https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 10:57:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1488297 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 06:52:08 +0000 oliviaoblivia 1488297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't let LO fuss much at all when she was a newborn. She was a very easy baby and Never cried, if she was fussy it was because something was wrong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1488255 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 06:17:31 +0000 Tidybee 1488255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: same for us!<br /> I read bringing up bebe that discussed this and how important if was right from the start so we always waited 30 seconds before going to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1488254 Wed, 12 Mar 2014 06:13:52 +0000 Adira 1488254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: I had not read that book, but based on your description, I think I ended up doing that too! I'm curious if that's the reason our babies are so easy going or if they are just naturally that way which led to that method working out for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487947 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:54:54 +0000 heffalump 1487947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the middle of the night I'll let her go until she has a real cry. She starts out by making noises, and that either turns into a cry or she'll go back to sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487920 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:43:09 +0000 Penny Lane 1487920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>with my first LO, he didn't put himself to sleep alone until 18 months. I nursed/held him til he was asleep until then. </p> <p>with my second, I've been let him fuss almost to crying before picking him up just about every time. he's a much better sleeper than his big brother was at this age, for sure. not sure if that's just his temperament or what though :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487903 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:37:22 +0000 swedishfish 1487903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: have you ever heard of the book Bringing Up Bebe? I read it a few months ago. The author wanted to know why French babies STTN so early compared to many American babies. French parents tend to pause and wait before picking up their babies to soothe them. Babies need to learn to connect their sleep cycles before a certain age or they will need you to soothe them back to sleep constantly. I ended up using the "French" way with R without even knowing it. I do think it helps that she's a fairly easygoing baby as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487851 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:22:23 +0000 Adira 1487851@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: Same!</p> <p>And I don't know if that's why or not, but Xander has always been able to self soothe. I'm guessing he's just an easy baby though and not that anything we did taught him to self soothe early on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487834 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:14:09 +0000 MrsRoo 1487834@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sure exactly when, but it was after 6 months. I can't stand hearing her cry and neither can DH. It wasn't on purpose though. One day I was too tired to get right up in the MOTN to get her and after about a minute, she went right back to sleep. So ever since then we let her fuss for a little bit before running in. I actually notice now that running in there too soon distracts her and keeps her up way longer than just letting her fuss for a minute or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487831 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:12:50 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1487831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: me too. I almost always let her fuss until she cries. Now that's she's older (6 months) it helps when I set her down to play when she would rather be held. She will fuss for a minute or two &amp; then will play happily. As far as sleep goes, she still needs me to help her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487823 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:09:13 +0000 Ocean girl 1487823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably around 3 months. And only during the night - she can never put herself back to sleep if she wakes up during a nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487820 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:08:05 +0000 sandy 1487820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Around 8-10 weeks </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487817 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 20:07:23 +0000 cyan 1487817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think mine was between 6-7 months, sadly. It was almost like it just didn't even occur to her to DO anything to help herself... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487743 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:38:45 +0000 ShootingStar 1487743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much all fussing I've always let go to full on crying. I don't let it escalate to hysterical though. Not sure if it's helped much with self soothing or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487742 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:38:29 +0000 swedishfish 1487742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The day we came home from the hospital...haha. I always gave it a few minutes before picking her up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/self-soothing-1#post-1487736 Tue, 11 Mar 2014 19:36:04 +0000 MrsH 1487736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When did you start letting LO fuss/self-sooth to sleep? As a FTM I almost always jump up at the first squeak but wondering if I should let her fuss for a couple of minutes so she starts to learn to self-sooth. </p>