https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 20:49:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-esteem-without-special-snowflake-syndrome#post-1805781 Fri, 08 Aug 2014 11:19:20 +0000 raspberries 1805781@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was discussing this with a friend of mine who recommended a book called Raising Resilient Children (<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0809297655/" rel="nofollow">http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0809297655/</a>) - I pinned it for future reference, but haven't bought a copy so I can't say whether it's what you're looking for, but it looks like a good place to start! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-esteem-without-special-snowflake-syndrome#post-1805763 Fri, 08 Aug 2014 11:12:27 +0000 hilsy85 1805763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No idea if this is the right way to go about it, but I plan on focusing more on praising deeds rather than inherent qualities, i.e. "wow! must have worked really hard at that math problem, looks like you got it all figured out! good job!" rather than "wow, you got the math problem right! you're so smart!". I feel like the 1st encourages more hard work, while at the same time recognizing and praising effort. </p> <p>Of course, I tell my LO he's just plain smart/funny/cute all the time too :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-esteem-without-special-snowflake-syndrome#post-1805750 Fri, 08 Aug 2014 11:07:29 +0000 Maysprout 1805750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want my daughters to have great self esteem but at the same time realize that while theyre #1 in their parents eyes they're going to have to rightfully prove themselves a little more out in the world. </p> <p>Emphasizing both aspects probably is going to grow in importance as they grow older - but anyone have any good reading or personal philosophies on balancing self esteem with - I'm not sure if it's humility or compassion or realism (some combo of all that)? </p>