https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 09 Jun 2026 07:36:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-796184 Mon, 20 May 2013 15:40:10 +0000 2PeasinaPod 796184@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This one was way rude and too personal. My weight is none of anyone's concern but my own. I was super sensitive about my weight during pregnancy too since my mom insisted that I would not only end up like her and gain a ton of weight with each pregnancy, but that I wouldn't be able to lose it either. I was determined to prove her wrong by being as healthy as I could be. So I was definitely very sensitive to the weight comments. That's one thing people need to lay off of! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-796176 Mon, 20 May 2013 15:36:42 +0000 birdofafeather 796176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>rude. i had questions like that, but i didn't really care. it would be those follow up questions/statements that would push me over the edge though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795549 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:40:56 +0000 mrs. tictactoe 795549@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband's grandmother asked me how much I weighed when I was about 6 months. She was actually complimenting me on how good I looked and that it didn't look like I had gained much, but I told her I wasn't telling anyone my weight! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795528 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:37:28 +0000 Foodnerd81 795528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally rude. If a close friend, who I knew wanted to have a baby soon, asked, I'd be OK with it (kind of like asking how much wedding stuff costs when you are about to plan a wedding) but even then, when you gave an honest answer about having a hard time about it and not wanting to know-- she should have backed off and just said you look great and you shouldn't worry. And having a plan afterwards?? Who says that? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795465 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:14:43 +0000 rachiecakes 795465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: um, I think that's kind of f'ed up. pressing on and telling you you need to know so you can plan accordingly to work it off? no and no. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795434 Mon, 20 May 2013 12:07:38 +0000 knittylady 795434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, the way she pressed on is gross. Especially asking about the plan for working the weight off. That would get to me a lot. Ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795331 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:33:41 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 795331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first thought was she just wanted to make chit chat, but the way she pressed on made me think she either has no filter and doesn't remember how it feels to be pregnant and gaining weight, or she's just rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795311 Mon, 20 May 2013 11:29:05 +0000 purrpletulips 795311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude if a stranger, in polite if it is someone you know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795022 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:58:37 +0000 littlek 795022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: Rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-795009 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:54:28 +0000 Sophia 795009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's rude. This type of questioning would typically make my face get red and hot! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794922 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:17:00 +0000 pl0508 794922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it depends on the person but 9 times out of 10 I would consider this to be rude </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794899 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:11:16 +0000 blackbird 794899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! Although I don't mind when friends ask. It's when random people ask-not ok </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794892 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:10:24 +0000 Mrsbells 794892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794885 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:08:14 +0000 Turd Ferguson 794885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally weird... I'd be pissed. My answer would be along the lines of, "It's none of your business..." Hahaha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794867 Mon, 20 May 2013 09:04:04 +0000 Dandelion 794867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! Unfortunately normal, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794805 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:45:13 +0000 MrsKoala 794805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely rude from a stranger and I don't like her justification for asking you. I've asked my friends about weight gain before but it was purely to find out what I'm in for someday and it was definitely not to imply that they had gained to much or would have to work really hard to burn it off after baby.</p> <p>ETA: Talking about weight in my social circle is not taboo. We share a lot. I would never ask a stranger. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794775 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:32:53 +0000 Pirouette 794775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude Rude Rude! I'm sorry, but what is it about being pregnant that makes people think every question is fair game? I would never ask someone how much weight they'd gained, pregnant or not, and given how most people have at least some concern about how they are going to get their bodies back, i feel it should be completely off limits to ask someone how they feel about it or what they are going to do about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794763 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:25:38 +0000 regberadaisy 794763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: er. I think the way she pressed on about it IS rude. But generally speaking I had no issues with people asking me how much weight I gained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794758 Mon, 20 May 2013 08:23:13 +0000 loveisstrange 794758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: I saw an American doctor on our base here for 2/3rds of my pregnancy and they were NUTS about my weight. I told them not to tell me because I didn't want to know. I switched over to an NHS hospital in my 3rd trimester and, nope, they don't weigh you at all. I didn't even SEE a scale. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794702 Mon, 20 May 2013 07:52:38 +0000 Alivoo01 794702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude since it's a stranger. Even if family asked it's still a touchy subject. Hello! Women + weight questions is always a touchy subject, preggo or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794646 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:58:47 +0000 lomom 794646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude. Regardless of intent, I don't think it is ever okay to ask anyone their weight or if they've gained weight, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794636 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:50:37 +0000 Boheme 794636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She had her high school age children with her, so I cant chalk it up to her wanting to file the info away for future reference. She is one of those people who obviously works out all the time though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794635 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:49:57 +0000 Espion 794635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@zippylef: They don't weigh you at all? That's awesome. They throw down the scale like the gauntlet before you get to see the OB here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794633 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:48:44 +0000 Espion 794633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would agree that the initial question seems "small-talkish", but pressing the issue? Definitely rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794603 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:17:24 +0000 edelweiss 794603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the initial question may not bother me much depending on how it's asked--i had some people ask in a genuinely "just curious" and nice way. but given her follow-up questions and comments, this is definitely rude. maybe she is thinking about getting pregnant and/or was pregnant and is very preoccupied with weight issues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794595 Mon, 20 May 2013 06:02:43 +0000 mrs. 64 794595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794581 Mon, 20 May 2013 04:27:20 +0000 loveisstrange 794581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! I hated when people asked me. It's none of their damn business! It's even more rude considering she badgered you about it after you said you didn't know.</p> <p>And as an FYI, they don't weigh you at all here in the UK so you dont "need" to know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794578 Mon, 20 May 2013 04:21:02 +0000 SugarplumsMom 794578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rude! I also think that woman is a little crazy to ask and pry like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794573 Mon, 20 May 2013 04:08:51 +0000 illumina 794573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's rude. There are a few people I have offered the information about my weight gain so far to and the responses were along the lines of "wow, that's more than I have ever weighed!!" and I'm sat there thinking "you've never been pregnant!!!" but just smile and ignore it. People are stupid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/settle-this-for-me#post-794571 Mon, 20 May 2013 03:57:15 +0000 Cherrybee 794571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's pretty rude. I can forgive her the first question, maybe, but after seeing how clearly sensitive you are about it (when you said you didn't dare look at the scale) she should have said "well you look fantastic and it's bound to just fall off you afterwards" and leave it at that. </p> <p>I have a work colleague (who I'm not close to) who comments on my weight gain every time she sees me - she even asked me if my doctor was worried about it!! Once she told me I'd gained a lot in my face!! Erm, thanks! Back in your box, woman! </p>