https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 00:18:45 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh/page/2#post-1913896 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 22:08:01 +0000 Jess1483 1913896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaPhoenix: I would say that my "immediate family" includes my DH, DS, parents, and siblings. Not my in-laws or anything else. However, I would say that my parents are DS's "extended" family, not his immediate family, so I guess it's generational to me? So DS's immediately family is/will be DH and myself, any siblings he has, and his spouse and/or offspring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh/page/2#post-1913835 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 21:19:01 +0000 blackbird 1913835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>immediate family is "us", the nuclear family...me, DH, our kids. But it also typically means our parents and siblings. </p> <p>Extended is aunts, uncles, gparents, cousins.....anyone more than one tree branch away </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913741 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 20:30:12 +0000 Tanjowen 1913741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just told someone today that there are 5 birthdays in my immediate family - in my mind that means our parents and siblings and their children. Extended to us is everyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913730 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 20:25:00 +0000 artsyfartsy 1913730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's work allows him time offin the case of death in an immediate family member. They define that as spouse, children, parents, and grandparents, including spouses parents and grandparents. So that's what I think is immediate. </p> <p>Extended is aunts, cousins, uncles, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913407 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:21:40 +0000 lilyofthewest 1913407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a medical context (to identify risk factors) immediate family typically means your biological parents, siblings and children. Anyone/everyone else is extended family or family by marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913406 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:21:01 +0000 sorrycharlie 1913406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I couldn't really vote, because my immediate family includes my husband and children, as well as my parents and siblings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913401 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 17:18:26 +0000 birdofafeather 1913401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My immediate is me, DH, DD, my parents, my siblings. DH's includes his parents and siblings instead. DD's immediate family is me and DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913345 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 16:39:25 +0000 mrsjazz 1913345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediate family: DH, LO, my parents, my siblings. DH would say the same (his parents, his sibling). </p> <p>I don't know where I'd stick my grandparents. They are kind of immediate and not quite extended, somewhere in between.</p> <p>Extended family: aunts, uncles, cousins. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913339 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 16:36:25 +0000 Vegmama 1913339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Us, our kids, our siblings and parents are our immediate family. </p> <p>Grandparents, aunts, etc. are extended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913333 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 16:30:07 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1913333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.KMM: this is what I consider to be true.</p> <p>In our bereavement policy at work.I believe they consider parents, siblings, and grandparents as immediate family. I believe aunts and uncles are extended (as well as cousins etc). Of course spouse and children are immediate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913211 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:28:35 +0000 Greentea 1913211@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends from what/ whom the viewpoint stands:</p> <p>My dad just passed and I was his immediate family (myself and my siblings/his kids, -he was divorced- were his immediate family).</p> <p>My immediate family is DH and LO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913174 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:10:25 +0000 LemonLong 1913174@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My company defines immediate family as spouse, siblings, children, grandparents in their bereavement policy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913172 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:09:35 +0000 MamaPhoenix 1913172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. tictactoe: This!!!! is how i'm trying to explain it to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913171 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:09:31 +0000 dolphin 1913171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediate: DH, LO, my parents and my siblings, his parents and his siblings. </p> <p>Extended: Aunts, uncles, cousins </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913167 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:08:43 +0000 PawPrints 1913167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: @MamaPhoenix: This is what I was going to say. It changes when you get married and have LOs. For most of my life, my parents and my sister were my immediate family. Now, DH and future LO are my immediate family, and our parents/in-laws/siblings have become extended family.</p> <p>My grandparents + aunts/uncles + cousins have always been and continue to be extended family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913166 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:08:36 +0000 loveisstrange 1913166@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediate- spouse, kids, parents, grandparents, siblings</p> <p>Extended- aunts, uncles, cousins, etc </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913162 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:07:47 +0000 catomd00 1913162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good question! </p> <p>I guess I would say our immediate family is Me, DH, DD, our parents and siblings (and by default, their spouses and children). Grandparents maybe? They're more like immediate and a half. lol. Extended family is aunts/uncles/cousins and beyond. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913161 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:07:36 +0000 youboots 1913161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just keep in mind that the definition of your immediate family is different than your parents, just like your child's are differnt than yours.</p> <p>To me immediate is one degree of separation, parents, siblings (and their families under the same roof), spouse and children. Grandparents could be included in this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913150 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:03:57 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 1913150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our immediate family (or I guess Liam's) is those who live in our house.</p> <p>My immediate family is my parents and brother. His immediate family is his parents and sister.</p> <p>I guess I think about it in two ways! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913146 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:02:04 +0000 MamaPhoenix 1913146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: This is how I was taught. Once you move out and get married have kids etc they become your immediate family and everyone else is extended. It's very interesting to see how different everyone's views are. This just might not be one of those right/wrong answers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913144 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 15:00:05 +0000 raspberries 1913144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I count parents and my/DH's siblings as immediate family - then aunts/uncles/cousins as extended family </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913143 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:59:51 +0000 Meowkers 1913143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My immediate family is my husband, LO (once she's born), our pets, my parents, brother and my grandparents.</p> <p>Extended family: aunts, uncles, cousins of various levels and my in laws. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913142 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:59:17 +0000 MamaPhoenix 1913142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePumps: Great definition!<br /> @yoursilverlining: I totally get that. Its just gets confusing sometimes. Like when the insurance company only covers your immediate family. Being DH and Lo's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913141 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:58:19 +0000 MaryM 1913141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If immediate family is everyone living under the same roof, do you suddenly become extended when you move out of your parents house? I don't think so. </p> <p>I consider it to be anyone with a direct relationship. so parents, children, siblings. My aunt isn't my immediate family, but she is my mom's.</p> <p>I voted for the second one, but I disagree. My nieces and nephews aren't immediate family. just my siblings and mom are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913135 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:55:46 +0000 pui 1913135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediate family counts our siblings and parents.</p> <p>My mom and sister are "directly" related (immediate) while an aunt or cousin is only related to me through another family member (extended). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913131 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:54:32 +0000 wonderstruck 1913131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How I view it is that my immediate family changed when I got married; it went from being my parents and siblings to being my DH and children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913125 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:51:55 +0000 yoursilverlining 1913125@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I consider "immediate family" to have 2 levels, depending on what the question is about my immediate family. Sometimes that will just mean me, DH and LO and sometimes that will mean our parents and siblings.</p> <p>I always think of aunts/uncles and cousins as extended family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913076 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:35:46 +0000 Bao 1913076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We consider our immediate family: DH, myself, the LO's, my parents, his parents, his brother and his daughter, my brother, my SIL and their two kids, plus my sister, BIL and their 3 kids. </p> <p>At first I was thinking just my family of four plus my siblings and parents, but then I thought about it more. Grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins are extended family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913070 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:34:20 +0000 PurplePumps 1913070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediate - parents/grandparents/brothers/sisters/LOs everyone directly above or below me on the tree. Extended - anyone that you have to make a lateral move to get to (except siblings). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-argument-im-having-with-dh#post-1913067 Thu, 23 Oct 2014 14:32:09 +0000 Grace 1913067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think that family that has ever lived with me is immediate family. So my parents, sisters, my husband and my LO. My grandparents, uncles, aunts and cousins and inlaws are extended family. And I think this would change for DH and LO. For LO, her immediate family is probably just me and DH. </p>