and then from an aisle over I heard them say 'did you see that?!' and laugh. I don't know for a fact that they were laughing at his ears but it made me SO upset. I hurt for him bc I was made fun of and I hate that he'll have to go thru it. :( </p> <p>Is it totally selfish to feel like this?? I don't care for myself, I just don't want him to be hurt because people are jerks :( </p>