https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 16 Apr 2026 17:24:35 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-377070 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 21:38:55 +0000 Rubies 377070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I went through this (and sometimes, depending on LO's mood, I still do), whoever is watching LO (my MIL, daycare, etc.) always tells me that LO will whine/cry for a few seconds or minutes and then she calms down and it's all good. I think if you were to leave your LO with your husband, she might cry but you just get on out and enjoy yourself and let your husband handle it! She'll cry for a bit but your hubby will know what to do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-376729 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 15:14:17 +0000 glimmersnaps 376729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Based on what I've seen with DS and other children of friends/relatives, I'd say don't sneak away-- especially once they are a little older like around 1 year. I see that what happens is that the baby becomes petrified that the parent has left if they have just gone into another room for a minute. It's better for them to cry for a few minutes and say goodbye than to feel like they can't trust if you are there or not.</p> <p>Separation anxiety is really normal and it's the natural way to make sure that your baby doesn't get lost from you! I know it's hard at the time, but it will be over so fast. Before you know it she will be running away to play with friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-376725 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 15:09:49 +0000 brownie 376725@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@caffeinated: I think it lasted less than a month each time. But it does keep coming back up. Most of the time, in the past, he would fuss a little but ultimately the person with him would redirect him and he would be fine. We are coming to a time where he remembers longer and he isn't as easy to redirect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-376719 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 14:58:07 +0000 Freckles 376719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sammyfab: I read somewhere that you shouldn't sneak out, but i'm saying phooey to that! It's hit and miss with DH. She can play with him fine, but will tend to get whiny after a while and is obvious about her preference. I guess the upside is that DH can now put her to bed (before he couldn't).</p> <p>@brownie: How long did it last the first time around? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-376705 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 14:40:39 +0000 Sammyfab 376705@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started suffering through this (and yes, I do consider it suffrage!) starting the day my LO turned 6 months and it's still going on 2+ months later. Thankfully he is good with me or DH but he wails when my mom or mil hold him and he can only stand to be in someone else's arms for a few seconds before he starts looking for me. I try to not give in and 'rescue' him but I hate hearing him cry around other people. It's tiring and frustrating and I hope it ends soon!</p> <p>Next time, try to sneak out when your LO is playing happily with DH. Would that work? If I try to say bye to my LO he gets sad! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-376704 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 14:37:24 +0000 brownie 376704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son went through that and has started again at 18 months. We just started preschool and he just cries. I had a baby sitter for an hour yesterday and he just cried and buried his head in my shoulder. I didn't want to leave but I knew he was safe and had everything he needed. So I did leave. I wish I could ease the transition but it won't hurt him to cry a little. </p> <p>You need your time so make sure you get some time without baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/separation-anxiety-vent#post-376690 Sat, 03 Nov 2012 14:20:03 +0000 Freckles 376690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I planned to go to yoga this afternoon, as i was desperate for some alone time. I was getting ready when out of nowhere, LO started whining/half-crying while DH was holding her. As soon as he gave her to me, she stopped. Give her back, starts to cry. Did you ever watch the Friends episode when Ben cried every time he got near Monica? That's what kept happening. </p> <p>Every time i turned around she would cry! I didnt want to leave her like this so i ended up staying. I held her for a few minutes and after a while she calmed down. All of a sudden she was back to her usual self and had lunch. DH just put her down for her nap without any problems...it took me 45 minutes of crying yesterday.</p> <p>What's up with this?? Suffice it to say, i did not go to yoga.</p> <p>LO is almost 7 months old. I feel like no matter how much i practice "hi/bye", independent play, etc. I will be suffering for a while. :( </p>