https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 12:12:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1065614 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 17:12:08 +0000 shopaholic 1065614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: @mrs.cookie: Thankfully today has not been like yesterday. Maybe yesterday was one of those peaks? She DID wake up at 1am though, and that was really abnormal! I did take her to the bathroom with me yesterday. We do play peek-a-boo quite a bit, but I will try to amp it up. As or Wonder Week - it's a Wonder Month according to the chart. Hope this phase goes by quickly!</p> <p> @junebugmama: Oh man! That sounds rough! DH has been able to put her to sleep by himself before, so I hope that doesn't change. </p> <p>@sheskrafty: @Corduroy: The funny thing is that we JUST got back home from a family wedding/trip. All 3 days, she was perfectly fine and happy - held by everyone. It was such a nice change for me to eat, dance, celebrate, because we had so many babysitters! I REALLY hope she doesn't get stranger anxiety. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1064166 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 09:02:29 +0000 Corduroy 1064166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I WOH but I think my LO is going through the same thing. She must be attached to me at all times lately. If DH wants time with her I have to leave. She won't even let him hold her when around. Big hugs to you, riding this one out as a SAHM must be exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063935 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 07:19:17 +0000 sheskrafty 1063935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is very interesting. DD has been having a hard time at daycare lately - apparently crying all day long. I was attributing it to teething but I wonder if its separation anxiety since she is totally fine around DH and I or when someone is holding her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063922 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 07:04:10 +0000 junebugmama 1063922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM. Jax started with his separation anxiety around 8 months. It's miserable, and I say it's because it is still continuing for the most part. He will freak out if I try to leave a room, even if DH or his brother is in it. There's crying fits, tantrums, etc and he's 15 months. It's quite frustrating and makes peaceful parenting very difficult. </p> <p>He has however, improved with being babysat with a few individuals, and will even take naps at their houses (which he used to just scream), and now DH can put him to bed at night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063907 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:53:20 +0000 heffalump 1063907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM and my LO never really had separation anxiety. She's had stranger anxiety.... but she doesn't have an issue with me leaving her as long as she's comfortable in her environment. So no advice, but just wanted to chime in and say I don't think it's because you SAH. I think different babies just goes through different stages. Just like I don't think my LO has stranger anxiety because she's always with mainly me. I think it's just her personality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063882 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:27:31 +0000 looch 1063882@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son had separation anxiety hard around 11 months. I was at home with him and all of a sudden, he would scream bloody murder when I tried to leave him with his sitter, who had been coming weekly since he was 4 months old. Lasted about 4 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063868 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:12:37 +0000 Mrs. Polish 1063868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This might be awful, but I ignore it. If I need to go to the bathroom and he cries, he's going to have to cry for a minute or so. He will see that I always come back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063864 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:10:03 +0000 hilsy85 1063864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I took l into the bathroom with me when he would get upset! It does pass though--so tough in the meantime! I d think he was/is VERy attached to me, but not sure if that's bc I sah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063835 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 04:24:35 +0000 mrs.cookie 1063835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: @shopaholic: I second what googly-eyes already said - it sounds like it is separation anxiety peaking... And there's not a lot you can do but ride out the phase. </p> <p>My LO was pretty intense in her waves of separation anxiety, which almost always coincided with a developmental leap/wonder week. She definitely developed a sense of object permanence quite early on which is usually the developmental step that makes them need you there to fall asleep, only to wake upset because you're not still there, etc. </p> <p>I did a lot of reading and the thing that kept coming up was playing hide and seek/peekaboo to mimic the separation/return which really helps develop a sense of security and learn that mommy returns. It's tough though when you need to pee to the tune of a distraught baby! Can you take her in with you and sit her on the floor? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063822 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 01:38:10 +0000 googly-eyes 1063822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think all babies experience separation anxiety, but when a baby is in daycare they always have someone there with them. Different babies experience different levels of it. My dd did/does the same as yours (eta maybe a little less intense though). It's not every single time I walk away, but, for example, I can't walk through a door and close it. It's supposed to peak several times so you're probably in one of those peaks. Honestly, if I have to walk out, I do. I always come back. We play peek a boo in different areas of the house. Lo's sleep was definitely affected, so that has probably been the hardest part of it all. We can't walk out of the room before she falls asleep and she often wakes in the MOTN and goes back to sleep in the pnp in our room. Previously she would go down in her own crib without us most nights. She has gone through months of good and bad sleep It's not that she never STTN, she does. Right now we're in an off time but even during this phase she has STTN for a month, then stopped, etc. I also set up our place so that she has free reign of the living room, from where you can see the bathroom, her room, and kitchen. (We live in an apartment.) It was so cute though when she learned to move the "wall" (playpen unfolded) that kept her in there and I went to my room briefly and all of a sudden I hear a shriek of laughter and I look up and my daughter was quickly crawling toward me, thrilled that she found me! :) During the times where she is really crying hysterically I just found ways to bring her with me most places, even if it makes smaller tasks take longer. (Eta- I figure, if she trusts that I'll come back, I'll comfort her, etc., she will get over the separation anxiety in a healthy way and be less fussy eventually...) It's hard but it goes in phases like anything else. One day we'll miss this. ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-amp-sahms#post-1063805 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 00:21:02 +0000 shopaholic 1063805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>K turns 6 months this week. Today has been unusual to say the least. Going to the bathroom, walking into the kitchen, leaving her alone in the car seat for a second while starting the engine for A/C, and waking up alone after a nap = ALL these regular occurrences have garnered full-blown crying and shaking, trembling arms and tight fists, and ginormous tears today when K couldn't see me for a short while.<br /> I thought it had to do with teething (as that started this past weekend too), but after some searching old HB threads, I think we are dealing with the beginning of the separation anxiety phase?! Seems pretty common, but most of the threads had little advice/responses beyond "baby-wearing" and talking loudly. </p> <p>If you/your LO experienced separation anxiety, I'd love to hear about it. How long did it last? What helps ease it? If you SAH, what do you do? It's impossible that I am with her every single waking minute. Restroom breaks were AWFUL today as she was wailing and flailing around for the minute or two I was gone. Her normally beloved jumperoo seemed to make her SO MAD when she couldn't see me in her line of vision at any time. </p> <p>Is it easier for WOHM's since they are already used to not seeing mom round-the-clock? </p>