https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 10:43:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2795157 Thu, 04 Jan 2018 21:41:40 +0000 Mama Bird 2795157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My youngest was like this for her first 10 months. She was not in day care, but if anyone but me stayed with her, they couldn't really feed her, and she screamed so much. She also took up sleeping more during the day to hang out with me at night. That was fun.</p> <p>Amazingly, she took to day care like a fish to water, and doesn't cry about it nearly as much as DS did. It's like some light bulb went off and she figured out I'll be back. She's an early talker, so I got a lot of comments like "mommy why did you go? No no no, bad mommy!" and "I cried today, I wanted to hug mommy" but at least when she was able to tell me how she felt I could tell her "poor baby, let me hug you now!" and she'd feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2795154 Thu, 04 Jan 2018 21:30:09 +0000 ShootingStar 2795154@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was like this and still is to some extent at 4. Drop off was always tough, but especially so when it was different people in the classroom all the time. I’m guessing with the types of care you’re using there’s not enough consistency for her to get used to the routine and the people. </p> <p>My daughter is totally the different. She’s fine at drop off and always has been (she’s 16m). The teachers in her room were laughing the other day when I dropped her off, saying how different she is from DS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794885 Wed, 03 Jan 2018 14:40:57 +0000 justjules 2794885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: my first was nothing like this so I’m trying to figure it all out. Thanks for sharing your experience! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794647 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 16:09:55 +0000 gotkimchi 2794647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@justjules: it absolutely was and i thought it wouldn’t end There was just nothing we could do except let her outgrow it. Seemed pretty common with my friends kids too. Starting at 2.5 she was absolutely fine getting dropped off at places. At 2 she was fine staying by my parents or in laws etc. might have been a little before but 2 seemed to be a turning point in my mind </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794646 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 16:03:18 +0000 justjules 2794646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gotkimchi: two seems so far away :bummed: </p> <p>@PinkElephant: at the YMCA they call after 20min of continuous crying. She’s been going since 3months and has only been kept longer for a handful of times. She will go for at least an hour- screaming, because I left her with my mom once. Church nursery will try to keep her as long as possible. Maybe 30min? Before giving up because it’s no consoling her.</p> <p>@Dahlia: I wonder how much is shyness. The thing is, she will smile and play with anyone as long as I am there. So she doesn’t act shy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794641 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 15:53:48 +0000 Dahlia 2794641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter was like that from about 6 months until 18 or 20 months. It sucked. Since then, however, she's gotten so much better. She's still a little shy, but will actually play with her aunts and uncles and cousins! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794629 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 15:16:19 +0000 PinkElephant 2794629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@justjules: When you drop her at the YMCA or church nursery, how long are you gone? Do you go back to comfort her? Is it possible it just isn't long enough for her to settle in and realize "hey, these people aren't so bad"? </p> <p>My middle daughter (now 3.5 yrs) did this to some extent, from maybe around 9 months or so to...maybe 18 months? Maybe a little older. It took her quite awhile to calm down when we left her, and when we walked back in the room to pick her up (backup care daycare at DH's work), she'd start screaming all over again, as if she had to prove a point. When she stopped doing it, it was like a light switch, and now she's typically my easiest kid to leave, if that is any comfort.</p> <p>My 15 month old, while she's mostly ok being left, also won't allow anyone else to hold her if she sees, hears or (only kind of joking here) smells me. I think that's pretty developmentally normal, so you may have two different issues at play here. Hang in there! It's tough but they do come around eventually :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794621 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 15:03:40 +0000 gotkimchi 2794621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can only say my child got less clingy after two :silly: my sympathies </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/seperation-anxiety-or-something-else#post-2794613 Tue, 02 Jan 2018 14:35:41 +0000 justjules 2794613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is 8months and has always had some form of seperation anxiety. For most of her life, I couldn’t leave the room but at least she let other people hold her. For the past few months, no one can even hold her. DH can, but only if I am not in the room. I don’t know what to do. Between YMCA and church nursery she is dropped off at other places 4-6x a week but ALWAYS cries (screams) the entire time until they call me to come pick her up. </p> <p>I’ve read past posts on the boards and it seems like everyone else’s LO only had seperation anxiety for a phase- like a month or two. It’s been her whole life-8months of this so I don’t know if I can call it a phase ha. Maybe this is just her personality? Does anyone else have (or had) a child like this? How can I help her? </p>